Luckily, we haven't run into any outright bigotry with any of our wedding vendors, so we feel very fortunate. But every time I see a form or am asked for the name of my soon-to-be wife, it's another conversation to have.
I watched the news and concentrated on the positive: the outpouring of love, the strangers helping strangers and the marathoners finishing the race and running directly to Mass General Hospital to give blood. This was Boston and her people at their finest. And then I read this tweet.
Peter is a gay man I slept with once. When he did come home with me and we were naked in my bed, he kissed my neck, and I moaned, high-pitched and breathy. He stopped, looked me in the eye and said, "Don't do that. It's faggy."
If we can show businesses that equality pays and that homophobia hurts not only their reputation but their pocketbook, we can elicit change. And as businesses change their ways, they will interact with more LGBT people, and they will learn that LGBT people are just like everyone else.
If Facebook refuses to ban those pages due to freedom of speech concerns which are valid, how can Facebook then ban images of women breastfeeding or breast cancer body paintings or 19th century art for that matter?
This week I had one of those productive conversations on transgender issues with a manager. She confessed that she had deliberately steered away from reading about these issues in the past, though not from squeamishness but because "both sides just seem so angry all the time."
When a heterosexual woman is accompanied by her partner, her chances of being harassed go down. For LGBTQ individuals the opposite happens. I've been harassed for holding hands with a boy. It's not news to anyone that it happens, but it does happen with alarming frequency.
I am tired of catching flies with honey. I am tired of being expected to sit up straight, smile pretty, guard my words and "agree to disagree" with those who are actively fighting to deny me full citizenship in my own country, so that I don't offend their delicate sensibilities.
After publishing a recent HuffPost blog post on the rights of gays and lesbians, I received an email from an activist opponent of same-sex marriage and proponent of the notion that homosexuals are defective people who must be "fixed."
About a 3 or 4 million years ago, two young cavemen, Ook and Zowie, fell in love. They hid their love from the rest of their clan by secretly going off to the far, dark corners of the cave to kiss and cuddle.
For the record, Dave Agema was not debating. He was spreading lies and distortions derived from bad sources. With free speech comes responsibilities and the main responsibility is the hope that one doesn't use his or her free speech to spread lies and deceptions.