Law schools must begin recognizing the damage that is being caused to interpersonal relationships and our overall society, due to the low EQ levels of those involved in the field of law and make a concerted effort to address this extremely serious problem.
Ever find yourself in an organization or on a team that's struggling because of a leader's poor decision? You sit back and reflect on the leader personally and wonder why a savvy, experienced, and ordinarily capable person could make such a dumb decision.
Yet through the years, I've learned that I have to be willing to communicate directly to get an important point across. Not harshly, not arrogantly, not rudely. But directly -- and positively, if possible.
And while every other guy at the bar wore pretty much the exact same button-up dress shirt, I wore goofy tees just to be a little different. One evening, I wore a Dolly Parton shirt (image above) to the bar, and this is where I learned the value of having a "brand."
Passive-aggressives appear to act appropriately in any given situation -- but they actually behave negatively and resist passively. They often play the "victim." Their passive-aggressive actions can range from mild to extreme:
Very few people will invite you to persuade them to do anything. So if you're going to get someone to change their behavior, their actions, or their mind, you'll need to do it intentionally. Consider these 10 tips:
"I just call it like I see it." "I'm not a touchy-feely person." "I don't beat around the bush; I just let the chips fall where they may." Such comments frequently escape from the lips of sharp-shooters, who haven't learned the difference between direct communication and bluntness.
The key is to motivation is to get people to appreciate and agree with the "why" of the project or cause. Once the purpose of the project is clear, then you and everyone's relationship to the goal becomes more obvious.
Engagement is both collaborative and consensual. It's the leader's job to ensure that their direct reports are engaged. Unfortunately, your 360 feedback results indicate that others frequently see you as the "boss from hell" who is better at commanding than leading.
Have the courage to challenge yourself: step out of your comfort zone and start giving people the constructive feedback they deserve. That way you are actually practicing one of the most important personal skills: honesty.
Computers, video games etc. have absorbed so much of our children's time that we often forget about real interaction. We also forget about the effects of TV as it relates to young children and their functioning in the classroom.
The Food Network jumped into very muddy water when it dumped Paula Dean too quickly. There's nothing worse than being condemned before we get the facts. And more so when we condemn others for past mistakes, especially when they've not been repeated.
The people I admire are the ones who know how to ask me a good question. They know how to carry on a conversation by doing nothing more than asking something about, well, me. If you'd like to be a better questioner as a way of being a better connector, consider the following.
Every week can just keep getting better if you follow don't allow outside circumstances to determine your attitude. You don't have to be perfect to be happy; you just need to be trying to be a little better all the time.
While the outlook for our country is getting brighter, the outlook for hundreds of thousands of individuals still seems bleak. What can you do if you're one of those folks whose job -- and/or company -- is gone forever?