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Why I Let My Son Wear a Dress

Frida Berrigan | Posted 06.30.2015 | Parents
Frida Berrigan

My son Seamus wears a dress. Actually he has two: a dark pink long-sleeved ballerina number with a leotard top and a short sleeved princess dress with pearls and ribbons. I am trying to check my straight (but not narrow), hetero-normative biases. I am trying to give my son more than two choices.

18 Things You Should Stop Apologizing For

Deborah Stachelski | Posted 06.15.2015 | Women
Deborah Stachelski

What happened to saying no and not following up with an explanation? What happened to just saying, "I don't feel like it"?

Girls Can't Play With Dinosaurs?

Emma 'The Gecko' Davidson | Posted 06.09.2015 | Parents
Emma 'The Gecko' Davidson

"Of course you can be a paleontologist when you grow up, you can be anything you put your mind to... You can't have dinosaurs they're for boys! What a...

What Exactly Does 'It's A Man's World' Mean?

Soraya Chemaly | Posted 05.28.2015 | Women
Soraya Chemaly

In the United States, women in the House of Representatives didn't get a bathroom near the Speaker's Lobby until 2011. It matters that the vast majority of architects, engineers, construction workers and legislators are not affected by this problem.

These Androgynous Photos Will Change The Way You Perceive Beauty

The Huffington Post | Dana Oliver | Posted 05.27.2015 | Style

While celebrities including Grace Jones, David Bowie, Prince and Tilda Swinton are widely praised for their androgynous styles, individuals who live i...

Baby, We Were Born This Way

Eileen O'Connor | Posted 05.13.2015 | Parents
Eileen O'Connor

Since becoming a mother, I have learned that all I really care about is that my kids are happy. And healthy. I can only do so much in the healthy department. But, at this stage of this game called life, I pretty much control their happiness. And when I say I, I mean we.

'Stop Telling My Kid to Dress Like a Girl'

Kaitlyn Jones | Posted 05.13.2015 | Parents
Kaitlyn Jones

My child is perfect the way she looks. I want her to feel beautiful wearing her princess dress and feel adventurous in her superhero outfit. I want her to love baby dolls and get excited about trucks.

Tuesday Night Choreplay -- What Really Happens When Men Lean Into Their Housework

Stacey Brook | Posted 06.29.2015 | Women
Stacey Brook

Pour yourself a glass of wine as I sew on all your missing buttons nice and tightly and water the plants until they scream for mercy. Watch me plow through your taxes and plunge into the dog food bag to feed little Sparky.

Douchebaggery And The Stay-at-Home Dad

Christopher Noxon | Posted 06.23.2015 | Parents
Christopher Noxon

Even those rare guys who are completely at peace with their place in the family and world routinely bump up against assumptions that they secretly resent their wives, tolerate their children and down deep, kind of hate their lives.

I Took Charge When The Wife Was Sick (Now Where's My Reward!)

Pete Wilgoren | Posted 06.20.2015 | Parents
Pete Wilgoren

she was getting sick. We were so screwed. By the weekend, she was in full-fledged illness with the raspy Kathleen Turner voice and a waste basket full of tissues. An achy, feverish, sadness filled the house. And I knew we were going down in flames. Or were we?

Does Wearing Makeup Make Me a Bad Feminist?

Karyn Pickles | Posted 05.26.2015 | Parents
Karyn Pickles

I wear makeup. Not every day, but then, I work from home, so half the time I don't put on my clothes, let alone my face. But if I'm going out and I have time, I'll do my makeup. But what message am I sending my kids?

I'm Not Just Raising Little Boys, I'm Trying to Raise Good Men

Meredith Ethington | Posted 06.16.2015 | Parents
Meredith Ethington

Your daughters believe you when you say that there are no boys out there good enough for them. Sure, a woman doesn't need a man to survive, but let's not raise her thinking that not only does she not need them, but that there actually aren't any good ones.

I Don't Want To Raise 'Gentlemen'

Kathleen Siddell | Posted 05.23.2015 | Parents
Kathleen Siddell

We talk a lot about raising strong girls, about challenging them to break stereotypes, about pushing them to do anything boys can do. But what about our boys?

Barbies, Hot Lava and One Unhappy Dad

Julie Tarney | Posted 05.20.2015 | Parents
Julie Tarney

Ryan looked up at his father, and a tiny wrinkle of worry appeared between his eyebrows. His dad was not happy, and it was clear Ryan didn't know why. My pulse accelerated. I felt uncomfortable witnessing this scene.

Gender Stereotypes and the Sister-Brother Relationship

Kelly Suellentrop | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Kelly Suellentrop

The relationships between sister and sister or brother and brother are celebrated in greeting cards, inspirational sayings, and other Hallmark-worthy moments. Yet I have loved watching the web that is continuously being spun between my children...a lone sister and brother.

45 Things You'll Never Hear Most Men Say

Lisa Katz | Posted 05.02.2015 | Women
Lisa Katz

It goes without saying that men and women are different in infinite ways. And it goes without saying that women can be a bit more verbal about how they are feeling.

What's the Right Age for Earrings? 2? 10? Maybe 18?

Cort Ruddy | Posted 04.27.2015 | Parents
Cort Ruddy

Maybe I see it as a setback in our battle against a society that is pushing my girls to be a certain thing, to act a certain way. Maybe.

How to Sow the Seeds of Compassion in Your Kids

Karyn Pickles | Posted 04.22.2015 | Parents
Karyn Pickles

If we teach our kids to interpret cues correctly to guess how someone is feeling and to want other people to feel good, the end result will be kids who make choices that result in other people feeling good and not making choices that make themselves or others feel bad.

If Our Sons Were Treated Like Our Daughters

Lori Day | Posted 04.22.2015 | Parents
Lori Day

Come with me. Let's open the door to a parallel universe. Here in this parallel world, the rules are different because gender roles are flipped. Loving parents and teachers accept this strange culture as if it's not so bad, or perhaps even good.

To the Jerk From My Summer Job

Ashley McDonald | Posted 04.19.2015 | Women
Ashley McDonald

I sat there for a second, stunned. My menu was open; I had been thinking about eggs and hash browns (it's never too late in the day for those.) But suddenly, rather than eating, I wanted to punch you in the face and get the hell out of there.

What I Gained From Having A Sister And No Brothers

Joe DeProspero | Posted 01.18.2015 | Parents
Joe DeProspero

By having a sister, I developed an early respect for the opposite sex I may not have if I had been an only child or one of three brothers.

Don't Just 'Get Over It'

Ravishly | Posted 01.10.2015 | Women
Ravishly

We often don't feel entitled to our own biological signals, which is on the list of things that piss me off. Because anger is a tool -- and we're being instructed to neglect it.

Meet The Men Who Unabashedly Expressed Femininity In The 1950s

The Huffington Post | Priscilla Frank | Posted 11.03.2014 | Arts

Casa Susanna was a getaway for cross-dressers in the 1950s and 1960s in Hunter, New York. At a time when gender norms allowed for little to no flexibi...

My Son Likes Nail Polish

Caren Chesler | Posted 12.28.2014 | Parents
Caren Chesler

I pointed to a bottle with red and green sparkles that reminded me of Christmas and another one with silver sparkles that seemed a good choice for New Year's Eve. "No. This one," he said, sidestepping my choices and picking the sparkly pink. I threw it in my cart.

Feminist Mama Manifesto

Lara Lillibridge | Posted 12.01.2014 | Parents
Lara Lillibridge

It's hard not to fall into sexism as the mother of sons. It's hard not to look at your friend's daughters as potential wives to your future head of the household. I know, I know, you can't say it. But you think it when no one is looking.