Gay people have to be courageous to accept ourselves, be honest about our feelings, and live our lives. I struggle with that courage every day, but when I read the bull**** that people say, I just want to stand tall with my chest puffed out and say, "I'm a homosexual and there ain't nothin' wrong with that!"
Bindel's rage at the current state of play burns through every page, but is juxtaposed with moments of surprising poignancy as she reflects on her own early days as part of a very different "community" -- that of the Gay Liberation Front, which is the point of comparison on which much of her argument rests.
I can admit now, after years of "doing the work," that I was terrified of bottoming, because I didn't want to be perceived as anything other than a man. I convinced myself that topping was the only dignified position. Here are my top five "learnings" from my cake-clenching, chastity-belt-wearing days.