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Guilt

A Baby Boomer's Liberal Guilt Regarding Edward Snowden

Carol Smaldino | Posted 08.06.2014 | Impact
Carol Smaldino

In being an advocate of the Civil Rights movement in this country, in being an advocate of peace during the Vietnam War, there was a sense of rightness about it, perhaps one could even say righteousness

I'll Take What I Can Get -- Me Time

Lori Ferraro | Posted 07.29.2014 | Parents
Lori Ferraro

It's a sad fact that I now consider a trip to the dentist as "me" time. I pray I don't get the chatty hygienist and that I can just close my eyes and have 30 minutes of quiet.

Dad Guilt

Daniel B. Peters, Ph.D. | Posted 07.21.2014 | Parents
Daniel B. Peters, Ph.D.

These thoughts keep coming and coming. Am I prioritizing my career over my kids? Why do I feel so guilty? What am I doing wrong? Am I doing enough?

Optional Obligations

Lita Smith-Mines | Posted 07.20.2014 | Women
Lita Smith-Mines

There's something about the making of plans and the scheduling of meetings that doesn't seem as concrete as it used to be. Have you noticed it as well...

THE 80/20 VIEW OF GUILT

Richard Koch | Posted 07.20.2014 | Business
Richard Koch

Is guilt useful or an unhealthy hangover from medieval Christianity? I've been thinking about this and would like to present a new 80/20 view of guil...

For Me? I Don't Think So: Saying No to Unwanted Gifts

Mary-Lou Stephens | Posted 07.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary-Lou Stephens

Just because you are a good person who practices empathy and compassion doesn't mean you're a doormat. If someone tries to dump their negativity on you remember the problem is not yours unless you choose to accept it.

A Simple Mind Trick That Will Help You Manage Stress

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 07.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

In a Seinfeld episode titled "The Jimmy," the character of George finds himself in a stressful situation and starts speaking in the third person: "Geo...

Why I'll Never Publicly Name The Friend Who Caused My Paralysis

Rachelle Friedman | Posted 07.06.2014 | Women
Rachelle Friedman

I'm not just a "paralyzed bride." I'm Rachelle, a regular girl who had everything going for her when it all came crashing down. And my dear friend, who had only innocent intentions, is not just the girl who pushed me.

How to Deal With Life's Little Lessons

Mary Pritchard | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

So rather than hiding under a rock, I have learned that processing each lesson the universe sends me is essential for my well-being. I have learned that if I don't want to have to learn that lesson again, I need to do three things: Eat it, digest it and eliminate it.

On Escaping The Shame Spiral

Jill Di Donato | Posted 06.21.2014 | Women
Jill Di Donato

It's no easy feat to admit to flaws, because that means they're real and we have to confront them. Accepting our mistakes or shortcomings -- choices that may not have served us well, unflattering ways others may perceive us, or subtle imperfections that gnaw away at us -- is uncomfortable in the short-term, but acknowledging them can ward off long-term problems.

5 Ways Dwelling On The Negative Affects Your Well-Being

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 06.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

While it is natural to reflect on upsetting experiences, brooding involves replaying the same scenes in your mind and reliving the emotional distress you felt at the time. Once you are in the habit of ruminating, the urge to brood can be easy to trigger and difficult to ignore.

7 Ways to Care Rather Than Care-Take

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When we are care-giving rather than care-taking, we do these things willingly because it is loving to ourselves and to the other to do so, and we do not feel the resentment that we often feel when we give ourselves up to care-take.

Why Trying to Make a Guy Feel Guilty for Mistreating You Is a Waste of Time

Samara O'Shea | Posted 06.01.2014 | Women
Samara O'Shea

The best way to let a guy know he cannot treat you badly is to walk away. Don't look back. Walking away doesn't make you a doormat -- standing there and continuing to put yourself in his path does.

How Loss Affects Our Daily Lives

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 05.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Recovering from loss takes time but there are ways to treat our psychological injuries. Caring for our emotional wounds will help accelerate the recovery process so we emerge from our loss with our lives, identities, relationships, and beliefs intact.

Alzheimer's Caregivers: The Pros and Cons of Placing Your Loved One in a Facility

Marie Marley | Posted 05.18.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

The caregiver may have promised his or her loved one many years before to never put them in any kind of facility for any reason. Breaking that promise would be extraordinarily difficult.

Divorce Confidential: Managing Your Emotions During A Divorce

Caroline Choi | Posted 05.13.2014 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

Can someone say "social media" as the new therapeutic emotional outlet?

How Guilt Plays Tricks On Your Mind

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 05.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Recent studies demonstrate that guilt is more of a trickster than we realized. Guilt influences our unconscious as well as our conscious minds. The ways in which it does so are quite surprising.

Sin, Guilt, and Psychology: What I Wish All Pastors Knew

Derek Flood | Posted 05.03.2014 | Religion
Derek Flood

We have come to associate guilt today with negative ideas like "guilt-trips," and with feelings of shame. As a result, when the subject of guilt and sin are brought up, our defensive walls go up, too.

Why I Ditched a Shame-Based Faith

Heather Kopp | Posted 04.29.2014 | Religion
Heather Kopp

I often write about the power of shame in the context of recovery. But shame is a human problem, and long-time Christians are in no ways immune. I was a Christian--and a slave to shame--for more than a decade before I became a slave to alcohol.

Chocolate Lover? Ban Words Like Indulge and Treat

Michelle May, M.D. | Posted 04.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Michelle May, M.D.

Even though some expert gave you "permission" to eat a limited amount of a favorite food like chocolate, these subtle messages feed unconscious feelings of judgment and deprivation that may lead to paradoxical overeating.

And Let It Begin With Me

Bethany Thies | Posted 04.02.2014 | Parents
Bethany Thies

It's the end of the common sense world as we know it and I feel... incredibly guilty. Incredibly caught up in the very nonsense I rail against.

Loving Your Feet

Trish Kinney | Posted 03.29.2014 | Women
Trish Kinney

These amazing feet of mine have never complained, just kept on giving day after day, decade after decade.

The Dreaded Last Day Of Maternity Leave

Lori Ferraro | Posted 03.24.2014 | Parents
Lori Ferraro

I started to feel guilty, thinking this was the way I had chosen to spend my monumental "last day" with Sam. Then I looked down into his blue-gray eyes as he chugged from his bottle and I knew it really didn't matter where we were.

Frozen Land, Moving Pictures

Nancy Graham Holm | Posted 03.23.2014 | Arts
Nancy Graham Holm

Scandinavian film buffs know about it, as well as other Europeans, but it remains a secret to most North Americans.

Envelope Season

Maggie Van Ostrand | Posted 03.23.2014 | Comedy
Maggie Van Ostrand

This is the season where awards shows give out their envelopes of excellence. I'm more concerned with another kind of envelope, the kind charities sen...