Privately, Patti Stanger has free reign to share with her clients generalized observations about particular communities stemming from years of experience. However, when broadcast on TV, those same comments come across as uncalled for -- and unfair -- stereotypes.
One night four years ago, I became obsessed by the idea that if I could meet a gay man, couple or family from every state, photograph them and tell their stories, I could make a book that would change hearts and minds.
I set out curiously to find out what exactly happens inside the tents of the gay camps at Burning Man. I wondered if I had what it takes to go a week without showering. "What?" Brenden asked. "Trust me, the gays bring showers."
Will Chaz Bono's gig on Dancing with the Stars offend some people? Most definitely. What's more important is the courage that Chaz lends and will continue to lend to others who haven't yet gained the courage to be themselves.
"Professional gay" is in some ways just as restricting as the overarching "gay." Still, I'm not stupid enough to refer to myself as "post-gay." The label comes off ungrateful, at best, and plain ignorant, at worst.
CONAN: I was born a barbarian, on the battlefield.
BACHMANN: Nobody is born a barbarian. It's a lifestyle choice. You've just been confused by popular culture into thinking being a barbarian is acceptable.
The discourse of "sin" has no place in the political culture of a liberal democracy. Such discourse lends support to the historical fiction of America as a "Christian nation," and limits morality as the special province of the religious.
This year, change.org had a petition drive to protest Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz' plans to speak on leadership at Willow Creek, which was described as having a "long history of anti-gay persecution."
Bert and Ernie are just friends. I know that because the producers of Sesame Street told me so. Does the gay rights movement really want to be seen as forcing two men to get married irrespective of their actual say in the matter?
You might think that sexual orientation is a bit more intractable than simply making a choice, like deciding whether to wear black shoes or brown shoes with my new suit. And like an answer to my prayers, there's presidential candidate Michele Bachmann.
How is it that I came out the other side of Gay Pride month more confused then ever? When you're a professional and 36 -- fine, 40 (alright 43!) -- how do you maneuver through the changing gay dating scene?