Please understand, I am not selling divorce. You are not abandoning your marriage: That was your spouse's choice. You are not to blame for the death of your marriage. But if you delay, you could spend the rest of your life blaming yourself for the disaster of your divorce.
Our lives are our lives and their lives are theirs. Our paths are our paths and their paths are paths. Desiring anything to be different from the way it is causes suffering.
Flirty texts and emails may never become physical, but that doesn't mean you're not having an affair.
Trust can be a difficult thing to build, because people already carry their own defenses and distrust from past hurts, rejections and deceptions. Yet, trust and communication are fundamental to establishing closeness, intimacy and real love.
Look, I'm sure there are people out there who have drama-free divorces, who settle things amicably, and no one's at fault and you wish each other well.
It makes sense that a divorce will trigger all of our defenses and that it will be hard to stay conscious in those moments. Understanding that you are committing to being intentional because it is in your best interest and the interests of your children can remind you that there is a better way.
There may now be hard science behind the notion that true love can last a lifetime. A neurological study from Stony Brook University revealed that couples who experience "romantic love" long-term can keep their brains firing similarly to the brains of couples who have just fallen in love.
Your memories can't be trusted.
The consequences of an affair may have more to do with how each partner responds to it than the affair itself. As many couples have discovered, even in the midst of the most painful circumstances, when there is a shared intention to heal, repair and take responsibility, what may have previously seemed impossible can become a reality.
While we celebrate 'how far we've come' ( we actually hate that phrase), there are still some behaviors of which American women should not be proud. Apparently, we rank near the top worldwide in terms of how many of us cheat -- as in infidelity.
Defects, he had a few, and Daniel was perfectly willing to own them. The 34-year-old businessman from Spain revealed one of those "defects" (his word)...
It's not something I would do however, I don't see anything wrong with a person spending time with another person who wants to spoil and pamper. Whether or not SeekingArrangement.com exists, men and women with money will continue to seek lovers to spoil and those lovers will gladly accept.
If you're complaining about your marriage to a sympathetic ear, you don't need a degree in psychology to know that the implicit message in these conversations is, "I'm unhappily married. Want to fool around?"
Cheating was a set of choices I made to get things I wanted -- sex, ego strokes, flattery. I didn't consider your welfare. I was staggeringly selfish. I risked your health. I risked our children's home life. All because I wanted a bit of strange.
What if infidelity, the very opposite of what defines the nature of your relationship with this person, could somehow be the key to saving it?
Past behavior is often an indicator of current or future behavior, even in relationships. If he's done it before it only makes it easier to do it again.