As I've shed my sexy boots, so too have I shed my narrow-minded views on the queer community. I may not be bringing sexy back with my new dress style, but I'm bringing back something much more important: a wider and more encompassing perspective.
The way the stories about Michelle Shocked's homophobic rant and the Indigo Girls' commitment to stand with the trans community at the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival developed exemplifies the difference in power between the gay and trans communities, which are united except when they're not.
I used to be a transphobic gay man. I remember making jokes. I remember feeling uncomfortable when trans* people would walk into the coffee shop. But something shifted inside me when I saw Matrix co-director Lana Wachowski's acceptance speech for the HRC Visibility Award in 2012.