It is possible for meetings to be effective and efficient. In fact, you can actually structure and run meetings that people are excited to attend. But it takes preparation, a smooth preamble, and effective paraphrasing.
The truth is that each of us can have a greater, stronger, longer-lasting effect on our self-esteem than the cultural influences -- negative or positive -- we encounter. How? True confidence actually grows from adopting various self-esteem-boosting habits over time.
This isn't about not holding myself accountable for my actions; it's about no longer reflexively blurting out an apology I don't really owe. It's about changing my default setting from unnecessary guilt.