Maybe pessimism, stress, and fatigue are dominating your path -- and holding you back from the life you want to lead. The good news is that there is a way to shift your perception toward optimism. Here's how.
By cultivating tolerance for our own feelings, and softening to one another rather than constricting, healthy and mindful marriages have a fighting chance.
9/11, a massive wakeup call for our whole country, was also a strong reminder for me as a physician. It reminded me to not assume anything about my patients, and that a person's life story is as important as their symptoms in determining what will happen with their illness.
Many of us associate surrender with weakness, giving up, and losing. But what if surrender wasn't actually any of these things at all? What if surrender was in fact an empowering choice that you made?
Ten months ago, my youngest sister passed away after a seven-year relationship with cancer. What a roller coaster it was. During the highs and lows, the healing and the blows, she never lost sight of what it might teach her. She was the most courageous person I have ever known.
Meditation has no set rules or structures. It asks simply that you pay attention, that you make friends with being quiet, with sitting still, with doing nothing. This is a space just for you to be with yourself, to remember your dreams and who you really are. In this quiet space you become your own best friend and, therefore, a better friend to all.
This should be obvious, but there are so many people out there who seem to forget how much of a difference kindness can make. When people are kind to each other, it's contagious. Kindness breeds kindness, and there's nothing wrong with that. I believe it takes more energy to be unkind, so why bother?
I've had both horrible and amazing bosses and teachers, and I've watched my kids experience the same. In the end, the difference between success and failure comes down to intent. Every employee and every student wants to know -- do you want me to be successful?
Sure, allow yourself some time to mourn the end of summer -- lazy days, fire-lit nights, afternoon swims, long walks to nowhere in particular. But not too long. The end of summer is not a surprise or a tragedy. You knew it was coming, and you know it will be back
My recent experience taught me that doctor and patient are two sides of the same coin -- and it's a toss up, literally, which side we are on. Every day.
We all feel fearful when we are pursuing something big in our lives. It's scary to drop what you've been doing for years and take a different path. It is scary to invest money in a project that we don't know is going to be profitable. Nothing in this life is certain (well, they say that only taxes and death are).
Perhaps relationship bliss is that simple: swallowing an easy-to-fling, hard-to-retract jibe, and instead being polite. It might just bring us closer to the peace we crave, at very little cost.
Gratitude is part of the puzzle; the other main part is being kind to myself. I have cranky, sad and lethargic moments too. But instead of criticizing myself at those times OR faking gratitude I have experimented with another practice backed by science.
Are you ready for the transition to a new season? A melancholy sadness can creep into our spirit as summer closes.
I hope I never forget that tepid breeze of death and how nearby it always is -- for all of us. I hope I never forget how tired my body/mind feels these days because I always want to be mindful of this body and care for it when it is tired.
Is there reason to celebrate? Yes. To practice and talk about meditation without shame or misconceptions is a great, free feeling. I wait with delicious anticipation to see who of the who's who will come out of the meditation closet next.