Usually hate speech is pretty direct. A good example is the Web address for the Westboro Baptist Church. But sometimes hate speech isn't direct at all. It may even be a little bit involved. Consider, for example, how anti-LGBTQ organizations use the word "family."
I consider following up with the words Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. famously used, "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice." But I suspect K-Bird's too young to understand that. Then again, maybe he isn't.
For Cathy and Catriona and their three children, everything is at stake. If the Supreme Court strikes down DOMA, Cathy could immediately receive approval of her green card application. If the law is upheld, she will be forced to move thousands of miles away from her spouse and children.
Many opponents of same-sex marriage argue that children are harmed by being raised by lesbians or gay men. Not only do the data clearly refute this claim, but if those making the argument genuinely believed it, why would they endorse adoption by these parents they consider harmful?
Just as those who came before our daughter Sadie fought to make the world a better place for her, our pledge to Sadie is that we will teach her, through our words and our deeds, that she too has a responsibility to those who come after her.
Any Supreme Court victory for backers of Prop 8 and DOMA will be a Pyrrhic one. One by one, their arguments have been exposed as falsehoods and have no power as American society moves toward full acceptance of LGBT rights. Their arsenal is empty.
Many have said how great it is that I wrote the song for my son, and how special it will be for him when he's older. But if I'm totally honest, I wrote it just as much -- if not more -- for me. I wrote it to convince myself that I am worthy of being equal, of being respected, of being a parent.
When my daughters visit, they deposit little pieces of themselves all over our apartment: bras on the back of the bathroom door, empty glasses in the sink, and pretzels on the floor. When they leave, things go missing, like my heart.
Two toddlers anxious to hop in their parents' bed. Two parents trying not to start the day any earlier than necessary. It's a struggle repeated every day across the country, except that the two parents in question are both men, the babies born via an egg donor and surrogate mother.
There's something about Pride that never fully resonated with me, but now that I'm in a certain place in my life and a father, my pride is much subtler, but much more powerful than I ever could have expected.
Being a parent who is LGBT has pushed all my identities out of the closet. If I want my kids to be proud of their family -- two dads, one Catholic, one Jewish, both gay -- then I realized I had to rid myself of any shame or embarrassment I felt about my own family.
I cannot tell you how many times in any given week I end up stuck between a grownup concept and a kid who wants an explanation that he can understand. How do you explain the difference between family love and romantic love to a kindergartener?
While we have welcomed the law on marriage for same-sex couples, we were chastened by the huge turnout in France against marriage equality, and puzzled and saddened at how extending equal rights could motivate people to take to the streets against families like ours.
Many of the states with the highest percentages of same-sex couples raising children are those with the most anti-gay laws. Thus, lesbian and gay parents living in these areas encounter legal obstacles in building and protecting their families, which contributes to a sense of legal vulnerability.
Blogging for LGBT Families Day sits almost exactly between Mother's Day and Father's Day, honoring both parenting titles but recognizing that not all families fit neatly into those two observances. There's a big spectrum out there.
As gay parents, if we were expecting to run into some sort of epic struggle against discrimination and prejudice, we found nothing of the sort. For the most part, other parents are too busy trying to cope with the same basic problems that you are to argue about differences of family structure.