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What Do You Do When Death Is a Relief?

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Death is a complicated subject and something that we all must come to terms with in our own ways. There is no "right way" to grieve. Instead there are different approaches to making sense of loss.

Should We Be Guilt-Tripping the Public About Their Health?

Michelle Kelly-Irving | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Michelle Kelly-Irving

Research findings on health have a tendency to make people feel guilty about their lifestyles. Should researchers attempt to avoid this guilt-tripping quality? Or, should they, in fact, be putting it to good use?

14 Signs Your Perfectionism Has Gotten Out Of Control

The Huffington Post | Carolyn Gregoire | Posted 11.25.2013 | Healthy Living

If you've ever cried about getting a B+ or ending up in second place, there's a good chance you're a perfectionist. As a culture, we tend to rewar...

This Emotion Is Weighing You Down. Here's What You Need To Know About It.

The Huffington Post | Carolyn Gregoire | Posted 11.02.2013 | Healthy Living

Sigmund Freud, the father of modern psychology, was obsessed with guilt. In his psychological framework, the painful emotion (a tension between the su...

Shame Excavation: Unearthing Toxic Shame

Ross A. Rosenberg | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Ross A. Rosenberg

Shame survives in the darkest recesses of one's insecure, self-loathing and self-doubting mind. Shame needs fear and negativity to survive. These "dark" forces are no match for the "light" of love, acceptance, self-respect and, most of all, courage.

Unpack Your Bags -- Guilt Trip's Over

Terri Cole | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Terri Cole

Go back to what it what like growing up -- both in and outside the home. Think about school, social life, etc. Even in your young adult life and into adulthood, what were experiences that happened to invoke these emotions? Why?

LOOK: 5 Tips For Letting Go Of Guilt

Posted 10.18.2013 | Healthy Living

The stress and strain of constantly being connected can sometimes take your life -- and your well-being -- of course. GPS For The Soul can help you fi...

Write What You Know

Mark Rubinstein | Posted 01.23.2014 | Books
Mark Rubinstein

As a physician, forensic psychiatrist and novelist, it would be easy for me to write about medicine, psychiatry and courtrooms -- all of which have been, or are still, part of my life and experiences.

Suicide and the Art of Boxing

Gerry Gavin | Posted 01.23.2014 | Impact
Gerry Gavin

When someone ends their own life, there may be a note, or a reason that is given -- but for everyone who cares for them there will always be that terrible thought in the back of your mind that maybe -- just maybe -- if I had just done...? The blanks that you fill in at the end of that sentence can be endless.

The Two Faces of Shame

Wray Herbert | Posted 12.01.2013 | Science
Wray Herbert

Shaming punishments -- sometimes called Scarlet Letter sentences -- are making something of a comeback in recent years, raising not only legal but psychological questions as well, most notably: Do they work?

Guilt: I'm Breaking Up With You

Cara Paiuk | Posted 11.27.2013 | Parents
Cara Paiuk

Guilt is simply a manifestation of lack of self-confidence in your choices. You either say to hell with everyone else or you enter the hell of self-doubt.

No One Tells You Being a Mom Is Going to Be This Hard

Janet Casey | Posted 11.27.2013 | Parents
Janet Casey

Being a mom is hard work, and when all your baby does is eat, poop, cry and sleep, it makes it hard to feel any sort of reward. I know... the reward is the beautiful healthy baby. But lets be real for a minute, and help other moms out by being honest.

The Mommy Mediator

Rachel Levy Lesser | Posted 11.24.2013 | Parents
Rachel Levy Lesser

Some days, I see the mothers of the world living together in harmony, supporting each other as they go about raising their children. Some get involved in their local communities, others forge ahead at their place of work and some do a bit of both. Then there are the darker days.

How I Finally Stopped Spoiling My Kids

LearnVest | Posted 11.22.2013 | Parents
LearnVest

The best advice I can share with other moms is this: Don't give in to guilt. Your kids won't love you less because you refused to buy them the latest video game. If anything, they'll love you more when they see you as the strong and financially capable woman who keeps a roof over their heads.

Bullying, Mobbing and the Role of Shame

Janice Harper | Posted 11.18.2013 | Business
Janice Harper

If the goal of opposing workplace bullying is indeed to promote more humane workplace environments, decrease workplace aggression, and reduce the potential for workplace violence, shaming targets or shaming bullies is counterproductive.

For Love or for Money: The Politics of Picking a College Major

Shoham Geva | Posted 11.12.2013 | College
Shoham Geva

It seems like two things have happened: One, that there's a lot of guilt lying around for those who dare to think practically about the implications of their college major and two, that pursuing your passion in college is becoming a luxury even on top of the luxury college already is.

Get Off the Guilt Treadmill: It's Not Your Mamma's World

Marjorie Clifton | Posted 11.09.2013 | Women
Marjorie Clifton

Don't try to stick to the path your mother and grandmother followed because, well, quite simply, times have changed.

3 Lies That Bind Us to Guilt and Shame

Hale Dwoskin | Posted 11.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Hale Dwoskin

Guilt and shame are tricky feelings that cause so much unnecessary suffering. Nearly identical in the way they work within us, guilt and shame generally form a single complex.

Chucked Out of Sunday School

Carl Pettit | Posted 10.21.2013 | Comedy
Carl Pettit

My experiences in the pews, and in the classroom, taught me that adults often profess knowledge about subjects they know very little about, and that my mind was prone to an enormous amount of speculative wandering.

Ignoring Failure, Rejection and Other Common Psychological 'Injuries' Can Damage Your Mental Health

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 10.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

While it's obvious to us that physical injuries can get worse if left untreated, that cuts can become infected, that colds can turn into pneumonia, we have no such awareness when it comes to psychological injuries.

Bali Spiritual Experience: Making Choices

Halle Eavelyn | Posted 10.08.2013 | Travel
Halle Eavelyn

This morning, just past dawn, when my coffee and I walked out of my villa here in Bali, a huge grey egret was standing by the pool. Perhaps he was e...

A Mom's Game of Tug of War

Rachel Blaufeld | Posted 10.07.2013 | Parents
Rachel Blaufeld

I could not fathom how I got to a place where peeing while my son chewed gum with the neighbor was a great pleasure....and, yet there I was.

Demon Rum: Alcohol May Release Aggression in Religious Individuals

David Briggs | Posted 09.29.2013 | Religion
David Briggs

Mixing religion and alcohol may be dangerous to other people's health. A new study revealed that religious folks who were not under the influence were the most likely to turn the other cheek, while religious individuals who were intoxicated were the most likely to display aggression.

There's No Such Thing As Jewish Guilt

Rabbi Adam Jacobs | Posted 09.25.2013 | Religion
Rabbi Adam Jacobs

Contrary to popular conception, Judaism rejects the mental state we call guilt and views it as a spiritual malady -- one that generally prevents people from making positive changes in their lives.

10 Ways To Say Goodbye To Caregiver Guilt

Alexis Abramson, Ph.D. | Posted 09.24.2013 | Fifty
Alexis Abramson, Ph.D.

Act from love, not from a sense of debt. If you think of caring for an aging loved one as repayment for all he or she's done for you, you'll always end up in the red. Instead, think of caregiving as one person helping another out of love.