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Bully My Gay Son at Your Own Risk

Amelia | Posted 04.06.2015 | Gay Voices

We all know how this script is supposed to go: Gay kid gets teased and bullied. Gay kid feels demeaned and ashamed. Gay kid maybe gets beaten up. Gay kid runs off to lick his wounds and feel horrible about himself. Gay kid feels alone. But not this time. This time the gay kid, my gay kid, fought back. And the bully ran away.

A Dad Dropped His Son Off on a Date and It Restored My Faith in Humanity

Benjamin O'Keefe | Posted 03.07.2015 | Gay Voices
Benjamin O'Keefe

I held it together in public, but I really wanted to cry at the beautiful moment I had just witnessed. But then it hit me; I had just judged someone. I had assumed that because this man fit a certain stereotype that he was instantly against equality, and there was no way that he could possibly approve of his son's sexuality.

No, My 10-Year-Old Son Isn't Looking for a Girlfriend. He Likes Boys.

Amelia | Posted 02.13.2015 | Gay Voices

Sure, by the numbers, assuming people are straight is a safe bet. Most people are. But assumptions are dangerous. This particular assumption implies to my son that there is something wrong him for being other than straight. And there's not. He should be exactly who he is.

Liberal, Well-Meaning Mom Blows It When Her Son Comes Out -- But Then She Feels Blessed

Susan Oren | Posted 12.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Susan Oren

Here was the ultimate mom test. Was I the real deal? At this crucial moment, probably the most important one of my life, my mind had shut down, and I'd lost my voice. I'd expected to perform much better. This had been a D-minus at best.

Pat Robertson Suggests Teen Is Having Gay Crushes Because He's Being Raised By A Single Mom

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 08.26.2014 | Gay Voices

A lack of "male companions" could be causing a woman's teenage stepson to have crushes on other boys, at least according to Pat Robertson. The U.S...

Nobody Gets to Tell My Sons What It Means to Be a Man

Amelia | Posted 07.09.2014 | Gay Voices

I think my husband is doing a great job of teaching them what it means to be a man. My sons learn from him that men are strong, smart, silly and creative. But what am I teaching our sons about what it means to be a woman? My sons learn from me that women are strong, smart, silly and creative.

Mothers and Sons, Literally

Ruthie Pincus | Posted 07.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Ruthie Pincus

Ours is a theater family. I have two sons currently studying theater in college, and as often as we can, we find our way to the theater. It was therefore no surprise that this mother would find herself in the audience of Terrence McNally's Mothers and Sons, sitting between her gay twin sons.

How My Son Told Me He Was Gay

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 05.24.2014 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

A conversation with your gay teen does not end after an acceptance of their sexual choices. They, too, need help getting out of complicated relationships and negotiating all of the tricky aspects of relationships.

A Mother at Mothers and Sons

Tovah Feldshuh | Posted 05.06.2014 | Gay Voices
Tovah Feldshuh

Mothers and Sons, refreshingly imagines a world that the backyard barbecue guests of my childhood could probably never have imagined

On Being a Disinherited Gay Son

Christopher Murray | Posted 03.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Christopher Murray

With all the complexities of families, of me, of good decisions and poor ones, of other crises and conflicts, how much does the story of my father and me and its missing jigsaw pieces have to do with my being a gay man? I've come to believe quite a lot, actually.

'Hey, Mom, I'm Gay'

Dayna Steele | Posted 03.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Dayna Steele

"I'm gay," my 16-year-old son blurted out. Actually, he texted it following a teenage tantrum about something totally unrelated to sexual orientation.

Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

Amelia | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices

Part of me gets it. Kids go through phases when it comes to what they like. But the Darren Criss thing? That one hasn't gone anywhere. And I get how unusual it is to see such a young child identifying as gay. But another part of me gets really tired of having this conversation.

When Your 7-Year-Old Son Says, 'I Want to Be Gay'

Amelia | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices

My middle son was tired, so he was nestled against my chest as I floated on my back. "Mom," he said, breaking the silence, "I want to be gay." This was unexpected. My middle son had never had boy crushes like my older kid, and last year he wanted to marry a female classmate.

What Happened When My Son Came Out... as Straight

Lori Duron | Posted 11.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Lori Duron

By trying to eliminate the need for a gay son to come out, I created an environment where a straight son felt the need to come out. As I try to learn from my mother's mistakes, I may be making some new ones of my own. I guess that's how it goes with parenting.

Get Your Assumptions Off My Kid

Amelia | Posted 10.19.2013 | Gay Voices

While the stylist was working on my son's hair, she started talking about what a lady killer he must be and how he must be fighting off the girls with a stick, etc. I knew she was still trying to be complimentary, but my son is gay and has self-identified that way for almost two years.

Mourning the Dad Who Died Before He Could Accept His Gay Son

Ryan Buxton | Posted 10.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Ryan Buxton

I always assumed the years of hiding my truth from my dad didn't matter, that once I came out to him we'd have all the time in the world to reconcile our opposing viewpoints. Instead, closure was another thing we didn't get to share.

When the Same-Sex Couple in the Family Are the Kids, Not the Parents

Rob Watson | Posted 08.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Rob Watson

My partner Jim and I are in the process of adopting my 86- and 88-year-old parents. In our family, while being parents to my sons, we are also "the kids."

My Dad and His Gay Son

Malcolm Boyd | Posted 08.26.2013 | Religion
Malcolm Boyd

"Your mother and I are separating," he said. "That means we won't be living together anymore. Do you want to live with your mother or me?" Now I can see that my heart simply broke in that moment.

When My Son Met His 'Boyfriend,' Darren Criss (PHOTO)

Amelia | Posted 08.12.2013 | Gay Voices

What could I say to this young man who meant so much to my kid, this young man who, by playing a television character, had helped lead my son to tell me about his orientation and, by extension, helped change the trajectory of my own life toward activism?

Coming Out As Amelia

Amelia | Posted 06.27.2013 | Gay Voices

Complete anonymity is getting in the way of what my blog posts are all about: reaching out to people and being damn proud of my kid. I'd like the opportunity to speak to more parents about celebrating our LGBT kids and meet more of our fabulous LGBT youth. So I've arrived at a compromise.

A Father's Unexpected Response To His Gay Son's Coming Out

Levi A. Miles | Posted 06.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Levi A. Miles

When my dad left to pick up some dinner, my mom, whom I've been out to for almost two years, said, "Your father saw your Facebook status when I left my Facebook up. The cat's out of the bag." You see, I hadn't told him.

To Move Or Not To Move?

Amelia | Posted 04.21.2013 | Gay Voices

As our children grow, we look around and wonder, "Is this the right place for us to be? Is this where we want our children to grow up? What is the environment we've chosen teaching them?" These questions were heightened after our oldest son started identifying as gay at a young age.

If My Gay Son Realizes He's Really My Straight Son, So What?

Amelia | Posted 04.08.2013 | Gay Voices

If our son realizes at a later date that he isn't gay, I won't be embarrassed. No matter who he is, we want him to know that we love him. And whom he loves and is attracted to doesn't change a thing. If anything, we are setting an example to all our kids that our love really is unconditional.

A New Coming-Out Story

Amelia | Posted 03.26.2013 | Gay Voices

My son never lived in the proverbial closet. He's never thought of himself any other way or pretended that he did. So what do I think he was coming out of? His narrative is so different from the ones that came before that I don't even have the terminology to talk about it appropriately.

Raising A Gay Son Is The Same As Raising A Straight Son, Except When It's Not

Amelia | Posted 03.11.2013 | Gay Voices

Yes, at times it is different. At times it is hard, emotional and challenging. It's not something people are used to seeing, which can make them uncomfortable, so it requires extra work of me as a parent. But that doesn't mean it's bad. And he's worth it. All my kids are.