There is something that you can do even in these situations where the person doesn't really tell you how you can help them. It is one of these hidden reasons that we may not always think of or realize unless we choose to really sit back and focus on the big picture.
My husband, David, and I have been married 37 years. What's the secret to the longevity of our relationship? I'm no expert, but I know I have never stopped dating David! We are still in love and enjoy being with each other.
Women who identify as spiritual people tend to have a very hard time admitting to themselves that they are jealous, especially of another woman's success, beauty or power. When jealousy arises, it tends to "go underground," and every single woman has experienced that result.
The aftermath of a relationship with an alcoholic/addict can often parallel that of a natural disaster. At least it has for me when I've ended relationships that were toxic, or for my clients when they have made the painful decision to move on.