The only thing I care about is: Are you embracing and expressing the unique flavor of your own masculinity? That's the real question.
I have had my ass kicked in New York City gyms so many times by a super fit, high energy woman who has pushed me through a tsunami of sweat to discover muscle fibers that I never knew existed and muscle soreness that I never knew was possible.
It's dark. Very dark. And I'm in the woods, surrounded by strange men with flashlights on their heads. I'm cold. Hungry. And really scared. A guy with neck tattoos is squinting at me. Please, God, don't let me piss him off.
Don't lie. She will find out. When you break trust with a woman; you rock her very foundation. Don't change the rules and pretend that you didn't. Don't make her think that she is crazy to protect your lies. Really. Don't screw with a woman's internal GPS.
Beauty leads to vulnerability, and beauty is most often seen as a feminine quality. These concepts are thoroughly, almost obviously embedded in our culture.
I wear dresses to embrace femininity (adjective) but not to re-assign my gender to female (noun). I think that it is absurd to think that there is a rigidity to the identity of CIS and Heterosexual males and females, that for a man to wear a dress or for a woman to wear pants means they are LGBTQ.
Today, I am not a member of one single Man Tribe. Where did my Man Tribe go? I'm far from alone here. Most guys, not just my age, but those much younger and older than me, just don't hang out with other guys anymore. The Man Tribe, for most of us, has died. Why?
Every year, I'm stymied by finding an appropriate Father's Day card. The majority of the cards refer to barbecues, beer, golfing, fishing, sleeping, having the answers, giving advice, or passing gas. How did these things become the image of fathers?
I reject the term "skinny fat" for its inherent shaming connotations, but deep down I'm almost positive that's what I am.
This is an issue that affects all of us and the only way we will succeed is by including boys and men in our conversation about how to end gender-based violence. Gender-based violence is a silent epidemic that has male victims, too.
When a white man touches a painting, he is in effect rallying against the idea that something will not bend to make itself accessible to him. He is airing his frustration that something so symbolic of intellect could evade him.
Here's the thing, society: Real men do cry. Real men do feel. Real men talk and grieve and walk with vulnerable hearts instead of clenched-tight ones.
With Pride month upon us LGBT folks from throughout the country will spend the month partying and taking Pride in our community. Flags will fly and parades will be had. In many ways mainstream America will witness the media perpetuated stereotype of LGBT community.
While is it common knowledge that dogs, in particular male dogs, urine scent mark their territories, human males often mark their territories in other forms more noxious and poisonous than urine.
The belief that both men and women deserve equal rights (and by extension that all people do) is gaining acceptance worldwide. But it still hasn't translated into the way that we relate to other living beings.
While girls are given the freedom these days to be strong, think about giving your boys the freedom to be tender and soft.