Rules bring about order, and order is much easier to cope with than guilt of being selfish. So I'll share the only rules I live by, the ones that have had me traveling the world, falling in love, making big moves after cancer.
Even if you don't like setting New Year's resolutions, many of us still tend to see the new year as a clean slate, like a new day we can use to start over. We can hit the refresh button on our lives and start to do things differently.
It is possible for meetings to be effective and efficient. In fact, you can actually structure and run meetings that people are excited to attend. But it takes preparation, a smooth preamble, and effective paraphrasing.
The truth is that each of us can have a greater, stronger, longer-lasting effect on our self-esteem than the cultural influences -- negative or positive -- we encounter. How? True confidence actually grows from adopting various self-esteem-boosting habits over time.
This isn't about not holding myself accountable for my actions; it's about no longer reflexively blurting out an apology I don't really owe. It's about changing my default setting from unnecessary guilt.