I went through two of these major disasters in a row; jumping into the second one to numb the pain of the first. When the dust settled on the second crash, I barely recognized myself. Before I could even consider trusting another person, I had to rebuild my belief in my own judgement. It's still a daily practice, trusting that I can and will choose wisely.
Whether you are a man or a woman, you need to read this carefully if you're amongst the "I DIDN'T SEE IT COMING GUYS..." Maybe you heard him or her saying on the way out "It's not you...It's me." And you bought that. So perhaps you've been repeating to your pals and to yourself: "We had it all! We had the perfect relationship!"