Many people complain that abandonment imprisons them behind a wall of their own making. They get caught up in patterns of constant re-abandonment (abandoholism) or avoid relationships altogether to avoid the pain (abandophobism). Others are in a relationship but feel chronic heartache and uncertainty. They're shrouded in shame for feeling so needy.
We can build a foundation that reminds us what we are what we are fighting for and fighting against. We can remember that there is a purpose and a meaning to our lives, and it cannot be fully expressed if we are living in fear. We can trust that our journey can be the path that has been cleared for someone else to walk with greater ease.
When I was 15, a boy inquired about going to the junior prom, never once taking his eyes off my enormous bosoms. I told him, "Oh yes, they'd be delighted to go." His baby blues widened as I continued, "They'll be ready by 7 p.m., but you need to return them safely back home and attached firmly to my torso by midnight."