During my career as a clinical social worker, I have seen domestic violence across all demographics and communities and have witnessed how it severely impacts people's ability to function daily, feel safe in the world, and connect with others.
I really had to fight to keep my mouth shut when I heard that midlife crisis comment. Oh, and that other one about 60 being "old" and too late to make changes.
He doesn't say he was raped, but he doesn't have to. I know what he is trying to say. Like most victims, the full sentence, "I was raped," is one we resist speaking at all. The label is too grotesque to add to our conscience.
There is no doubt that historically, oppressive patriarchal societies have caused mayhem to women in the past and today, but do we ever think to ourselves, were men truly "free" in these systems, despite being the privileged sex?
Changing family dynamics, a shifting economic landscape, the surge of women into the workforce and public life are all adding pieces to the kaleidoscopic picture of what it means to be a man in America today. Begging the question: Just who is the 21st Century Man?
The journey to body acceptance is a vigorous fight, and one that involves both genders. It requires both sexes to rise above the grossly defined standards for beauty and attractiveness. We can work together to create a world built in understanding of human depth and uniqueness and not on shallow evaluation of appearance.
Sexual violence can have such serious and lasting repercussions for survivors and bystanders alike that even one sexual assault is still too many.
I came away from the conference confident we are that much closer to gender equality in the United States -- and are making strides in developing nations. But I also know there is enormous work to be done.
As a member of I.M.P.A.C.T (Intelligent Men Purposefully Accomplishing College Together), I take part in frequent discussions about violence against women and the role we play in the overall equation. I've readied myself to be able to step in and prevent assault from happening if the situation presents itself.
Does "black gay privilege" still hold when trying to negotiate a raise or a promotion? It is one thing to evaluate a person's multiple social identities on paper and quite another to evaluate that individual in person.
The isolation I felt while growing up chilled me to the bone. I did not know what was happening to me. I did not know boys could be raped. I did not know which words to use to describe my feelings.
We aren't out to fix boys; we're out to build better men... by creating the conditions whereby their predisposition to be good friends, good partners and spouses, and ultimately good fathers will shine.
We frequently ascribe traits to someone (violent, intelligent, cheap, successful), on the basis of something irrelevant to the matter at hand, such as ethnicity, religion, sex, or nationality -- whichever we may take issue with, for reasons of our own ignorance or unprocessed baggage.
How the hell are we supposed to know a real man when we think we've found one if there's not even close to a consensus on what one is!? Fortunately for you, I've taken the effort to compile a definitive guide on the matter.
John eventually voiced that he found the celebrity statement sick and that I was not being heard and the conversation shut down from there. Just like that, one man changed the flow of conversation.
Across scholarship that seeks to advocate for progressive and varied representations of Black masculinity, one rejoices in the visibility of a gay Black man such as the character of Jamal.