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Gender Nonconforming Kids

Girls Can't Play With Dinosaurs?

Emma 'The Gecko' Davidson | Posted 06.09.2015 | Parents
Emma 'The Gecko' Davidson

"Of course you can be a paleontologist when you grow up, you can be anything you put your mind to... You can't have dinosaurs they're for boys! What a...

Why This Mom Is Calling Miley Cyrus a Hero

Melissa McLaren | Posted 05.11.2015 | Entertainment
Melissa McLaren

Say what you will about Miley Cyrus but the girl has the ability to accumulate press. And, what I've always loved about her, even when her actions made me cringe, is that she didn't seem to care what other people said or thought.

This Isn't the Same Thing as Pretending Your Child Is a Dog

Melissa McLaren | Posted 06.28.2015 | Gay Voices
Melissa McLaren

There's been a lot of media coverage this week on transgender children and while I know better than to read the comments, I sometimes can't help myself. I was really happy to see a lot of supportive comments but I saw several versions of the same few questions and these are my thoughts.

Access to Care Is a Way to Save Transgender Youth's Lives Today

Dr. Robert Garofalo | Posted 05.08.2015 | Gay Voices
Dr. Robert Garofalo

There is a larger educational point that needs to be said loud and clear for the benefit of other families and for transgender or gender nonconforming youth. That message is simple: For transgender youth, access to health care services saves lives.

Tomboys, Sissies and the Gay Dad

Jason Howe | Posted 04.20.2015 | Parents
Jason Howe

For as long as he could remember, his parents, especially his father, had rejected him because he was a boy so effeminate that he was often mistaken for a girl.

Luca Steals His Mom's Lipstick: Stories Of Gender-Nonconforming Kids In Italy

HuffPost Italy | Micol Sarfatti | Posted 01.11.2015 | Gay Voices

It’s the little boy who would rather dance than play ball, who prefers dolls over toy cars; the little girl who doesn’t dream about becoming a pri...

Statement on the Suicide of 12-Year-Old Ronin Shimizu

Lillian Rivera | Posted 02.09.2015 | Gay Voices
Lillian Rivera

Children deserve a world where they can just be; where gender "diversion" or gender "non-conformity" is encouraged in order to move toward a more authentic expression of oneself. Youth should be liberated from the constraints of gender in order to define who they are for themselves.

Mom Takes On Fox News' 'Mean Girl' Tactics On Gender Non-Conforming Youth

Posted 11.21.2014 | Gay Voices

By Lisa J. Keating | The Next Family I’d like to bring to the surface and discuss the real life damage that occurs because of the type of reporti...

The Second Halloween My Boy Wanted to Be a Girl

Julie Tarney | Posted 12.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

You'd think that by the time my son Harry turned 4 years old in 1994, I would have learned how to handle Halloween. A guilt ghoul swallowed me whole the first time my boy wanted to go trick-or-treating dressed as a girl. But, no, some lessons don't come easy.

Dispelling Myths, Misconceptions and Lies About Gender-Nonconforming Children

Brynn Tannehill | Posted 08.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Brynn Tannehill

Recently, a video about a transgender child in California went viral. Sadly, like every other conversation about transgender children, the comments section was often unkind. Scanning the comments, I saw the same poorly thought-out ideas keep popping up. I think it's time to put these misconceptions to bed.

An Open Letter to Sunnie Kahle (and Christian Tomboys Everywhere)

Rev. Emily C. Heath | Posted 05.26.2014 | Religion
Rev. Emily C. Heath

Sunnie, the adults that told you that Jesus doesn't like the way you dress, or that Jesus wants you to act "more like a girl?" They're wrong. Jesus does love you, Sunnie. You know how I know? Because Jesus loves me too.

Call the (Gender) Police!

Brynn Tannehill | Posted 04.22.2014 | Gay Voices
Brynn Tannehill

When lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer kids are attacked, they are usually the ones who are gender-nonconforming. This highlights the underlying problem: Our culture isn't killing people for being transgender; they're doing it for failing to stay within gender boundaries.

What Happened When My Son Came Out... as Straight

Lori Duron | Posted 11.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Lori Duron

By trying to eliminate the need for a gay son to come out, I created an environment where a straight son felt the need to come out. As I try to learn from my mother's mistakes, I may be making some new ones of my own. I guess that's how it goes with parenting.

Who Needs Gender Norms? Not Children -- That's For Sure

Frida Berrigan | Posted 10.23.2013 | Parents
Frida Berrigan

The dominant society is fast and ruthless in its enforcement of gender norms. It is not just the clothes that are available for little kids, it's everything.

The Many Mothers of Cinderella Boy: A Review of A Kid Like Jake

Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W. | Posted 12.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W.

What if Cinderella attended the wrong ball? What if Cinderella were a 4-year-old boy named Jake whose parents desperately want him to get into an elite private school? These are among the questions raised by the new play A Kid Like Jake.

Don't Be Your Child's First Bully

Amelia | Posted 07.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

By hiding photos of a son dressed up as Minnie Mouse or Scooby-Doo's Daphne, a parent is sending the message that she is ashamed of her child. That's a message that gets received, quickly and with dire consequences.

The Internet Has An Opinion

Kelly Byrom | Posted 02.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Kelly Byrom

This isn't a case of parents trying to exploit their children. My hope is that by sharing our story we will meet other people with kids like Twirl who also start showing who their kids are. Then maybe we can get to a point where a boy playing with girl things is just as normal as a girl playing with boy things.

My Son Wore A Dress For Halloween

Kelly Byrom | Posted 01.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Kelly Byrom

My family lives in a very conservative area, and we aren't exactly walking into open arms in our community when we go trick-or-treating. This is the second year our son has worn a dress on Halloween. Last year he went as Minnie Mouse.

Voice To Voice: Ken Corbett And Mark O'Connell Discuss Gender, Bullying And More

Posted 06.29.2012 | Gay Voices

This month we've shared a Voice to Voice conversation between author Whitney Joiner and the ACLU's Chris Hampton, one between Jason Cianciotto and Sea...

Breaking Down The Gender Binary

Catherine Oliver | Posted 06.04.2012 | Gay Voices
Catherine Oliver

Some parents have tried to raise their kids without gender stereotypes, only to get accused of being hippies at best and downright abusive at worst. Tell me what's abusive about not shoving your kid into a box that says, "This is how you're supposed to act given your genitalia."

I'll Make A Man Out Of You

Catherine Oliver | Posted 06.02.2012 | Gay Voices
Catherine Oliver

Gender-nonconforming kids need to know there are others like them. In the media they should be portrayed just like everyone else. At home they need to be accepted and loved, not forced into roles they can't fit. In schools they need to be treated with respect and dignity.

Are You A Boy Or A Girl?

Lance Brister | Posted 05.23.2012 | Gay Voices
Lance Brister

These days, I'm mostly comfortable in my own skin. I enjoy being a man. But the embarrassed little boy who could never be himself will always be part of me. I try to carry him with tenderness, and tell him, always, that it's OK to be just who he is.

When The Gender Boxes Don't Fit

Ericka Sokolower-Shain | Posted 05.22.2012 | Gay Voices
Ericka Sokolower-Shain

What gender-variant youth need are teachers who don't make assumptions, who ask lots of questions and then listen to the answers. Everyone is different. When a kid tells you what's important to them, that's what they want you to do.

He's Gay, He's Straight, He's Transgender... He's Roscoe!

Matthew Carnahan | Posted 05.20.2012 | Gay Voices
Matthew Carnahan

I've encountered a barometer for the varying attitudes and preconceptions of the audience. An entire segment of the House of Lies audience dismisses Roscoe as gay. Another jumps to pushing him into a transgender role. Some just think he's weird. How about this: he's just Roscoe.

Moms Standing Up For Their Kids

Amelia | Posted 05.05.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Two 5-year-old boys who would rather play princess, a 10-year-old out and proud lesbian, a 7-year-old boy who announces "I'm gay," and a little boy who wants to be Scooby-Doo's Daphne for Halloween. All five are amazing kids, and all have moms who write about their experiences online.