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Internalized Homophobia

Why I'm Not Writing Azealia Banks Off Just Yet

Sean O'Toole | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Sean O'Toole

She is hardly Robert Mugabe and she does not make me angry. She's only potentially a Bill or Hillary Clinton, who weren't that interested in affording dignity to LGBTQ people not so long ago either. People can change. Right?

Edie Windsor, a Sports Bet and Exactly One Hundred Masturbating Gay Men

Sean O'Toole | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Sean O'Toole

"I lost a bet on a Cubs game and I have to watch 100 gay guys jerk off on this site as my forfeit. You are number 13. Will you click next please?" Suddenly, I felt incredibly protective of all the other masturbating gay guys.

Did the '90s Rob Me of My Gay Political Conscious?

Richard William Allen | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Richard William Allen

The mid-nineties were years that seemed politically engaged on the surface, but the general tenor of youth culture was apathetic and ironic, and middle class kids who had no reason beyond their youth to feel alienated copped a pose of bored disaffection.

Will Marriage Open the Closet Door?

Joanne Fleisher | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Joanne Fleisher

What happened to Terry Mutchler? In her gripping memoir, Under This Beautiful Dome, the voice I hear is weak, barely audible. This isn't the woman I know as a friend and outspoken human rights advocate.

Gay Men and Bottom Shaming (VIDEO)

Matthew J. Dempsey | Posted 05.18.2016 | Queer Voices
Matthew J. Dempsey

2015-05-18-1431962062-5981619-ScreenShot20150518at11small.jpgIn my latest video I break down the psychological nuts and bolts of why we tend to label and judge sexual roles and the gay men who fill them -- pun intended. I describe how this common practice can be limiting, both individually and collectively, as well as what we can do to challenge bottom shaming so that we can all grow, heal, and have better sex. Heels up!

This Gay Couple Shows How Love Can Overcome Bigotry

HuffPost Brazil | Diego Iraheta | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Thorsten Middelhof and Naparuj Mond Kaendi have been in a long-distance relationship for two and a half years, bridging the gap between Thorsten’s h...

In Brazil's Macho Culture, Homophobia and Misogyny Are Intertwined

Frente Feminista Casperiana Lisandra | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Frente Feminista Casperiana Lisandra

Both homophobia and sexism are part of the structure of the patriarchy. They are the most enduring building blocks in the construction of prejudice. And when those ideas come from within the gay community, we have a paradoxical situation.

Starving the Gay Within

Jon Derek Croteau, Ed.D. | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Jon Derek Croteau, Ed.D.

By reducing my fat intake to zero and running for an hour at a time, I knew that I'd destroy every fat cell that existed in my body. I had commenced an all-out attack on the demon inside me that made me feel that way: my homosexuality. With the strategy that combined running and starving, I was sure to waste away and starve the gay within.

I Swish

Michael Rohrer | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Michael Rohrer

I swish. I'm tired of apologizing for it or being scared of it. I'm ready to be comfortable in my own skin. I'm not completely there, but I'm ready to be. Isn't that the first step? Acknowledging?

Pet Shop Boys Give Drag Queen's Incredible Speech An Epic Remix

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

In early February, Rory O’Neill, also known as Irish drag queen Panti Bliss, gave an impassioned speech about homophobia that immediately went viral...

The 7 Horrifying Effects Of Homophobia

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Amanda Chatel for YourTango.com Despite the great strides made both socially and legally in regards to how the LGBT community is accepted and tr...

WATCH: Drag Queen Gives INCREDIBLE Speech About Homophobia

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Over the weekend, Rory O’Neill, who is also known as Irish drag queen Panti Bliss, made an impassioned and heartfelt speech about the nature of homo...

Why Some Gay Men Are Attracted to Straight Men

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

We can't ignore the many gay men who admit a taste for straight guys, which makes me wonder why they prefer straight men sexually. Based on the gay men I have seen in my office, here are some of the possible reasons.

Pride Taught Me to Embrace the Gay Lifestyle

David Michael McFarlane | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
David Michael McFarlane

After coming out, I pointed a critical finger at Pride to distance myself from the hypersexual exhibitionists that many Christians consider gay people to be. Really, I was being a hypocrite. I didn't like Christians denouncing my sexuality, but I was doing the same thing to Pride participants.

Everything Changes, Even My Shoes: Evolving Past My Own Transphobia and Internalized Homophobia

Cindy Zelman | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Cindy Zelman

As I've shed my sexy boots, so too have I shed my narrow-minded views on the queer community. I may not be bringing sexy back with my new dress style, but I'm bringing back something much more important: a wider and more encompassing perspective.

An Open Letter To Those Being Bullied, From The Set Of An 'It Gets Better' Video

Rob Watson | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Rob Watson

Most of us shared about the creation within ourselves of our own receptive self-bully. That bully is the most dangerous. Our self-bully says that we actually deserve the abuse they are doling out. But the bullies are wrong. All of them. And the bully within is the wrongest.

Internalized Oppression: The New Slavery

Logan Lynn | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Logan Lynn

This brand of slavery imprisons the mind and poisons the spirit. It keeps us shackled to an idea someone else has about our worth and tells us we are wrong to feel human, that we are not equal, and that we are, in fact, nothing but a hog being fattened up for the kill.

From Self-Loathing to Self-Love: How I Cast Out the Real Demon Inside Me

Levi Kreis | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Levi Kreis

You can't train a child to believe he is detestable in the eyes to God and expect him to have any value for his own life. The older I got, the more my bad choices reflected back to me the deep-rooted self-loathing I had agreed to long ago.

First Listen: Perfume Genius's Beautiful New Song About Internalized Homophobia

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Put Your Back N 2 It, the follow up to Seattle singer-songwriter Perfume Genius's (aka Mike Hadreas) 2010 debut album Learning, isn't due out until Fe...