We aren't out to fix boys; we're out to build better men... by creating the conditions whereby their predisposition to be good friends, good partners and spouses, and ultimately good fathers will shine.
We frequently ascribe traits to someone (violent, intelligent, cheap, successful), on the basis of something irrelevant to the matter at hand, such as ethnicity, religion, sex, or nationality -- whichever we may take issue with, for reasons of our own ignorance or unprocessed baggage.
How the hell are we supposed to know a real man when we think we've found one if there's not even close to a consensus on what one is!? Fortunately for you, I've taken the effort to compile a definitive guide on the matter.
John eventually voiced that he found the celebrity statement sick and that I was not being heard and the conversation shut down from there. Just like that, one man changed the flow of conversation.
Across scholarship that seeks to advocate for progressive and varied representations of Black masculinity, one rejoices in the visibility of a gay Black man such as the character of Jamal.
It is so easy to keep the blinders on and live the lifestyle of which most of us have been conditioned towards where materialism and consumption are paramount. Adapting to and seeking out change is more difficult yet far more rewarding.
For much of my life, I have taken what I was born with, mixed it with what the world has given me and crafted the man that everyone else sees. I've also learned to like who I am, regardless of how others see me. That's really no different than what Russell Tovey did.
It's the bull I saw last night... and he's bringing up the tail end of the stampede. I'd like to think there's a moment of acknowledgement as he obliterates the air alongside me.
I was the very embodiment of everything our society worries could go wrong with a little boy, and in my small Midwestern town in the early '80s, I was every father's nightmare awoken and menacingly mincing my way through our local mall's food court.
It goes without saying that men and women are different in infinite ways. And it goes without saying that women can be a bit more verbal about how they are feeling.
Are Bill O'Reilly's trousers really ablaze at the moment? Is he really just lying about his "combat" experience down there in the no-man's-land of Bue...
Modern masculinity is measured not by a stoicism that makes us resemble an inanimate object (a rock, a pillar) but by a capacity for feeling, a capacity to be moved -- even moved to tears. It may once have been true that, as the Cure sang, "Boys don't cry." But not anymore. Today, real men cry.
Barbershops are incubators for masculinity. As a visibly queer person, regardless of gender, entering a space like that can be intimidating and even scary. But under the right circumstances, going to the barber can also be a positive and affirming experience.
Porn should not be leading the conversation in social or racial issues, and we shouldn't be charging them to even contribute to that conversation. Right sentiment but wrong space. Porn is all about desire and losing inhibitions, at least behind a monitor. By its very nature porn caters to a person's fantasy and their innate impulses.
Throughout this process I've left Barrett the boy and have become Barrett the man. A man who released the shame he felt for wanting to love another man. A man who addressed issues that were holding him back. A man who has started to live authentically. A real man.
My favorite part is a little over a minute in, when the boy in the yellow shirt realizes that his interpretation of #LikeAGirl insulted girls, including possibly, his own sister. I love this ad so very much. However, as a boy mom, I just have to say... what about the boys?