Once upon a time when I was married to a cheater, I suffered from a bad case of They're Going to Be Better for Someone Else myself. Which, when I look back on it, was pretty delusional.
There are lots of ways to end a marriage, and they all stink. No matter how tactfully it's delivered, if the message is "I don't want to be married to you anymore" it will inflict pain.
Confronted with the hyper-vigilant and often violent jealousy of generations of men protecting their genetic legacy, evolution predicts a psychological arms race between the sexes, producing ever more keen-eyed and suspicious men and ever more creatively deceptive women.
For 43 years I was Tracy Sutton. A good, solid WASP-y name, if a bit juvenile. (At least I don't spell it Traci with a heart over the "i"). No one mispronounced it. Rarely was I ever asked how do you spell Sutton? And Sutton enjoys a certain Google imperviousness. I liked the anonymity.
What do we do when we're privy to secrets that could potentially rock another person's world? It's a loaded situation that can put us at risk, no matter what we decide to do.
Over my many years of specializing in family law, I have seen many marriages end due to an affair. Affairs come in all shapes and sizes.
I witnessed large percentages that were emotionally "malnourished." They truly longed for emotional fulfillment and a deep connection (or re-connection) with their husband.
why should divorce (deemed acceptable to 68 percent of people) be so much less morally wrong than affairs, especially when you consider the distressing emotional and financial effects of ending a marriage?
What I don't understand, and hope to God that I'll never understand, is how the Other Woman can stick around after the wife and kids aren't so anonymous.
Although a lackluster sex life in no way justifies infidelity, exploring what was present in your erotic life prior to the affair can neutralize blame.
I don't know about you, but I used to hold my marriage up to those checklists and, upon finding none of the warning signs in my own relationship, felt a sense of smug satisfaction.
It all started at Ron Mercer's retirement party. I had been sitting on a barstool at the Rosewood Inn with Mary, my best friend and co-worker, watchin...
One morning I awake to a friend's text message: "You're going to flip shit when you check your newsfeed." I immediately know what to expect, and my suspicions are instantly confirmed. I always knew this day would come. Matt and Liz are engaged.
What is cheating? In my over 40 years of practicing family law, I have seen just about every reason under the sun for a divorce.
Are you on the fence about leaving a cheater? Is this not their first rodeo? Here are some common traps that keep you stuck with a cheater and prevent you from moving on.
Your friend calls you in the middle of the night, crying. She sniffles and barely manages to say, "He did it again. He cheated!"