In this era of celebrity chefs, foodies and foodists, reality TV cook-offs and locavore restaurants, why is it that virtually no men, and almost no professional women, would dare bake or cook anything for their colleagues?
It wasn't neo-Nazis and threats of violence that stopped me from going to Pride. It wasn't the commercialization of Pride that deterred me from staking my claim to my part of the LGBTQI space. It was a butch lesbian with a bouncer's badge.
Growing up in my house, I chose to be a quiet girl as a way to feel safe. When I was 7, I was taken to an outdoor concert where I saw a beautiful woman on stage about to sing. As soon as her voice floated over our seats, the desire to sing grabbed a hold of my heart and didn't let go.
A grown man who should know better decided it was OK to step in and "teach" my child what it is to be manly. He thought it was OK to judge my child because he was not adhering to HIS idea of what a little boy should be.
Transgender and genderqueer individuals challenge us to think about how people are defined and what it means to be who we really are. What constitutes a man or a woman is dictated by cultural norms, and how we identify with a certain gender is more complicated than we think. Gender is a spectrum.
The following are 10 strategies geared toward heterosexual men and women, who are key to dismantling forms of communication that invisibilize LGBT people. The catch is that a few of them require straight people to step outside the heteronormative comfort zone and pretend to be gay.
Not only did her comments not clarify the use of certain expressions, but they confirmed a judgmental standpoint on alternative forms of gender expression. "Girl men" and drag queens are examples of persons who hide behind neurotic behaviors?
Striving for gender equality both in and out of the workplace doesn't mean women should be striving to emulate, "overtake," or actually be men. Whatever women choose to do -- hug, kiss, handshake -- it's key to embrace the choice and approach the movement with confidence and ease.
The phrase "she's so drama" is used to needle someone who acts too "girly" by expressing more emotion than social conventions allow. But we might ask ourselves whether he (or "she") could be the victim of a social trauma, the trauma of being viewed, treated, and dismissed as "like a girl."
When I sat down to write What Makes a Baby, I didn't think gender would be the most controversial part. I thought that if anyone had a problem with the book it would be because I don't put a married heterosexual couple in the middle of the story. I should have known.
Although the increasing visibility of LGBT people and gains in equality may be associated with short-term rises in homophobic violence, these changes are merely triggers. We must move beyond superficial and individualistic analyses of such heinous events and target their root causes.
Sometimes she says it sitting across from me in a coffee shop. Sometimes she sends it via text message. And then the conversation turns to the supposedly inherent errors of straight men and the taunting disconnect between men and women's needs. It's a fall back to the old stereotypes.
The "crazy" Zelda that has emerged in our popular imagination is as much Scott's making as The Great Gatsby itself. This is, in and of itself, part of the F. Scott legacy. His work depended on Zelda's silence.
Analyzing our obsession with the union of gender expression and biology, it becomes clear that there is not space for people unwilling to live within this oppressive gender binary. Transgender identities are often accepted only when they comply with cookie-cutter definitions of "male" and "female."