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How I Overcame Working Mom Guilt

Lantern | Posted 08.28.2015 | Parents
Lantern

Yes, I always left the office by six o'clock so that I could be home to hear about my kids' days, help with homework, and just hang out with them. But when they asked why they were the only ones who had a babysitter, rather than their mom picking them up from school, it killed me.

Goodnight Moon, Goodnight Parenting, Goodnight Guilt: How To Be A Better Parent Than You Have Ever Been

Margaret Hession | Posted 08.13.2015 | Parents
Margaret Hession

To somehow yoke the term parenting with the concept of an obstacle course of terrors seems somewhat frightening, and honestly an unlikely partnership of sorts. And yet, ironically, this description actually comes close to describing the profound mystery of parenting Americans are faced almost every day.

How Can You Tell If Your Partner Is Having an Affair?

Ayesha Vardag | Posted 07.31.2015 | Women
Ayesha Vardag

Last week, Ashley Madison, a dating site that explicitly targets people who want to have extra-marital affairs, was hacked by a group calling itself the Impact Team. The hackers claim to have gained access to the company's entire database of clients.

2 Secrets to Receiving Gifts Without the Guilt

April Julson | Posted 07.15.2015 | Women
April Julson

You love to give gifts, right? It feel ah-mazing in your heart to give, to surprise someone, and to do or say something meaningful to someone you love. But how comfortable are you with receiving gifts? How about compliments?

Working Moms Inside Out: Guilt Gone Wild

Alyssa Westring, Ph.D. | Posted 07.14.2015 | Women
Alyssa Westring, Ph.D.

The central message of Inside Out is that all emotions serve important functions in our lives, even those that we would prefer not to experience. So, what role is guilt playing in the lives of working mothers? And how can we use that knowledge to help manage it?

Hanging Up the Cape: Letting Go of the Superwoman Role

Janet M. Neal | Posted 07.09.2015 | Women
Janet M. Neal

As a reformed Superwoman, I am living proof that not only is this Superwoman model an unsustainable one, but one that can only lead to burnout, frustration and mountains of guilt. It's time for a new model.

3 Very Good Reasons to Procrastinate This Summer

Dorothy Breininger | Posted 07.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Dorothy Breininger

Summer time is a perfect time to attack those long-awaited projects, right? Well, we thought we wanted to do them but realize we need a break. Is there ever a time to say procrastination is not such a bad thing? Read on to find out.

Ditch Work/Life Balance and Find Real Happiness: Part I

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 07.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Deirdre Maloney

Yes, living your all comes with sacrifice. But by getting rid of the things and relationships that make you only somewhat happy (or plain unhappy), you get to live a life filled with what you love best, and then focus on them with everything you've got.

You Have Permission to Walk Out

Caroline Garnet McGraw | Posted 06.29.2015 | Religion
Caroline Garnet McGraw

My guilt gauge is overly responsive. It goes off at the slightest 'infraction,' so I can't look to it for a true reading. Instead, I can acknowledge false guilt, then make a deliberate choice about what I want to do.

You May Not Be Able to Have It All But You Can Have Alot - And That's Okay....

Linda Lightman | Posted 06.26.2015 | Women
Linda Lightman

I love my work and feel incredibly lucky to do what I do every day. I started Linda's Stuff in my kitchen and today, 15 years in, I'm sitting in a 93,000 sq. ft. warehouse pinching myself.

Are You Addicted to Judging Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"I'm such a jerk. How could I have said that?" "I'm a loser. I'll never get anywhere." "I'm so stupid. I should have learned this by now." "I don't fi...

5 Reasons Why Facebook Can Be Dangerous for People With Depression

Lorne Jaffe | Posted 05.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Lorne Jaffe

Last week I fell into panic mode. It started with intense chest pains each time I logged onto Facebook to check the groups I belong to as well as scro...

Stuttering Is No One's Fault

Katherine Preston | Posted 05.12.2015 | Healthy Living
Katherine Preston

These are the facts: stuttering is not caused by psychological trauma, unsupportive parenting or mental neurosis. Rather, stuttering is a genetically influenced, neurological condition.

How to Ignite Your Happiness and End Suffering

Pragito Dove | Posted 05.11.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Pragito Dove

Happiness is your essential nature. So why are so many people suffering? Is it because they have learned that suffering will bring them love and a...

How This Mom Reformed Her 'Inner Mean Girl' Once and For All

Michelle Martin | Posted 05.08.2015 | Women
Michelle Martin

One reason why being a mom makes us so vulnerable to self-bullying is because the stakes are so high.

Guilty Volunteer, Please Put Your Hand Down

Lisa Earle McLeod | Posted 06.27.2015 | Impact
Lisa Earle McLeod

Guilt may induce you to sign up for a thankless task, but it quickly loses its motivational power as the job wears on. If you're going to volunteer, don't simply respond to somebody else's desperate plea for help. Think about how you can create a meaningful experience for yourself.

Learning from Losing Lulu

Katie Rose Guest Pryal | Posted 06.22.2015 | Parents
Katie Rose Guest Pryal

A picture. I hadn't taken a picture of Arthur on his first day of school, of his shiny new backpack and his little knees emerging from his khaki shorts. No jerk in a Jetta was going to prevent me from taking a picture.

How to Love Yourself When You're Feeling 'Bleh'

Z Zoccolante | Posted 06.22.2015 | Healthy Living
Z Zoccolante

We show our perfect faces for the world, yet behind the scenes we struggle with similar things. When we're vulnerable with those things, we risk conne...

Taming the Beast: How I Stopped the Blame Game From Controlling My Life

Lauren Kruczyk | Posted 06.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Lauren Kruczyk

I escaped the cage and found freedom from the wood pellets and stale feeder food. Maybe certain people tried to look for me; maybe they didn't. I didn't care. I was a hamster with a plan. I came to a fork, took the road less traveled and began running like my life depended on it (and hey, maybe it did).

Polio, Cancer - One Nemesis May Counter the Other

Joseph Cooper | Posted 06.10.2015 | Books
Joseph Cooper

For those of us who were spared by fate and vaccine, Philip Roth's Nemesis charts polio's course and brings to mind the friends and neighbors who suffered the withering and the life-long incarceration of limbs.

Calling All Martyr Moms: You Are Not Doing Anyone Any Favors

Joyce Shulman | Posted 06.03.2015 | Parents
Joyce Shulman

We are doing more and more. We are wearing too many hats. We work in the home, out of the home and pretty much all the time. We are exhausted. Yet we wear our exhaustion like a badge of honor.

4 Ways to Ease the Guilt and Pressure When You're Crazy Busy

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 06.03.2015 | Healthy Living
Paula Davis-Laack

Traditional time management techniques might help in the short term, but ultimately only serve to put a Band-Aid on a much deeper problem. Rather than focus on perfection, why not focus on what brings you joy and meaning? Choose one strategy that will help you move forward in a less crazy busy direction and embrace the perfectly imperfect journey.

How Shame Affects Our Dating Relationships in Middle Age

Michelle Martin | Posted 06.02.2015 | Fifty
Michelle Martin

One of the most painful and life-impacting human emotions is shame. Shame is a powerful universal emotion that often emerges when we feel deeply vulnerable about something and believe that others have the power to judge us, and ultimately reject us.

You Are A Good Daughter

Rebecca Emily Darling | Posted 05.31.2015 | Women
Rebecca Emily Darling

If you have loved your mother enough to feel the pain of her hurting you, and the pain of you hurting her, you are a good daughter.

Guilt -- And What To Do About It

Danielle Vaughn | Posted 05.27.2015 | Women
Danielle Vaughn

Guilt can be a good deterrent, keeping us on a path we want to be on. Guilt teaches us. Guilt can also creep in like an unwanted house guest and linger, clouding our decisions and making us do things we don't want to do.