Breaking away from your regular routine will let you test whether your life can be significantly better if you live differently. Maybe that means living in a different country, learning a new skill, changing jobs or completing your bucket list. But even as exciting as it sounds and the happiness it promises, the decision doesn't come easy.
If you want to be miserable, keep trying to win the "I have it harder than you do" award. If you want to be happy, express gratitude for the person on the other side.
This may sound extremely contradictory, but when you find yourself crazed, anxious, stressed, and just a tad (okay, maybe insanely) overwhelmed, one of the best things you can do for yourself is slow down.
I'll admit that before I experienced grief firsthand, I, too, was at a loss for words. Now that I've been on both sides, I'd like to offer a few suggestions for what not to say to a newly grieving person.
What makes watching things stressful -- like taking in a performance, rooting for a friend, or even seeing a scary movie -- is also what makes them. It's all in how it's framed.
I've made a lot of mistakes. In my early 20s, I led a youth group and it didn't go well -- in fact it went so badly that I got asked to stop leading it and had to step down. This really hurt. However, it was through this process that I learnt vital lessons about what my strengths and weaknesses are.
If we can acknowledge that the anti-habitual effects and effort of consciousness are partly what make meditation hard, we can begin to truly just be where we are.
Maybe pessimism, stress, and fatigue are dominating your path -- and holding you back from the life you want to lead. The good news is that there is a way to shift your perception toward optimism. Here's how.
By cultivating tolerance for our own feelings, and softening to one another rather than constricting, healthy and mindful marriages have a fighting chance.
Many of us associate surrender with weakness, giving up, and losing. But what if surrender wasn't actually any of these things at all? What if surrender was in fact an empowering choice that you made?
Ten months ago, my youngest sister passed away after a seven-year relationship with cancer. What a roller coaster it was. During the highs and lows, the healing and the blows, she never lost sight of what it might teach her. She was the most courageous person I have ever known.
Meditation has no set rules or structures. It asks simply that you pay attention, that you make friends with being quiet, with sitting still, with doing nothing. This is a space just for you to be with yourself, to remember your dreams and who you really are. In this quiet space you become your own best friend and, therefore, a better friend to all.
This should be obvious, but there are so many people out there who seem to forget how much of a difference kindness can make. When people are kind to each other, it's contagious. Kindness breeds kindness, and there's nothing wrong with that. I believe it takes more energy to be unkind, so why bother?
I've had both horrible and amazing bosses and teachers, and I've watched my kids experience the same. In the end, the difference between success and failure comes down to intent. Every employee and every student wants to know -- do you want me to be successful?
Sure, allow yourself some time to mourn the end of summer -- lazy days, fire-lit nights, afternoon swims, long walks to nowhere in particular. But not too long. The end of summer is not a surprise or a tragedy. You knew it was coming, and you know it will be back