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Inner Bonding

Are You Disorganized?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Are stuck in not being able to organize your time and space? Do you often feel overwhelmed regarding time and clutter? Are often rushing to get thing...

Happiness Is an Inside Job

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.24.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We have all been brought up to believe that different external things are responsible for our happiness. I was raised to believe that happiness was re...

Do You and Your Partner Fight Over Money?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.17.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Relationship conflicts over money get resolved when both people move out of control or resistance and into caring about themselves and each other. Partnerships based on caring and compassion support intimacy and joy, even when money is limited.

Do You Operate as a Child or Adolescent -- Or as an Adult?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Aaron works hard and earns a very good living for his family. He loves his work and feels a deep satisfaction in designing beautiful buildings for peo...

What Are the Lies You Tell Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The path to enlightenment is shifting out of the lies and into truth. Practicing these steps whenever you feel anything other than inner peace is a powerful way of getting there!

Are You Addicted to Blaming Others?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.27.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Charles consulted with me because his wife of 18 years had threatened to leave him if he didn't stop blaming her all the time. He admitted to frequent...

'We Rarely Make Love'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.12.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I cannot tell you how often couples complain to me that they rarely make love. These are generally people who love each other, who enjoy being togethe...

Free Will, God and Enlightenment

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.21.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The spiritual path is the path of healing the ego, the mind, the wounded self, so that rather than our wounded self being in charge, we are able to re...

Do You Make Others Your Higher Power?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

One of the things I always tell my clients is, "Don't give your authority away to me. Don't assume that I know more about you than you do, or more abo...

You Can Heal a Worry Addiction!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.31.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

It is not easy to stop worrying when you have been practicing worrying for most of your life. In order for me to stop worrying, I needed to recognize that the belief that worry has control over outcomes is a complete illusion.

Do Sacrifice Your Integrity to Avoid Conflict

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

People may choose a lack of integrity when they think that the outcome will be worth it. But is it worth any outcome -- emotional or financial -- to do harm to your own soul? We can get away with it only when we are not aware of the harm we are doing to ourselves.

Are You Being 'Good' or Are You Being 'Loving'?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The problem is that, while we may have had some success with this strategy in our childhood homes, this same strategy is now causing our problems in our relationships at work and at home. When we disconnect from our own feelings, we become invisible to ourselves.

Keeping Love Alive

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The concept of what it takes to keep love alive is really quite simple, but not so easy to do. The simple answer is this: Love flows between two people whose hearts are open to learning and to sharing love. The hard part is keeping the heart open.

Can We Make People Want to Change?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We can certainly influence others with our love, peace and joy, but even that does not give us control. A major part of inner healing is learning to accept our lack of control over others' intent to learn or protect.

The Challange of Invasiveness

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Both of these types need work regarding invasiveness: the caretaker needs stronger personal boundaries, while the taker needs to be more conscious of not being invasive with others.

Controlling: Harmful or Beneficial?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Beneficial control is the control we have over choosing the intent to learn about love. Harmful control is when we attempt to control our feelings rather than learn from them, and attempt to control others and outcomes.

Are You Controlling in Your Relationships?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Relationship problems can seem to be quite tangled and hopeless when the intent is to control each other's behavior or feelings while resisting being controlled. Yet the moment loving oneself and one's partner becomes more important than controlling and resisting control, the relationship problems magically dissolve.

Life's Highest Experience: A Circle of Love

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Yet most people in relationships rarely, if ever, experience a circle of love. This is because when your intent is to protect against your painful feelings rather than to learn about loving yourself and others, you heart is closed -- closed to your Self, closed to others and closed to Spirit.

Crazy Making

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The challenge here is to tune into your body and get to know the feeling of being crazy made, so that you can take care of yourself in the face of it.

Parents -- What About You?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.15.2014 | Parents
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

She was beginning to see that the problem was not so much not being cared about by her family, but not caring about herself. She could begin to see that how her family treated her was a mirror for how she was treating herself.

4 Ways to Practice the Presence of Love

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Our programmed mind -- our ego wounded self -- will always want to come in with false beliefs and need to control. Practicing the presence of love is to gently, and with great compassion, not allow our wounded self to be in charge of our thoughts.

Do You Experience God?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Opening to love does not mean that we will be vulnerable to being hurt, manipulated or taken advantage of. In fact, the opposite can happen: In experiencing God, we receive the wisdom and strength to know what is good or bad for us, what is right or wrong for us.

What Is Loving to You, Is Loving to Others

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Whatever we do that is truly loving to ourselves -- that is in the highest good of our soul's journey on the planet -- is also loving to others. It is never in our highest good to be mean to others, or to disregard other's feelings and needs. But it is in our highest good follow our higher guidance and do what really brings us joy and fulfillment.

How Do I 'Let Go and Let God'?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"How do I stop letting my ego run my life?" "How do I stop trying to control everything and let go? "How do I stop judging myself and ruminating about...

'Triggers' and The Moment of Choice

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

While you might not be aware of it, we all have at least a second to choose how we want to respond to a trigger -- and most times more than a second. If you choose to take the breath and tune in, you have a chance of responding from your loving adult self rather reacting from your ego wounded self. You have the chance to move into compassion for yourself.