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How to Say No

Why It's OK to Be the Bad Guy

Kara Post-Kennedy | Posted 05.18.2015 | Parents
Kara Post-Kennedy

We teach our kids to share, especially with children who may have less than they do. We teach our kids to cooperate and compromise, especially if they have a tendency to bully for their own way.

How To Say No To Your Kids

Christine Carter | Posted 06.30.2015 | Parents
Christine Carter

It is up to us parents to help our kids shift their perspective from the constant need for instant gratification to a deeper understanding of self-control.

4 Tips To Help You Say 'No'

Z Zoccolante | Posted 03.29.2015 | Healthy Living
Z Zoccolante

Just because we're able to do something it doesn't mean we should or that we need to. When we do things out of obligation it feels like a chore. When we do things out of love, they feel like a joy. So are you able to? Do you want to?

You Can Say NO: 8 Ways to Refuse Gracefully

Lisabeth Saunders Medlock, Ph.D. | Posted 03.23.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisabeth Saunders Medlock, Ph.D.

It is great to be open to life, experiences, people and things. And it is wonderful to throw open your arms and say YES. Sometimes, that is. There is ...

What Can You Stop Doing?

Megan Dalla-Camina | Posted 11.30.2014 | Women
Megan Dalla-Camina

How's your to-do list looking today? Lot's of really important stuff that you must get done to keep things moving on the work and home front? I get it. But what I would also like you think about is what can come off the list

Just Say No... To Your Kids

Dana Westreich Hirt | Posted 11.08.2014 | Parents
Dana Westreich Hirt

Why do we struggle so to say NO? We don't want our kids to be mad at us. We don't want to disappoint them. We don't want to sit in the blistering storm of their rage.

The 1 Vital Skill You Need to Command Respect Like Beyoncé: Without Sequins and a Pro Styling Team

Susan Harrow | Posted 10.21.2014 | Business
Susan Harrow

Capturing someone's attention and getting them to do exactly what you want isn't about being the loudest or shiniest one in the room. It's about saying precisely what needs to be said, and not one word more. It's about calculated brevity. And if you study today's top celebrities, you'll see: it's an art form.

Dear Parents: You Can Say No

Claire McCarthy, M.D. | Posted 09.29.2014 | Parents
Claire McCarthy, M.D.

"You can say no," I find myself saying to family after family. Which is kind of an amazing thing to have to say, if you think about it

The Perfect Way To Say No (And Make It Stick)

| Jeff Haden | Posted 07.11.2014 | Small Business

Saying yes to too many opportunities, too many projects, and too many people is a recipe for failure. As entrepreneur Derek Sivers likes to say, "No m...

How to Say "No" While Laughing Along the Way

Katherine Wintsch | Posted 09.08.2014 | Women
Katherine Wintsch

I was stopped in my tracks one day when a client asked me "what I did for fun" outside the office. It was the ONLY question he had all day that I couldn't answer.

The 5 Most Important Words In Parenting

Joshua Wayne | Posted 09.06.2014 | Parents
Joshua Wayne

Any time you allow a child to get away with a certain behavior, the message you're sending is that the behavior is OK. If there are no real consequences to his actions, all he can assume is that what he did is OK and he can get away with it.

The Conversation That Could Save Your Teen's Life (And Your Own)

Glennon Melton | Posted 08.24.2014 | Parents
Glennon Melton

When our kids become adolescents, their world changes so much that sometimes it feels to them that they've landed on a new planet. They are babies in this new complicated world of teen-dom. And so we need to start over, because a more complicated world calls for a more complicated language.

How to Say 'No' in Business and Your Personal Life

Shelly Ulaj | Posted 06.16.2014 | Women
Shelly Ulaj

Being able to assert yourself and knowing "when to say when" is a trait that many wish to possess. Those who do possess this admirable quality can attest to the ongoing benefits of saying "no," not only in their business lives but in their personal lives as well.

Forget Conscious Uncoupling; Try Conscious Unscheduling

Gail Becker | Posted 06.07.2014 | Women
Gail Becker

I recently sat next to a successful Hollywood executive over dinner. He let it slip that he was oddly looking forward to the following day. "Why?" I inquired, imagining an impressive gathering of executives discussing a potential multi-million dollar deal. I couldn't have been more wrong.

Volunteering When You Need to Just Say No

Jenny Witte | Posted 05.07.2014 | Parents
Jenny Witte

Saying no isn't always easy, but you CAN get better at it. Here are some tips on how to make peace with doing less.

Today's Buddha Doodle: How to Say No

Molly Hahn | Posted 04.26.2014 | Good News
Molly Hahn

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Can't Say No? Say Yes Instead

Liz O'Donnell | Posted 03.15.2014 | Women
Liz O'Donnell

We work hard to be accommodating and agreeable, and by casting ourselves in that role over and over, we begin to believe that is what others expect of us. And often, it is.

Brené Brown: 3 Ways To Set Boundaries

Posted 12.09.2013 | OWN

Dr. Brené Brown As our calendars swell with obligations, it's important to recommit to one thing that can help keep us sane: boundaries. T...

Just Say No to the PTA -- An Open Letter to Myself

Anna Sandler | Posted 11.05.2013 | Parents
Anna Sandler

The kids go back to school next week, and let's face it, that means you do, too. But it doesn't have to mean that. It could mean freedom and relaxation this year instead of endless PTA projects and class mom responsibilities that never seem to end. Self, let's do things differently this year.

Why Can't 'No' Mean 'No'?

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 09.29.2013 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

My 13-year-old son refuses to take 'no' for an answer. No matter how much I explain why I won't raise his allowance or let him watch an inappropriate movie, he follows me around, demanding better reasons. It makes me so angry! Why can't 'no' mean 'no'?"

The Year of the No: One Woman's Journey to the Dark Side of Yes

Sue Fliess | Posted 09.11.2013 | Parents
Sue Fliess

In my quest to be Every Woman, I'd lost sight of the very people I was killing myself to do it all for. Somewhere along the way, I'd stopped noticing my 8-year-old's copious kisses before school and how my older boy has my dad's soulful eyes.

Say 'No' Without Feeling Bad About It

Alexandra Franzen | Posted 06.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Alexandra Franzen

We all know that we need to say "no" about 1,000 times more than we say "yes." But we don't. And we pay the price, with over-cluttered calendars, over-saturated psyches, chronically-elevated stress hormones, and tightly-clenched shoulders that never quite sink away from our earlobes.

4 Tips for Saying "No" with Power and Grace

Women & Co | Posted 06.24.2013 | Business
Women & Co

The way we deliver our message is as important as the message itself. Our goal is to deliver our message in a way that is full of warmth, empathy and appreciation for the other person because, everything else being equal, we'd rather be nice than not. Here are four tips to help you say "no."

This Is The Most Powerful Word In The Dictionary

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

The ability to be assertive and say "no" is a communication skill we all learn at a very young age. If you're a parent, you know better than anyone that once this word enters a child's vocabulary it's used very often. However, as an adult, "no" is often much more difficult to say.

Are You Too Accommodating? When (And How) To Start Saying 'No'

Posted 10.31.2012 | Healthy Living

By Kate Lowenstein Picture yourself in the following situations: Your boss wants you to stay late on Friday -- your long-planned date night. ...