Ultimately, learning to accept defeat means learning to maintain our personal worthwhile feeling helpless. I highly recommend seeking support from someone who understands what it means to affirm personal worth, helping us override the cultural imperative to be victorious at all cost.
Being human is remarkable. We have the way. All that's needed is the will. The will to help each other through this and not hurt people. How do we find the will? Someone once wrote that all things began with a word.
We can't force someone to forgive. Therefore, the road to forgiveness may also involve understanding the person who has harmed us. This requires starting off on a journey that may entail a close examination of the person we need to forgive. The journey can be long and torturous.
Sometimes, we need to come together to move forward when something terrible happens. On June 12, 2016, Orlando was rocked by tragedy as a lone gunman opened fire inside Pulse Nightclub. Killing 49 people and wounding 53 more.
If you take care of all your needs, physically and mentally, then you will be able to fully care for your special needs child. And believe me, your child needs you in every possible area of his or her life, but you need to help yourself before you can help others.
Asking for help is hugely vulnerable... we all want to be seen as independent, self sufficient and needing help can feel like weakness. Sometimes it's also a way to avoid rejection or hurt, when what we ask for help with isn't met with the openness and cooperation we long for.
If you feel stuck and alone, and have no clue how to get out of it, I have great news. The answer is not as difficult as you think. You don't have to get through this alone. But first, you need to be brave enough to ask for help.