Coming out isn't just healthy, necessary and liberating for gay people; everyone else benefits as well. Lies are destructive, not only to the person telling them but to everyone else who becomes collateral damage.
I don't want to ignore or cover up the issue, but I also don't want the outpouring of love and support for these victims to inspire any other impressionable gay youth in the wrong way. I don't want any more fallen angels.
There are a lot of people working hard and spending a lot of money to make religion a hazard to LGBT people. Many other people of faith may deeply disagree with that treatment. However, when people of faith stand idly by, faith will continue to be a more of a hazard than a benefit.
I will celebrate my 48th birthday this week. Although I am undeniably middle-aged now, I feel as if I have lived two lifetimes. The number 48 is significant to me because I have lived twice as many years as my first boyfriend, who committed suicide when he was 24 years old.
If your kid is going to come out to you, it should happen in his or her own time, and in his or her own way. Then say what you would want to hear, 'I love you.' Not 'I love you anyway,' but 'I love you.'
I am calling for the formation of groups of "Rainbow Berets" within schools. These would be concerned peer groups that would stand up to the circumstances that inspire bullying. They would be visible in their schools and would serve as safe confidants.
I'm not writing from the perspective of a dad. I'm writing from the perspective of having lived in my own personal hell as an early teen -- one of which no one was aware, but from which I could see no hope.
Whenever I read yet another article, essay, book, or blog on the Bible and homosexuality, I feel exactly the same way as Murray's character did, caught in an endlessly repeating loop of Bible bashing. This cycle must end, now.
I want to give you a big hug and tell you that it gets better, because it actually does. Hang on. There are people you may not even know yet who are waiting for you with open arms, and they will love you unconditionally. Trust me.
What are you doing and... what are you looking forward to? Do something about teen suicide. Remind yourself of things you are looking forward to and tell a young person. It can make a world of difference.
The media's singular focus on LGBTQ youth suicides creates a deadly echo chamber. The repetitive tale about our collective failure to address the pain felt by many LGBTQ youth doesn't translate into inspiration for the kids who are still here.
I could hear the pain of abandonment in EricJames Borges' voice as he spoke about growing up in a deeply religious -- and deeply prejudiced -- home. This appears to be a common thread among every gay suicide I've had to ponder.