Many fat activists are trying to reclaim the word "fat" as a neural descriptor, in the same way that we utilize words such as "tall" vs. "short." The problem is that in our culture the descriptor of "fat" has become synonymous with undesirable traits, such as being lazy, unattractive, and unhealthy.
Learning to trust myself has allowed me to be happy in my body in a way I never imagined possible. But it required that I stop judging my happiness by looking in the mirror and comparing my body to other women's bodies. It required that I look inside, listen to and trust my body, and find happiness by turning away from appearance and toward my heart.