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Gay Son

"I Cannot Have Anything to Do With a Gay Son. Please Don't Contact Me Anymore."

Nathan Manske | Posted 05.19.2016 | Queer Voices
Nathan Manske

"That's what I ate, slept and breathed, and that's what kept me alive. Rehearsal and theater and acting and writing poetry, and I look back on all that now, I'm thankful that I didn't give up because I have so much to offer."

An Open Letter to My Future Parents In-Law Who Won't Attend Our Wedding

James Y. | Posted 08.18.2016 | Queer Voices
James Y.

I learned that being gay is an inborn trait no different than height and hair color. After all, if it weren't, don't you think centuries of fervent efforts to rid humanity of it would have shown at least some modicum of success? Yet here we are.

Why This Mom Had To Say 'Not All Mommies Love Their Babies The Way I Love You'

Amelia | Posted 07.11.2016 | Queer Voices

"Some parents get sad and angry when their kids are gay. They have a really hard time with it." "Yeah," he said, "but why is it hard?" I struggled. "Not all mommies love their babies the way I love you."

Bully My Gay Son at Your Own Risk

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

We all know how this script is supposed to go: Gay kid gets teased and bullied. Gay kid feels demeaned and ashamed. Gay kid maybe gets beaten up. Gay kid runs off to lick his wounds and feel horrible about himself. Gay kid feels alone. But not this time. This time the gay kid, my gay kid, fought back. And the bully ran away.

No, My 10-Year-Old Son Isn't Looking for a Girlfriend. He Likes Boys.

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Sure, by the numbers, assuming people are straight is a safe bet. Most people are. But assumptions are dangerous. This particular assumption implies to my son that there is something wrong him for being other than straight. And there's not. He should be exactly who he is.

Pat Robertson Suggests Teen Is Having Gay Crushes Because He's Being Raised By A Single Mom

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

A lack of "male companions" could be causing a woman's teenage stepson to have crushes on other boys, at least according to Pat Robertson. The U.S...

Two Men Kissing in Front of My Kid? Awesome!

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

My son needs to see kisses like this one, kisses of celebration between two men in love. There are too few of them in front of his eyes, and he needs to be able to see more. He needs to be able to see that his future will one day include kisses between him and a boy he likes, and one day a boy he loves.

Discovering and Outgrowing My Mother's Shoes

Michael Rohrer | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Michael Rohrer

Sometimes I did try wearing my mom's skirts or dresses, but getting them off quickly when I heard the car pull into the driveway proved less than advantageous.

Sunrise, Sunset: A Son Rises

Judy Bolton-Fasman | Posted 04.05.2014 | Parents
Judy Bolton-Fasman

Once I knew everything about my children from their sleep habits to their favorite foods. Now I stand on the periphery watching them change and grapple with adulthood.

WATCH: Iyanla's Advice For Father Struggling To Accept Gay Son

OWN | Posted 08.27.2013 | OWN

Parents Traci and Andre called life coach Iyanla Vanzant for help because they feel their two children -- 24-year-old Jovan and 20-year-old Jazmin -- ...

Just Because He Breathes: Learning to Truly Love Our Gay Son

Linda Robertson | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Linda Robertson

We told our son that he had to choose between Jesus and his sexuality. Choosing God, practically, meant living a lifetime condemned to being alone. So, just before his 18th birthday, Ryan, depressed, suicidal and disillusioned, made a new choice.

When My Son Met His 'Boyfriend,' Darren Criss (PHOTO)

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

What could I say to this young man who meant so much to my kid, this young man who, by playing a television character, had helped lead my son to tell me about his orientation and, by extension, helped change the trajectory of my own life toward activism?

A Father's Unexpected Response To His Gay Son's Coming Out

Levi A. Miles | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Levi A. Miles

When my dad left to pick up some dinner, my mom, whom I've been out to for almost two years, said, "Your father saw your Facebook status when I left my Facebook up. The cat's out of the bag." You see, I hadn't told him.

To Move Or Not To Move?

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

As our children grow, we look around and wonder, "Is this the right place for us to be? Is this where we want our children to grow up? What is the environment we've chosen teaching them?" These questions were heightened after our oldest son started identifying as gay at a young age.

If My Gay Son Realizes He's Really My Straight Son, So What?

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

If our son realizes at a later date that he isn't gay, I won't be embarrassed. No matter who he is, we want him to know that we love him. And whom he loves and is attracted to doesn't change a thing. If anything, we are setting an example to all our kids that our love really is unconditional.

Raising A Gay Son Is The Same As Raising A Straight Son, Except When It's Not

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Yes, at times it is different. At times it is hard, emotional and challenging. It's not something people are used to seeing, which can make them uncomfortable, so it requires extra work of me as a parent. But that doesn't mean it's bad. And he's worth it. All my kids are.

Some Parents Might Not Want A Gay Kid, But I Do

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

On Dec. 10 a conservative politician in the UK commented, "I think most parents would prefer their children not to be gay." As the mom of an openly gay son, that comment pisses me off, but it doesn't surprise me. It's something I have heard many times before.

I Am Voting For My Son's President

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

I want for my son what all mothers want. I want him to grow up into a happy, healthy adult. I want him to find a career where he can thrive. I want him to find someone awesome to love who loves him right back. But all those things will be in jeopardy if Mitt Romney becomes president.

Conversations I Don't Want To Have With My Son

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

I think every parent has those discussions they don't want to have with their children. But now that my oldest son, at 7 years old, identifies as gay, I find myself facing a whole new set of things I just don't want to say to him.

Loving, Yes. But Brave?

Jess Wilson | Posted 11.06.2012 | Parents
Jess Wilson

As much as I, too, applaud John for writing the letter, and as much as I found it pitch-perfect in its tenor and its content, I just couldn't swallow 'brave.'

It's Been An Amazing Year... Thank You!

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

I will always remember Aug. 16, 2011, because it's a day that truly changed my life. It was the day I wrote up a cute little story about my oldest son and his crush on Glee's Blaine and naïvely posted it to a blog.

A Letter To My Hypothetically Gay Son

John Kinnear | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
John Kinnear

My son is living in his mom's belly right now, so obviously we don't know his sexual orientation. Still, the letter I read Tuesday morning made me wonder what my letter would say if the news that my son was gay ended up being a surprise. So here it is.

Our First Pride As Parents Of A Young Gay Son

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

We laughed at our presumption that our son would have some big moment during this first Pride after telling us he was gay. We realized the day was exactly the way it should have been. It was a fun, family day. It wasn't a revelation-worthy day for our son, because it was just his life.

A Not-So-Proud Moment For Mom

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

My son is who he is, and I have never wanted him to be anyone else. I am proud of him, and try I encourage him to be himself and empower him, but here I was, just a few feet away, willing him to hold part of himself back. The shame came over me instantly.

The Father I Want To Be

Dave | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Is there any harm in raising kids who treat gay people with respect? If our son turns out to be straight, there is still a very good chance he will have a gay classmate or a young gay neighbor. Do we want him to ridicule this child or sit by and watch others do it?