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Words We Cannot Afford To Keep From Our Children

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 03.28.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

What was given to me at the airport -- comfort, assurance, security, and validation -- should be given to all children, and the time is now.

8 Ways To End The Day In Peace & Connection

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 10.02.2015 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

Perhaps time is running short and you only have a few seconds to say good night. Make it count by speaking words that nourish the human heart and foster growth & acceptance.

The Loss Of Life Beneath Your Skin & How To Revive It

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 09.11.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

My friend, you have feelings. They are real. They are worth listening to and acknowledging.

Vow to Breathe

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 09.08.2016 | Books
Rachel Macy Stafford

During my highly-distracted years, life was a blur -- the to-do lists took over ... my life was a constant mad dash to a finish line that couldn't be reached ... and my devices were gripped more tightly than the hands of my loved ones.

The Single Most Important Parenting Action We Can Take Today

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 09.08.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

I am now the parent of two beautiful girls. One of my vows when they were born was to pass my father's soul-building gift of listening on to them.

The 3-Second Pause That Can Save A Morning And Spare Some Pain

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 08.31.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

It was my children's first day back to school after a two-week holiday break. The school bus was due to pull up to the corner in four minutes. My daughters were doing their last-minute gathering of shoes, coats, water bottles, and lunches.

The Conversation I Almost Missed & The Future It Could've Cost

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 08.21.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

When I think about teaching my child a lesson, I want it to be one of love, forgiveness, and understanding. I want to be a safe haven, not a person to be feared or avoided, in times of despair.

8 Ways To Make A Not-So-Good Day Better

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 08.05.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

If you're feeling overwhelmed by the tasks ahead of you, remind yourself that you do not have to do them all at once -- just one. Just start with one

The Manager In My Home And The 5 Words That Changed Everything

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 07.29.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

I relish the fact that even when presented with the messiest tangles, the ones that look like they might have to be cut away, there is hope... there is growth... there are new beginnings if I loosen my grip a little and keep on trying.

Freeing Yourself From The Web

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 07.08.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

If I don't show my children the joys found offline in a culture inundated with screens, who will?

To Build (Or Break) A Child's Spirit

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 05.21.2016 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

I wish I'd abandoned the role of demanding taskmaster sooner, but I will not dwell on yesterday. Today matters more.

The One Question That Can Also Be An Answer

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 06.21.2015 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

Ask the question. Throw out a specific way you can help. Perhaps your offer will be accepted. Perhaps it won't. But you can bet that deep down in that person's soul, there will be relief -- sweet, sweet relief.

The Life Of The Party Is Closer Than You Think

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 06.15.2015 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

Don't worry about what you did or didn't do yesterday. Don't worry about that long list of flaws and failings no one is keeping but you. Your love and presence are the highlight of someone's life -- the highlight of someone's life. Keep waking up. Keep showing up.

The Only Reminders I Need When I've Had Enough

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 06.23.2014 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

Sometimes I find myself sitting behind the wheel of the car thinking, Enough. But then something happens to pull me out of my negative abyss and set my head on straight.

What I Hope My Own Mistakes Will Teach My Daughter

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 04.21.2014 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

The old me would have handed out a mighty dose of blame and shame, but never an apology. But things are different now. Thank goodness, things are different now.

Why I Can't Stop Taking Photos of My Kids

Cara Paiuk | Posted 03.29.2014 | Parents
Cara Paiuk

I want them to hear my voice, through movies and through my words. I want them to see themselves through my eyes, through my pictures. I want them to hear us laugh together. I want them to see that I could not stop kissing their delicious cheeks. I want them to see that I was happy. Because of them. Because of the love that enveloped us every day.

How To Choose What Really Matters

Posted 01.24.2014 | Parents

This is the second installment of our Stress-Less Parenting Challenge with Hands Free Mama, Rachel Macy Stafford. Read her introduction to the worksho...

One Word That Helped Me Stand Up To My Inner Bully

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 03.23.2014 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

If you think badgering, bullying, or constantly correcting your child will make him or her more likable, more confident, or more successful, please reconsider. Because the truth is this: It's hard to love yourself with a bully breathing down your neck.

What I Would Have Missed If I Didn't Make A Life Change

Posted 01.25.2014 | Parents

This is the first installment of our Stress-Less Parenting Challenge with Hands Free Mama, Rachel Macy Stafford. Read her introduction to the workshop...

Join Our Workshop With 'Hands Free Mama'

Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents

Over the last six months, millions of HuffPost Parents readers have read and shared posts by blogger Rachel Macy Stafford, aka "Hands Free Mama." Her ...

Two Words I'll Never Say To My Daughter Again

Rachel Macy Stafford | Posted 07.31.2014 | Parents
Rachel Macy Stafford

Although the words "hurry up" did little if nothing to increase my child's speed, I said them anyway. Maybe even more than the words, "I love you." The truth hurts, but the truth heals... and brings me closer to the parent I want to be.