My initial trek from Dallas to the Smoky Mountains last year was to explore options to help my divorce clients find retreat centers where they could heal. This time, my sole mission for taking a week off of my busy, divorce litigation schedule was to heal -- from my own divorce.
There are some stories I hear as a therapist I would never repeat. Not only because of confidentiality. Because I don't want someone else, who has not been listening and learning for 20 years, to have to cope with the horror of how parents can abuse their children.
Emotional and psychological trauma is the direct result of very unusually stressful events that tend to fracture our sense of safety and security. These events, like the tragic bombings in Boston this week, leave us feeling vulnerable and scared.
Let us stay united. Because next year the cheers will be louder. Next year even more of the world's everyday heroes will come together to overcome those 26.2 miles. And together we can overcome this tragedy.
We need to counter these horrific acts with examples of the opposite. For years I have been saying we are offering ugliness to our children in the name of entertainment and it is going to take its toll.
Grief and trauma are as real as our emotional and physical responses to it. Be present to the surprising waves and complexity of your responses. Be tender and compassionate with yourself and others. Become part of the triumph of goodness and hope.