Have you seen Inside Out yet? I love a good Pixar movie! I love the way that they explain adult concepts to kids. I think it's really cool. For those of you who haven't seen it yet, don't worry there's no spoiler alert coming. This article isn't so much about the film, but rather how it relates to divorce.
And with this simple, beautiful illustration of Joy finally understanding the role of Sadness in "Inside Out," I fully understood the focus on embracing failure within "Creativity Inc." Failure is to learning as Sadness is to Joy. We don't want to spend the majority of our time experiencing failure, but it plays a vital role in our life and our growing understanding of the world around us. And like Joy's attempt at minimizing Sadness, many of us parents minimize our children's risks because we lack understanding of its role in learning, we are robbing our children of the opportunity to fail.
Inside Out makes it clear that there are a lot of mixed emotions children feel, not all of them easily sorted out. As a parent, the movie's message to me was how important my job is to listen to my kids, guide them, acknowledge their feelings, and, above all, honor their spiritual understanding that they can always "come home" to.
In Inside Out, 11-year-old Riley moves from Minnesota to San Francisco, giving up her home, her friends, and her ice hockey team in the process. When the moving truck gets lost, she winds up in a sleeping bag on her floor. But the tragedy isn't what happens around her, but within her; not only does Riley stop feeling joy, she also becomes numb to her sadness.