I frequently feel like I'm channeling Miss Clara. Bad manners abound. Men who won't allow a woman to exit an elevator first. Cars that honk after waiting less than a second at a light that just changed. People cracking their gum so loudly it sounds like a trip to the gun range. And don't get me started about talking in a movie theater.
There are days that I turn on the TV and I am appalled at what is going on in our society. Every day the news shows us another story where someone did something so awful. It seems so many people have lost the values that many of us were brought up with. I have to wonder -- where is the responsibility? Where is the discipline? Where is the leadership? Where are the standards?
When your colleague does a great job on an important project, compliment them on their success. If your competitor got the job over you, send a note of congratulations. Drop your guard, put down your competitive armor, and give yourself permission to revel in someone else's success. Make your words strong and reliable.