To acknowledge imperfections, some of us have to confront our idealized image, a narcissistic view of the self that dictates we must be perfect. In this case, a mistake and the need to apologize, can be experienced as like a blemish that needs to be hidden.
In our age of Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, "discipline" takes a backseat to celebrity. Greatness, it seems, is whatever gets you re-Tweeted or Liked; whatever racks up the most clicks or followers.
Becoming a great success in any arena is a cumulative process that occurs over a period of years, choice-by-choice, step-by-step, leading to transformation. The process is characterized by steady plodding, which builds greater momentum.
When we no longer hold our partner responsible for the fulfillment of our needs, everything changes. This is easier said than done, but it is perhaps the single most important thing we can do to insure that our relationship will be mutually satisfying.
While the consequence of being authentic and great will not likely lead to exile or death in a civilized society, it may lead to rejection. We must ask ourselves, "is being authentic and great worth this rejection?
I used to believe that all of the great artists, the monumental thinkers and the cultural needle movers, were each given a grand story to tell by circumstance, by chance. But, It wasn't a matter of chance, it was a matter of choice.