You are pretty because you are alive. You are pretty because you are curious. You are pretty because you take the good parts of the world, pull them in through your ears and eyes and mouth and body, and shout them back out to me in action and voice, in everything you do.
Being compassionate with yourself is all about giving yourself the loving truth. Not sugar coating or denying that a change is needed, but delivering the message in a way that you would talk to your child or to your best friend -- with love.
I will educate my daughter as best as I can. I will raise her to be strong, to fight back, to be herself and be proud of who she is. I will raise her to realize how ignorant a 50-ish man with salt-and-pepper hair can be. Who's with me?
I've been hearing "be confident and trust your instincts" for as long as I can remember. But, what is confidence? Confidence is accepting that compliment, even though you know you didn't put much effort on your hair this morning.
As a human, woman, and athlete I'm aware of how my body feels, looks, moves, and speaks to me. This combination of information my body provides is one part of the equation that can make me feel beautiful. It's not limited to the physical though.
Let us honor and respect our bodies for what they do instead of despising them for how they appear. Focus on living healthy and active lives, let our weight fall where it may, and consign our body hatred in the past where it belongs.
When you saw it, you TOTALLY laughed. Why? Because it made you feel better that your body is way better than hers? Because you were relieved that you are not the only person with a booty that resembles poultry?
Who's issues are on display in these photos? What 7-year-old girl wakes up thinking that she'll watch a little iCarly and then strip down to her skivvies with her bathroom scale and tape measure to see how much weight she's lost or gained in the last 24 hours?
In an effort to explain why I'm so frustrated about this latest round Victoria's Secret gaffe, I made alternate versions of the "Bright Young Things" underwear, with messages that convey what goes on in a young girl's mind when she is made to feel like an object and not a person.