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What No One Wants to Talk About During the Holidays

Madeline Wahl | Posted 02.16.2015 | Women
Madeline Wahl

It's like once the most wonderful time of the year hits, everyone smiles and gives thanks and acts nice and looks ahead to the new year. Everyone seems to check out of reality and focus on the happiness surrounding them.

Mourning What Should Have Been

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 02.15.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I think we must figure out how we can we give ourselves, and others, permission to mourn their should have beens. Can we give ourselves, and others, permission to feel it all -- the blessings, the lucky, the anger, the sadness, the guilt, and even, the shame?

When Things Aren't Merry or Bright

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 02.15.2015 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

Photograph taken at the New York Metropolitan Museum of Art by Kristin Meekhof There is a big push this time of year for image management. Nearly any...

A Christmas Gift

Alissa Parker | Posted 02.15.2015 | Parents
Alissa Parker

That moment. That very moment has played over and over and over and over again in my mind, hundreds of times. That moment was the same moment my Emilie was being killed in her first grade classroom... and I was picking out Legos.

Finding Closure: How a Gravestone Helped Me Say Goodbye

Lisa Abeyta | Posted 02.14.2015 | Women
Lisa Abeyta

Today I found a moment in which I could rest. My father's grave is no longer a place where he has simply disappeared from this earth but instead a place of acknowledgment.

7 Tips for Surviving the Holidays With a Broken Heart

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

All the winter holidays hold one thing in common: a celebration of light. It makes sense, really. During the coldest, darkest time of year, here come the holidays, with their Diwali lamps, menorahs, and Yule logs, to set our hearts aglow. Or not.

The 5 Faults With Forgiveness

Sherrie Campbell, PhD | Posted 02.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Sherrie Campbell, PhD

The reality is, in being human we go through pains that are not excusable, justifiable or reconcilable. Yet we are taught if we do not forgive that we are, now, also immoral and doomed to live in some sort of an emotional prison of hatred and resentment.

Why I Still Wear My Mother's Robe 3 Years After Her Death

Michelle Frost | Posted 02.10.2015 | Fifty
Michelle Frost

My mother died three years ago. Every morning I wake up, and without thinking I put on her robe. Of all the precious things she gave me; a sense of humor, a love of Mondays, her favorite ring and her golf shoes, it is her robe I love the most. It is soft, pink, and what was.

An Open Letter To Santa About My Unconventional Christmas Cookies

Sukey Forbes | Posted 02.09.2015 | Parents
Sukey Forbes

It's me again, and according to my kids I have been "acting out." They tell me I need to reach out to you and confess to being naughty lest I face some real "consequences." I tried to come see you at the mall but the contrived mirth of your entourage of obsequious was too much for me so I came home to write you this letter.

What Two Sisters Have Learned From Losing Their Mother To Cancer... So Far

Alexandra Detwiler | Posted 02.08.2015 | Women
Alexandra Detwiler

Something that we learned early on is that people respond differently to the loss of a loved one. Some may want to openly discuss it, while others would prefer to deal with the loss internally.

Holidays After Loss: A Love Letter

Gina Barreca | Posted 02.08.2015 | Parents
Gina Barreca

Other people's happiness is more difficult to avoid than other people's pain. Seeing the holidays swirl around you means being hurt all over again.

When We Become a Mother or Father

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 02.07.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I will never get full understanding from everyone, let alone validation. But, I will still speak my story. I will own all the parts of my story. And, I will continue to fight and break the shamed silence that surrounds infertility, miscarriage, infant loss and recovery.

What to Give Grieving Loved Ones This Christmas

Rachael Oakes-Ash | Posted 02.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Rachael Oakes-Ash

Here's a tip: I don't have leprosy, and death is not contagious, though it will eventually come for you too. Not mentioning the death of my mother, the person who gave me life, who birthed me, bathed me and was forever present in my world, only makes it easier for you, or so you think.

The Pain of Absence and Presence

Catherine Nagle | Posted 02.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Catherine Nagle

With 23 years between my two children, I entered a different world in 1995 when my second child was born. As an old-schooled mom, I wasn't familiar an...

Warning: Submerged Obstacles

Abigail Carter | Posted 02.03.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Abigail Carter

We heard footsteps on the roof and the sound of the leaf blower. Huge chunks of debris began flying past the window and onto the ground. I had not eve...

How Butter and Sugar Got Me Through the Saddest Time In My Life

Erica Gelbard Callahan | Posted 02.04.2015 | Women
Erica Gelbard Callahan

I started baking -- and I didn't stop. Late at night when I couldn't sleep and during the day with my son, I'd turn to the kitchen. Baking took my mind off of the fact that my life felt completely yucky and funky.

6 Steps To Survive The Holiday Season After Loss

Donna Mebane | Posted 02.03.2015 | Women
Donna Mebane

The first year, I didn't cook Thanksgiving dinner or shop for Christmas presents. I had other children, sure. But I didn't have Emma, and that defined me

Hello, Hello and Goodbye

Robin Korth | Posted 02.03.2015 | Healthy Living
Robin Korth

Learning to say "goodbye" -- and hopefully doing it well -- is something that simply comes with getting older. We say goodbye to our youth, to some of our dreams and eventually to some of the people that walked the road with us.

This Is a Letter to Lila, Who Would Have Turned 20 if She Hadn't Committed Suicide

Claire Dinh | Posted 02.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Claire Dinh

Lila, They say that time heals when grieving the loss of a loved one. But it's been 2.5 years since you killed yourself, and I'm not so sure I'm d...

When Christmas Is Painful

Lisa Farnham and Ashley Taylor | Posted 02.02.2015 | Parents
Lisa Farnham and Ashley Taylor

I pulled out the list and began to make my way through it, finding that some names were easy to add to the delete columns, while others were a little harder, but still necessary. But then the unexpected happened.

Our Bodies Wear Out

Abby Pingree | Posted 02.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Abby Pingree

Perhaps with courage and acceptance we can make friends with our own mortality, and with acceptance we can be a peaceful presence when given the opportunity to experience the death of a loved one.

Why I Let My Kids Play at the Cemetery

Jennifer Meer | Posted 02.01.2015 | Parents
Jennifer Meer

The amazing thing about childhood is that it is the very antithesis of appropriate. Kids don't pause to consider what's right or fair or even what's needed. They just breathe in each moment of life and live it to its fullest.

On My Father's Birthday: A Letter To The Man Who Killed Him

Dawn Q Landau | Posted 02.01.2015 | Fifty
Dawn Q Landau

I don't know your name, but you killed my father on June 9, 1973, in Stockton, California. My father was 32 years old then; I was 10. If he had lived, he would have been 74 on November 29th.

Is There An Upside to Bullying or Exclusion?

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 01.31.2015 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

I learned to be empathic and to think about the impact of my behavior on others because of some of my less-than-positive experiences. I learned to look into the eyes of others when I was speaking to them to see what kind of reaction I was causing.

Pecan Pie Couldn't Heal My Pain

Lisa Lewtan | Posted 01.31.2015 | Fifty
Lisa Lewtan

Thanksgiving is the annual day of group gratitude but every day can be the day of personal gratitude and mindfulness.