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Holly Sidell

My Journey After Testing Positive For The BRCA Cancer Gene Mutation

Holly Sidell | Posted 09.26.2016 | Women
Holly Sidell

All of these women are incredible fighters and survivors. And I don't think I'm brave like them. I don't believe I could go through it and be as courageous as they are.

5 Reasons Fitness Is Important In Dating And Relationships

Holly Sidell | Posted 07.20.2016 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

If it's a priority to you, then I think dating someone as activity and fitness minded as yourself has the more likely potential to lead to a successful long-term relationship than otherwise. Here's why:

Four Things I've Learned About Having A Healthy Relationship... and How Neil Strauss Helped Me Get There (Yes, That Neil Strauss)

Holly Sidell | Posted 10.28.2016 | Women
Holly Sidell

While I went on Strauss's journey with him in his book from world-famous Pick-Up Artist to monogamous happily married husband (and now father), it made me further think about and look at how I had been operating in relationships.

If We Want Better Love Lives, We Have to Start Making Better Choices

Holly Sidell | Posted 08.31.2016 | Women
Holly Sidell

I want a better love life, and so I have already begun making better choices. These choices are different for me, and it feels uncomfortable because it's not what I'm used to. But it makes me feel empowered and hopeful. Because I am not a victim to my love life anymore... and you don't need to be either.

5 Things I Learned From Dating A (Much) Younger Man

Holly Sidell | Posted 04.21.2015 | Women
Holly Sidell

You could be the most amazing, sexiest, coolest, smartest, funniest woman alive, but you can't do anything to change another person's emotional, mental or physical availability.

How I Stopped Being a Victim to the 'Higher Plan'

Holly Sidell | Posted 12.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

have the power to choose to live our lives in each present moment. We have the power to choose to do nothing until we know what to do.

The Only Piece of Dating Advice You Need

Holly Sidell | Posted 07.29.2014 | Women
Holly Sidell

Does all the dating advice you're hearing and trying to follow not feel authentic to you? Are you sick of beating yourself up for being something you're not?

What It Really Means When a Guy Says He's 'Scared'

Holly Sidell | Posted 05.13.2014 | Women
Holly Sidell

When a guy runs or even shuts down in the relationship because he says he's scared (if he truly is scared), he is showing you how he responds to discomfort. When he was feeling uneasy and uncomfortable, he bailed.

Letters From Loves Past

Holly Sidell | Posted 03.26.2014 | Women
Holly Sidell

I just moved into a new place, and amongst my boxes and boxes from storage, I came across a light blue satin bag, kept perfectly sealed at the top with a little white ribbon. I didn't remember this bag. So, I opened it.

What Monster of Protection Have You Created? (Guess What? It's Keeping You From What You Want)

Holly Sidell | Posted 11.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

We all have the power to change our lives and begin to draw in what we long for; it starts by going inward -- with compassion -- to see what monsters of protection we have created.

5 Rules for Proper Yoga Class Etiquette

Holly Sidell | Posted 10.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

When it's getting close to the end of class and it is time to stretch, please do not decide that in lieu of stretching you'd like to do arm balances that cause you to flop all over and fall on your neighbors who are in pigeon pose.

My Interview With a Professional Pick Up Artist (and Why Some Men Can't Make It Past the 'Chase')

Holly Sidell | Posted 09.18.2013 | Los Angeles
Holly Sidell

What if a man does want to pursue something and try to build a relationship? What if he thinks he's not supposed to want more, even though he does? Or, what if, point blank, he just has no clue what to do next?

When You Get Back in the Saddle Again, Expect to Fall

Holly Sidell | Posted 06.22.2013 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

I decided to dip my toe back into the water... and belly-flopped instead. I had set myself up to fail because I had set unreasonable expectations in place.

Dating Advice: Want to Know What Kind of a Man he is? Look at His Friends

Holly Sidell | Posted 04.17.2013 | Women
Holly Sidell

I admit that I am 100% guilty of not taking this advice in the past. I met one ex-boyfriend after his married best friend hit on me. Then, there was the guy whose friends all made a group pact that they would never get married.

You Are Not Helpless: How to Bring Light to the World

Holly Sidell | Posted 02.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

How do you light up the world? How do you bring light to another person's life? Each of us has the power to make the world a little bit brighter. Each of us can choose to shine our own light, transforming the darkness one flicker at a time.

Red Flags: Dating and Presidents

Holly Sidell | Posted 12.25.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

I would never get into a relationship with a man who was constantly contradicting himself and constantly changing his views on things based on appeasing other people... and I would never vote for a President like that, either.

Be Wary! Workouts Are Not One Size Fits All

Holly Sidell | Posted 12.11.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

An exercise training program must continually build, constantly offering the body and muscles new challenges so as not to plateau, and to continue to rev up the metabolism and build stamina. But how that is done is truly relative and specific to each client.

Bored? Uninspired? 6 Quick Fixes

Holly Sidell | Posted 11.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

Changing our state really isn't that hard. It's just that we've been programmed to reach for immediate gratification, for some sort of "medicine" to cover our discomfort, to reach for something external to fix us quickly, to lift us up. But all it takes is a different choice.

Do You Know What You Want To Be When You Grow Up? I Don't!

Holly Sidell | Posted 10.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

Maybe you feel like you are floundering from one thing to another, maybe you feel the pressure of society or your parents or your spouse to just pick a path already and stay on it, even if you hate it.

Desperation: Is it Keeping You From What (or Who) You Want?

Holly Sidell | Posted 09.05.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

When we want anything badly -- a job, a relationship, money, a stroke of creative genius, etc. -- it creates an air of desperation. And this energy of desperation acts like a rubber wall and a heavy coat of armor -- what you want can't get to you.

What Is Your Breakdown Trying to Tell You?

Holly Sidell | Posted 08.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

I am aware now that I need to deal with my real feelings. I have to actually feel the grief, feel the fear. I have to process it all. Which sucks, honestly. It's painful. Who wants to feel pain? But, it's the only way through it.

Why Didn't He Call?

Holly Sidell | Posted 07.24.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

I know how awful that is; that sinking feeling in your stomach, the heat flashes or chills running through your body when you realize a few days, weeks or months have gone by and he hasn't called.

He Didn't Call When I Wanted Him To!

Holly Sidell | Posted 07.16.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

Many women get upset when a man doesn't act on her time line. But here's the thing -- he doesn't know about our time line unless we tell him about it

Deal Breakers: Are They the Reason You're Still Single?

Holly Sidell | Posted 06.10.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

Maybe your pickiness, your deal breakers, are really just walls you're putting up to keep you from getting hurt.

Why I Owe Courtney from 'The Bachelor' an Apology

Holly Sidell | Posted 05.13.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

We've all been in love. And we've all been TERRIFIED of having that love not returned or having that love taken away. We each have our own defenses we put up to try to keep us from that hurt.