Early in my medical training a sage family physician, Jack Medalie, reminded us students that there's often a "hidden patient whose suffering goes unnoticed." Medalie was referring to family members who may be struggling as much or even more than the person that is being directly cared for by the doctor.
I think there are many things you could call me. You could call me stubborn. You could call me opinionated. You could even call me anxious -- when I am anxious. Just don't let that be the benchmark for my health care, or a convenient thing to write when you can't find anything else wrong, or are so intent on not listening to me that you can't hear me.