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Guilt

Are You Addicted to Judging Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"I'm such a jerk. How could I have said that?" "I'm a loser. I'll never get anywhere." "I'm so stupid. I should have learned this by now." "I don't fi...

5 Reasons Why Facebook Can Be Dangerous for People With Depression

Lorne Jaffe | Posted 05.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Lorne Jaffe

Last week I fell into panic mode. It started with intense chest pains each time I logged onto Facebook to check the groups I belong to as well as scro...

Stuttering Is No One's Fault

Katherine Preston | Posted 05.12.2015 | Healthy Living
Katherine Preston

These are the facts: stuttering is not caused by psychological trauma, unsupportive parenting or mental neurosis. Rather, stuttering is a genetically influenced, neurological condition.

How to Ignite Your Happiness and End Suffering

Pragito Dove | Posted 05.11.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Pragito Dove

Happiness is your essential nature. So why are so many people suffering? Is it because they have learned that suffering will bring them love and a...

How This Mom Reformed Her 'Inner Mean Girl' Once and For All

Michelle Martin | Posted 05.08.2015 | Women
Michelle Martin

One reason why being a mom makes us so vulnerable to self-bullying is because the stakes are so high.

Guilty Volunteer, Please Put Your Hand Down

Lisa Earle McLeod | Posted 04.27.2015 | Impact
Lisa Earle McLeod

Guilt may induce you to sign up for a thankless task, but it quickly loses its motivational power as the job wears on. If you're going to volunteer, don't simply respond to somebody else's desperate plea for help. Think about how you can create a meaningful experience for yourself.

Learning from Losing Lulu

Katie Rose Guest Pryal | Posted 04.22.2015 | Parents
Katie Rose Guest Pryal

A picture. I hadn't taken a picture of Arthur on his first day of school, of his shiny new backpack and his little knees emerging from his khaki shorts. No jerk in a Jetta was going to prevent me from taking a picture.

How to Love Yourself When You're Feeling 'Bleh'

Z Zoccolante | Posted 04.22.2015 | Healthy Living
Z Zoccolante

We show our perfect faces for the world, yet behind the scenes we struggle with similar things. When we're vulnerable with those things, we risk conne...

Taming the Beast: How I Stopped the Blame Game From Controlling My Life

Lauren Kruczyk | Posted 04.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Lauren Kruczyk

I escaped the cage and found freedom from the wood pellets and stale feeder food. Maybe certain people tried to look for me; maybe they didn't. I didn't care. I was a hamster with a plan. I came to a fork, took the road less traveled and began running like my life depended on it (and hey, maybe it did).

Polio, Cancer - One Nemesis May Counter the Other

Joseph Cooper | Posted 04.10.2015 | Books
Joseph Cooper

For those of us who were spared by fate and vaccine, Philip Roth's Nemesis charts polio's course and brings to mind the friends and neighbors who suffered the withering and the life-long incarceration of limbs.

Calling All Martyr Moms: You Are Not Doing Anyone Any Favors

Joyce Shulman | Posted 04.03.2015 | Parents
Joyce Shulman

We are doing more and more. We are wearing too many hats. We work in the home, out of the home and pretty much all the time. We are exhausted. Yet we wear our exhaustion like a badge of honor.

4 Ways to Ease the Guilt and Pressure When You're Crazy Busy

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 04.03.2015 | Healthy Living
Paula Davis-Laack

Traditional time management techniques might help in the short term, but ultimately only serve to put a Band-Aid on a much deeper problem. Rather than focus on perfection, why not focus on what brings you joy and meaning? Choose one strategy that will help you move forward in a less crazy busy direction and embrace the perfectly imperfect journey.

How Shame Affects Our Dating Relationships in Middle Age

Michelle Martin | Posted 04.02.2015 | Fifty
Michelle Martin

One of the most painful and life-impacting human emotions is shame. Shame is a powerful universal emotion that often emerges when we feel deeply vulnerable about something and believe that others have the power to judge us, and ultimately reject us.

You Are A Good Daughter

Rebecca Emily Darling | Posted 03.31.2015 | Women
Rebecca Emily Darling

If you have loved your mother enough to feel the pain of her hurting you, and the pain of you hurting her, you are a good daughter.

Guilt -- And What To Do About It

Danielle Vaughn | Posted 05.27.2015 | Women
Danielle Vaughn

Guilt can be a good deterrent, keeping us on a path we want to be on. Guilt teaches us. Guilt can also creep in like an unwanted house guest and linger, clouding our decisions and making us do things we don't want to do.

The Best Way to Get Rid of Evil

Deepak Chopra | Posted 05.24.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Deepak Chopra

The best way to get rid of evil is to change our ideas about it. The two concepts about evil that do nothing to end it are, first, the concept of cosm...

5 Things Women With Perfectionistic Guilt Need To Hear

Michelle Martin | Posted 05.19.2015 | Fifty
Michelle Martin

While I loved being a mom more than I can possibly describe, and while I appreciated the flexibility my career afforded me, most of the time inside my head I was a complete train wreck. I was riddled with the guilt that comes from the perfectionist belief that nothing I did was ever going to be quite good enough.

Guilt As Destiny

John Feffer | Posted 05.14.2015 | World
John Feffer

Less attention has been paid to the émigrés who worked on behalf of peace and reconciliation in former Yugoslavia. These activists supported peace organizations in the region, helped to spread the word of human rights violations, and worked in large numbers for international organizations, including the International Criminal Tribunal for the former Yugoslavia at The Hague.

11 Parenting Confessions That You Don't Feel Guilty About

The Huffington Post | Hollis Miller | Posted 03.12.2015 | Parents

In a February blog post, dad John Kinnear listed 20 so-called "horrible" things he and his wife do to their kids that they just don't feel guilty abou...

Parenting Advice: Don't Kill Them

Ijeoma Oluo | Posted 05.09.2015 | Parents
Ijeoma Oluo

You deserve an award for not evicting what is surely the world's worst houseguest. Acknowledge that, and instead of beating yourself up for feeling the way anybody would feel if a fellow human had just literally sh*t all over them, pat yourself on the back.

What Happened When I Broke Up With Anxiety

Monica Stevens-Kirby | Posted 04.29.2015 | Healthy Living
Monica Stevens-Kirby

I'm no expert, but of all the things I've given up, anxiety is my best so far. I sleep at night. I remember to eat. I listen for my laughter in movement and my strength in stillness. I am dating Mindfulness. I think Mindfulness is The One. I'm okay with all of this, all of me.

What to Do When the Toxic People in Your Life Are (Unfortunately) Your Parents

Catherine Chen, Ph.D. | Posted 04.27.2015 | Healthy Living
Catherine Chen, Ph.D.

Dealing with toxic parents is a delicate situation and is undeniably tough. But by remembering that you are your own person will enable you to respect the relationship without falling victim to it.

Can We Actually Talk About Recovery This Year?

Patrick R. Krill | Posted 04.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Patrick R. Krill

So as we move ahead in this new year, let's all resolve to look for the other side of the story when it comes to addiction, and let's be willing to show that our intellectual and emotional capacities for discussing the issue go beyond the bad news.

Why Your Mommy Guilt Can Be Good For You

40 Percent and Rising | Posted 04.07.2015 | Parents
40 Percent and Rising

Guilt can be a big neon sign pointing to inner needs that aren't being met. It can also lead you to satisfaction and joy that comes from spending your time doing things you love and things that nourish you on all levels, including in your work.

Understanding and Overcoming Our Guilt, Shame and Anxiety

Dr. Peter Breggin | Posted 04.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Dr. Peter Breggin

Why do we human beings suffer so much from the demoralizing emotions of guilt, shame and anxiety? Over many centuries, answers have varied from our bi...