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Helicopter Parents

How to Raise a Resilient Child

Christopher A. Brown | Posted 11.20.2015 | Parents
Christopher A. Brown

No matter how closely parents try to manage their children's lives they can't possibly protect them from life's trials and tribulations. Indeed, parents shouldn't protect their children from those things. Parents should guide their children instead in how to effectively manage the challenges they'll face on their own.

The Value of Figuring It Out

Hope Perlman | Posted 11.19.2015 | Parents
Hope Perlman

Helicopter Parent, Free Range Parent. These terms are so overused they're as thin as my cotton tee shirts have become. I consider myself on the continuum, somewhere between the extremes of ultra-permissive and overprotective. Somewhere sensible, somewhere kinda in the middle. You know, perfect.

What a Pre-Teen Taught Me About Rebounding From a Loss

Julie Halpert | Posted 11.18.2015 | Parents
Julie Halpert

There's been much discussion recently of helicopter parents and concerns that they're stifling the ability of young people to weather disappointment. We fear this generation lacks resilience, the ability to rebound from even the smallest crisis.

Why Did I End Up Hovering Over All The Kids At A Party?

Samantha Rodman PhD | Posted 11.10.2015 | Parents
Samantha Rodman PhD

There is obviously a disparity between what you think 3-year-olds are capable of and what the other parents think kids this age can do. It would be useful to examine this, and think about whether you yourself were treated as less capable than you were by your parents, or if they gave you too much independence, making you resolve to be there for your own kids at all times.

Submarine Parents

Mary McLaurine | Posted 10.27.2015 | Parents
Mary McLaurine

Thank you, sweet Mother Mary in Heaven above, for sending forth the Helicopter parent to remove every trace of Catholic mother guilt that has crippled me for years.

Setting Boundaries: Are You a Helicopter or Drone Parent?

Kimberly Cooper | Posted 10.15.2015 | Parents
Kimberly Cooper

Setting boundaries with our kids is a process. And we get to work at it with both imperfection and diligence. Regardless of where your parenting approach lies, seeking fellowship from other parents with similar goals -- especially those parents who are a little further along the parenting path is greatly beneficial

Magic in Yiayia's Steamer Trunk

Paola K Amaras | Posted 10.12.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Paola K Amaras

It was painted in battleship grey so many times, whenever a layer chipped, you'd be able to see the next layer of slightly-more-faded grey underneath....

Stop Blaming Helicopter Parents For Your Problems

The Huffington Post | Ann Brenoff | Posted 10.08.2015 | Fifty

The expression "helicopter parent," while not a new term for those of us who protectively hover over our children with our "we can fix it for you" to...

4 Parenting Essentials I Learned From My Adult Kids

Mary Novaria | Posted 10.08.2015 | Fifty
Mary Novaria

One of the most humbling things about my kids growing up is realizing that I still have growing up to do myself. I'm a reluctant empty nester. And while I'll always be my kids' mom, having the chicks out of the roost and on their own means I've had to adjust the way I parent.

3 Scientific Ways Helicopter Parenting Makes You Miserable (and What to Do Instead)

Lantern | Posted 09.30.2015 | Parents

There are so many modern parenting guides for raising successful (and intelligent, moral, creative, vegan, eco-friendly, bilingual, and musical) children, that trying to navigate the child-care section at the bookstore--let alone parenting itself--can be confusing.

Growing Young Adults: What Parents Need to Know About Your Children at College

Daniel R. Schwarz | Posted 09.30.2015 | College
Daniel R. Schwarz

Of course, we all like to think that it is the sons and daughters of others who experiment or do foolish things. Remember, too, that you did not share everything with your parents.

Parody Video Pokes Fun At Parents' 'Helicopter' Tendencies

The Huffington Post | Caroline Bologna | Posted 09.08.2015 | Parents

The Holderness family is back with another parody video, this time paying tribute to a well-known parental archetype: "The Helicopter Parent...

The Real Reason Why This Mom Hates Homework

Joy Page Manuel | Posted 08.21.2015 | Parents
Joy Page Manuel

I hate homework because it brings out that side of me I swore I'd never be as a parent. It brings out nothing but ambivalence in me as I do the dance of balancing involvement or support with trying to teach my child accountability, autonomy and self-discipline while still have him excel in all that he does.

Control Detox

Christine Nasserghodsi | Posted 08.27.2015 | Parents
Christine Nasserghodsi

I've learned that my role as a parent is changing. At work, I keep in mind the advice, "Know when to lead, when to follow, and when to get out of the way." This proves much harder and much more impactful in parenting.

8 Ways to Prepare Your Child for Kindergarten

Brent Almond | Posted 08.17.2015 | Parents
Brent Almond

Preparing your kid (and by "your kid," I mean you) for their first day of REAL SCHOOL is easier than you think. Just follow these few simple suggestions and everything will be absolutely, positively, one hundred percent perfect.

Hauling the Kids to College: Queen Bees and Worker Bees

Arlene Nisson Lassin | Posted 08.13.2015 | College
Arlene Nisson Lassin

Here's a salute to those moms whose knees are popping the day after and to those dads whose backs are aching today, who come back just a little bit lighter than when they left. (Lighter not necessarily from dropping weight from the physical labor, but because of a much lighter wallet.)

The Baby & the Butterfly: How Struggles Help Your Child Grow

Signe Whitson | Posted 08.03.2015 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Babies enter into the world utterly dependent on their caregivers. The art of good parenting comes in knowing when to help our children grow strong by letting them struggle on their own. The story of The Man and the Butterfly demonstrates the importance of helping wisely:

7 Ways America Needs to Be More Like Germany

Sophie Roth-Douquet | Posted 07.28.2015 | Teen
Sophie Roth-Douquet

In Germany there are bakeries on practically every corner. I lived in Stuttgart, a pretty big city in the south of Germany where I could see three bakeries just by looking out the window and swiveling my head slightly.

Helicopter Parents, It's Up to You to Let Go Now as Your Teens Get Ready For High School

Dorothy O'Keefe Diana | Posted 07.07.2015 | Parents
Dorothy O'Keefe Diana

Your children will begin to individuate and make their own decisions, like choosing their course work, becoming involved in sports or clubs, and seeking their identity based on those choices. This is where we as parents need to learn to let go. Micromanaging or helicoptering your children does not help them -- it actually harms them.

Helicopter Parenting Is A Trap. It's Time To Break Free

Julie Lythcott-Haims | Posted 06.15.2015 | Parents
Julie Lythcott-Haims

Why did parenting change from preparing our kids for life to protecting them from life, which means they're not prepared to live life on their own? And why do these problems I'm writing about seem rooted in the middle and upper middle classes?

Helicopter Parents, Prepare For Landing

The Huffington Post | Carolyn Gregoire | Posted 06.09.2015 | Science

Parents want their kids to be safe and protected -- but trying to shield a child from all of life's challenges can come at a cost. Psychologists h...

6 Job Tips for Recent Graduates: A Millennial's Guide to That First Post-Grad Job

Jill Jacinto | Posted 06.04.2015 | College
Jill Jacinto

You might have taken Psych 101 but chances are you never took a class on how to get a job or what to do when you scored your dream gig.

7 Ridiculous Park Rules I Don't Make My Kids Follow

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 05.26.2015 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

There are certain things that belong to just me: My cell phone. My wallet. My underwear. I'm not sharing these things with random people I meet at the park. Why should I force my children to share their prized possessions with kids they just met?

New Study Says A Working Mom Is A Plus for Kids

Liam Robb O'Hagan | Posted 05.21.2015 | Parents
Liam Robb O'Hagan

The findings don't surprise me. If parents are role models, then these are the sort of effects you would expect to see in the children of parents who work.

What Was So Great About A Gen X Childhood?

Daniel Cubias | Posted 05.20.2015 | Parents
Daniel Cubias

I'm here to tell you that growing up the way we did was not a long-term favor or blessed accomplishment. Let me be clear that I don't blame my parents. No, my disdain for nostalgia has more to do with cold, hard facts and unpleasant anecdotes than personal issues.