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The Broken Crib -- Future Loss Experienced Through Divorce

Leah Dillon | Posted 02.05.2016 | Divorce
Leah Dillon

Rivers of tears. Rivers and rivers, accompanied by some sniffling, and a wet hand trying to smear away the bursting streams that flooded - refusing to cease. My tears.

Stop Getting Drunk on the Drama

Mary Holloway | Posted 01.18.2016 | Divorce
Mary Holloway

A decision that someone made hurt me deeply. I spent a small amount of time in a pity party of my own making. I was exhausted, and I didn't have the energy to do anything about it, so I just let it wash over me for a time.

The 2 Most Common Ways We Offload Hurt

OWN | Lisa Capretto | Posted 01.08.2016 | OWN

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Sometimes Not Helping Really Helps!

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 12.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Think about that the next time you find yourself trying to rescue yourself or someone else from the consequences of their actions. Learning how to learn from our experiences may be one of the wisest things that we ever do. It sure beats the alternative!

Giving Voice to Grief

Rabbi Joshua Stanton | Posted 11.23.2015 | Religion
Rabbi Joshua Stanton

It goes without saying that no two people grieve in the same way. Everyone's needs are different at a time of loss, as are everyone's emotions. But in giving voice to one's own grief, others who have not been given the chance to express themselves can likewise find their voice.

Do You Dare to Pop This Question?

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 11.09.2015 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Be careful what you ask, you may get an answer. After an evening of sharing the living room sofa together while they watched a romantic movie, Brandon...

Psychotherapy in (and of) Everyday Life

Jane Simon, M.D. | Posted 09.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Jane Simon, M.D.

We don't often stop to realize that our daily interactions with other people -- to whom we might feel love, hate or indifference -- can help us bec...

The Incredible Way Your Emotions Are Causing You Physical Pain

LittleThings.com | Posted 05.29.2015 | Healthy Living
LittleThings.com

We spoke to some experts in order to find out more about the relationship between emotions and pain in specific areas of the body. Scroll through until you find the pain you've been experiencing to see what emotions might be causing the pain!

Mean Girls Are Hurting The Most

Kristina Tsipouras | Posted 06.20.2015 | Women
Kristina Tsipouras

Cruelty comes from those who are the most insecure, who are not yet comfortable in their own skin, have not developed a strong sense of self-worth and who have yet to make major shifts in their lives to access inner peace and happiness.

Taming the Beast: How I Stopped the Blame Game From Controlling My Life

Lauren Kruczyk | Posted 06.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Lauren Kruczyk

I escaped the cage and found freedom from the wood pellets and stale feeder food. Maybe certain people tried to look for me; maybe they didn't. I didn't care. I was a hamster with a plan. I came to a fork, took the road less traveled and began running like my life depended on it (and hey, maybe it did).

5 Ways to Learn From Troubling Times

Kathleen Pasley | Posted 03.28.2015 | Healthy Living
Kathleen Pasley

Most of us dread and despise difficult times -- whether it be financial woes, relationships breaking down, marriages ending, losing a job, fighting wi...

Looking for Trust in All the Wrong Places

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 11.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Relationships don't begin with trust. Trust is built day-by-day by two people who demonstrate trust-worthiness through their words and actions.

When Being Wrong Is Right

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 09.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

When people hurt or frighten us and the differences between us erupt in anger, we have an opportunity to practice and strengthen these qualities.

If You Really Loved Me, You Would...

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We control to get love and avoid pain, yet by controlling rather than loving ourselves and others, we create the very pain we are trying to avoid. The negative aspects of your relationship and your expectations are fertile areas for exploration within yourself and with your partner.

Sexual Rejection From Your Partner Damages Your Self-Esteem

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 08.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

When your partner consistently avoids sex and intimacy, or on the rare occasion when they are willing, are obviously doing so reluctantly -- the accumulations of repeated rejections are likely to have a big impact on your self-esteem.

Why 'It's Not You, It's Me' Isn't the Worst Breakup Excuse

Christina Scribner | Posted 07.14.2014 | Women
Christina Scribner

Sometimes a person will sacrifice their happiness to make a better future for the both of you. This is called bravery.

Domestic Violence, Part 1

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 05.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert C. Jameson

What is it? What are the stages? And, how can it be prevented? Domestic violence is a nice clinical name for a battering relationship or a relati...

Lost Your Mojo?

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 05.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Being in touch with our yearning, and anchoring our desire, is not an event, but an ongoing process. In taking it on we strengthen our motivation. And for whatever our heart desires, that's always a good thing.

Creating Love and Joy in Your Life -- More or Less

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 04.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert C. Jameson

Most people say they want more love and joy in their lives, but they are often confused on how to create these experiences. What can we do, in very practical terms, to create more love and joy in our lives?

What Happened to Our Primary Agreements?

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 04.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert C. Jameson

We often have several "primary agreements" in our intimate relationships. We agree to take care of each other, as well as to be nice, to protect and not to hurt each other. "I've got your back! I wont hurt you, and I wont let any one else hurt you! You're safe with me!"

The Top Four Reasons Spouses Cheat -- And What To Do About It

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 03.05.2014 | Divorce
Robert C. Jameson

No matter what resolution you decide, to repair the relationship or to end the relationship, at some point in time, the acceptance process comes into play. How can you accept that your life has been turned upside-down?

Jealousy

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert C. Jameson

We can't control anything or anyone outside of ourselves. We can only control how we react or how we respond to what is going on outside of ourselves. So when something happens, we can either contract or expand. It's a choice.

Apologies and Forgiveness: Ramping Up the Reality Factor

Deanna Brann, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Deanna Brann, Ph.D.

Saying you are sorry takes a lot of courage because it makes you vulnerable. I know being vulnerable is scary, but if you think about it, it's the price you pay for hurting someone. No one likes to apologize, but no one likes to be hurt either.

The Anatomy of Hurt

Naomi Kehati Bronner | Posted 11.09.2013 | Women
Naomi Kehati Bronner

The jungle of relationships in which we all live is filled with opportunities to feel incompetent, unworthy, flawed and wronged. But when such a troubled and chronic dynamic evolves between two people at home or work, both make it possible.

10 Factors That Promote Intimacy

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 10.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Relationships and people require intimacy in order to thrive. When we make the effort to give attention to bringing the conditions into our relationship that encourage and promote intimacy, it's not only our relationships that benefit but our lives in general.