Since I wrote the article Seven Signs It's More Than Just Cold Feet and toured with my solo show Bad Bride I have received a number of emails from strangers asking for advice. I wanted to share one of those messages (edited for anonymity) and my reply because I think the conversation may be helpful for others that feel stuck in a relationship.
I knew what I was getting into when I went to see Amy the new documentary about Amy Winehouse. I had trepidations knowing what I had gone through with my own husband's battle with alcoholism. We all know her fate. I knew her ending before it happened exactly the same way I knew my husband's ending with this horrible disease.
There's a real conflict in the messages that go out to young girls: on the one hand it's study hard, become someone important, invest in your career and be independent, and on the other hand you have the wedding industry and the society magazines saying: get married, that will be the most important day of your life, that will define you and validate you.