Looking at the pain and suffering of living and dying within this context suggests that a "good death" for example might not be the one that looks peaceful and isn't messy, but rather the one that accomplishes what that soul needed to have happen to complete its work in this lifetime.
One day, and whether I like it or not, I won't have a choice. Neither will you, your best friend or worst enemy. If we could invest in the inevitability, we'd all be rich. The problem is; dying isn't sexy and it doesn't sell, while fear, denial and escapism is the defining hustle of our time.
Dr. Atul Gawande's Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End provides healthy doses of reality - the realities of disease, deterioration, debilitation, decline, dementia, dependence, despondency, and demise.