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Dispelling 5 Myths about Domestic Violence

Angela Perkey | Posted 02.01.2016 | Women
Angela Perkey

If you are experiencing domestic violence, know that it is not your fault. You might not understand why he's treating you like this, and that's ok. There are some things in life we will never understand. But you don't have to keep making excuses for your partner, and you don't have to continue living this way.

5 of the Most Critical Tips for Alzheimer's Caregivers

Eric J. Hall | Posted 01.21.2016 | Healthy Living
Eric J. Hall

The journey for every Alzheimer's caregiver is different, but it is always challenging. With this in mind, here are some of the most critical tips for Alzheimer's caregivers to remember as they take on the important, yet daunting task of being a caregiver.

Family Caregiving Isn't Easy: Emotional Management Tips

Steve Landers MD,MPH | Posted 01.22.2016 | Healthy Living
Steve Landers MD,MPH

If you're already experiencing emotional struggles and feeling distressed, you should promptly seek help from a primary care or mental health professional. If things are generally going well and you want to prevent or reduce the impact of potential emotional challenges, here are some tips for coping:

Tinder Cleaning

Ella James | Posted 01.12.2016 | HuffPost Home
Ella James

After cleaning the house waiting for the cleaner to arrive. And after being the recipient of some pretty heavy judgement from her, I realized how much...

7 Things To Tell Yourself When Facebook Makes You Feel Like Crap

Ashley Abramson | Posted 01.12.2016 | Parents
Ashley Abramson

We're so good at giving grace to others, but when it comes to our own parenting, we withhold it -- especially on the internet.

My Son Is A Heroin Addict, And I Am Without Answers

Allyson Aabram | Posted 01.07.2016 | Healthy Living
Allyson Aabram

Every day, I wish and pray this chapter of our life will pass. But I cannot control when the page turns. I can at least put the secrecy behind me. I believe our power cannot be usurped by things outside of our control. However, shame can immobilizes us when we hold it close.

The Quiet Wound

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 01.04.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

Unlike wounds resulting from physical or sexual abuse, where the invasive energy is blatant, the wounding energy of emotional incest is stealthy and v...

When Forgiveness Isn't a Virtue

The Establishment | Posted 12.30.2015 | Women
The Establishment

My own lived experience and the experience of reading hundreds of letters from survivors of abuse has led me to this conclusion: You don't have to forgive anybody ever. Further, forgiveness can be bad for you.

How To Use Guilt To Spice Up Your Sex Life

Pamela Madsen | Posted 12.28.2015 | Fifty
Pamela Madsen

Guilt can keep us "in line," and take over our lives and convince us that we are "bad people" and stop us from living our lives fully. Guilt is a tricky number. But guilt can be an aphrodisiac too. Some of the best sex is so good exactly because we are so bad!

The Unspoken Effect of a High-Risk Pregnancy

Parijat Deshpande | Posted 12.22.2015 | Women
Parijat Deshpande

You feel like it's all your fault. You feel like your body is failing. So that means you are failing. The reality is, a high-risk pregnancy can happen to anyone. At any time. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't cause this and you certainly aren't failing.

When You're in a Relationship With a Blamer

Nancy Colier | Posted 12.21.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Nancy Colier

There is no better time for growing than the holiday season. And not just growing in the belly, but in the heart and mind as well. Family interactions, particularly those that go on over a period of consecutive days, offer profound opportunities for self-awareness, learning, and evolution.

Guilt-Free Holiday Eating: Eat Mindfully!

Michelle May, M.D. | Posted 12.17.2015 | Healthy Living
Michelle May, M.D.

"Guilt-free" holiday eating tips are everywhere this time of year, but the best way to feel guilt-free is to stop feeling guilty! Sound impossible? Here are five steps.

The 3 Steps To Emotional Freedom

Oprah.com | Joann Pan | Posted 12.15.2015 | OWN

Step 1: Identify Your Negative Legacy Emotions Many people live amid so much guilt, shame or anxiety that they become like fish that have been swimm...

It's Time to Stop the Teacher Guilt

JP Fugler | Posted 12.14.2015 | Education
JP Fugler

When people tell teachers we're lucky to get so many breaks, what we actually hear is that we have no room to complain about long hours or impossible standards. That small talk about having summers "off" cuts deep, making us feel unworthy of the salary we do receive.

Things I Learned From My Time as a Phone Sex Operator

The Establishment | Posted 12.07.2015 | Women
The Establishment

I learned about shame, and how it silences our true selves. And more importantly, that we all have it -- so many people share the same fetishes, need the same conditions to feel safe, to get excited, to achieve pleasure, to feel their fantasies are fulfilled.

Guilty Verdict Sends Message to Big Coal: Don't Endanger Workers

Robert Weissman | Posted 12.03.2015 | Politics
Robert Weissman

For far too long in this nation's history, coal operators have recklessly endangered their workers' lives, with thousands of workers dying in accidents and many hundreds of thousands more dying and suffering from black lung and associated diseases.

A Thanksgiving Stuffed With Guilt

Jaye Watson | Posted 11.23.2015 | Parents
Jaye Watson

I probably shouldn't have said it. I just blurted it out when I realized he wasn't there. My 8 year old had handed me a Thanksgiving card she made ...

Why Progressive Leaders Feel Like Imposters

Michael Bader, D.M.H. | Posted 11.20.2015 | Business
Michael Bader, D.M.H.

I once coached the leader of a progressive political organization about his tendency to micromanage everyone around him to the point that he procrastinated in developing a vision for his organization and in making bigger decisions about strategy.

How to Not Beat Yourself Up After Screwing Up

Brodie Welch, L.Ac., M.S.O.M. | Posted 11.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Brodie Welch, L.Ac., M.S.O.M.

Here are four (or five, for you overachievers!) steps to help you be a good friend to yourself even when you've missed the mark and fallen short of your own expectations: Identify, Unify, Pacify, Emulsify, Clarify.

"Live and Let Live" Has Two Parts

Robin Koerner | Posted 11.17.2015 | Politics
Robin Koerner

If we in the West must feel so guilty, let's feel guilty about the children we've killed in Muslim lands -- rather than about protecting ourselves from "Muslims" -- and others -- who would kill us in our own.

The Unfinished Business of Caring

Liam Robb O'Hagan | Posted 11.16.2015 | Books
Liam Robb O'Hagan

I know plenty of working dads who go away on boys' weekends. They don't feel badly about it. My wife makes time to be away with her friends. The biggest dilemma that presents the girls is finding a half marathon in a city with decent après-race shopping.

The Art of Self-Forgiveness

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 11.11.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

As we strive less for perfection, we discover a growing acceptance for the limits and shortcomings of others. There is an abiding honoring of the human condition reflected by our own lives and the lives of others.

How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Overeating

Anne Ricci | Posted 11.03.2015 | Women
Anne Ricci

This feeling of guilt that washes over you after having one or more pieces of chocolate cake, scoops of ice cream or handfuls of chips, and that can stick around even after you're no longer dieting and counting calories.

How To Deal If You're On A Divorce Guilt Trip

Karen Covy | Posted 11.02.2015 | Divorce
Karen Covy

Guilt doesn't care whether you twisted over the decision to divorce for weeks, months or even years. Guilt doesn't take into account the amount of courage it may have taken you to finally decide to divorce yourself from a marriage that had been already been dead for years. But guilt is not the truth.

'The British Lion,' A Conversation with Tony Schumacher

Mark Rubinstein | Posted 11.02.2015 | Books
Mark Rubinstein

The British Lion is a sequel to his first novel, The Darkest Hour. It continues the alternative history tale in which the Nazis have emerged victorious and occupy Great Britain.