We can't force someone to forgive. Therefore, the road to forgiveness may also involve understanding the person who has harmed us. This requires starting off on a journey that may entail a close examination of the person we need to forgive. The journey can be long and torturous.
There is no statue of limitations on past issues and it's never too late to bring up a previously discussed subject. As long as our commitment is to heal the damage and restore trust and harmony, it's likely that the results of our efforts will be deeply and mutually fulfilling!
Children shouldn't ever be asked to side with one parent over another. Even when parents haven't been the best, children tend to love them and want to stay connected. Their conclusions about their other parent need to be their own.
"Men are crafty, yes, and we help them by choosing to ignore the red flags in the relationship. If we're comfortable, and we like the guy, we're going to wear our blinders and hope for something more."
I recently did an interview with Mike "McBeardo" McPadden about his book Heavy Metal Movies: Guitar Barbarians, Mutant Bimbos & Cult Zombies Amok In the 666 Most Ear and Eye Ripping Big Scream Films Ever!. The interview was so funny and so insightful, I wanted to publish it here in its entirety.
Despite the progress women have made in the last several decades, they are still treated like second-class citizens in all the ways that matter. Caring about the equal treatment of women in society doesn't make people feminists -- it makes them good humans.
My two favorite affirmations are: "Oh boy, more fun!" and "I love this!" No matter what's going on in my life, I challenge myself to say, "Oh boy, more fun" or "I love this!" Check it out and see how the world around you responds.