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What's Communication Got to Do With... Lasting Love?

Mark Baer | Posted 02.10.2016 | Healthy Living
Mark Baer

Try and assess the ratio of positive to negative comments you make to each other. Chances are, you may need to make some adjustments in that regard, if you value your significant other and hope to celebrate many more love and romance-filled Valentine's Days together.

4 Things Your Wife Hates About You

Jeff Hay | Posted 12.09.2015 | Weddings
Jeff Hay

You, and these items, become girls' night fodder as females congregate to lament their choice in their male partner.

Turn More Conversations Into Mutually Beneficial Opportunities

Kare Anderson | Posted 12.07.2015 | Impact
Kare Anderson

1. Triangle Talk to Get Closer Increasingly, within the U.S. more people are living and working alone. That may be why we are more likely to talk abou...

An Empathic Parents Guide to Getting Kids Off the F*&$#@! Screens

Dr. Shelley Prevost | Posted 11.04.2015 | Parents
Dr. Shelley Prevost

I'm not raising robots who simply do what I tell them to do. I want them to think for themselves and share their thoughts about the world with me. This is the template for how they will communicate with others long after they leave my house, and I want them to be able to stand their ground.

How to Combat the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse... in Bed

Em & Lo | Posted 08.27.2015 | Women
Em & Lo

It's as simple as it sounds: tell your partner exactly what you like about their body -- ideally during sex, and ideally using your best dirty talk voice.

Why Long-Married Spouses Should Write A Singles Ad

Shira Dicker | Posted 06.07.2015 | Fifty
Shira Dicker

Want to stay married past the exciting but perilous Empty Nest stage of family life -- when incidents of divorce spike like the polygraph printouts of pathological liars? Perhaps the solution is to write a Singles Ad.

Know Your Hot Buttons

Kare Anderson | Posted 05.23.2015 | Weddings
Kare Anderson

Partners -- romantic and otherwise -- tend to fight when one feels neglected or threatened. When Peter Bregman's wife yelled from two rooms away, "at least pack the shampoo" she was feeling neglected.

4 Signs Your Marriage Is Doomed For Divorce

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 02.01.2016 | Divorce

Are there tell-tale signs that a couple's marriage will end in divorce? Renowned researcher Dr. John Gottman thinks so. For 40 years, the Universi...

Debunking Relationship Myths: An Interview With John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman

Omega Institute | Posted 08.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Omega Institute

In all kinds of relationships, people have conflict and disagreements and hurt one another's feelings. What determines the success of the relationship is the way people deal with conflict, the nature of their friendship and intimacy, and their shared meaning system.

In True Holiday Spirit Turn Adversaries Into Allies

Kare Anderson | Posted 01.23.2014 | Good News
Kare Anderson

A warm smile tends to beget a smile in return. Yet an effusive, over-the-top laugh and wide grin, for example, may cause an introvert or someone who has just gone through a trying time to back into their shell.

How Couples Can Get to Divorce -- Real Fast!

Douglas LaBier | Posted 10.26.2013 | Divorce
Douglas LaBier

The path to meaningful connection and growth over time -- as opposed to the businesslike, roommate-like relationship that many couples settle into -- isn't easy.

Fathers Who Abandon Their Kids: A Tough Father's Day Topic

Karen Salmansohn | Posted 08.14.2013 | Divorce
Karen Salmansohn

It's one thing to be a single mother by choice. It arrives with a positive narrative to tell your child. It's a whole other everything to have single motherhood thrust upon you -- because the father has unconscionably chosen to abandon his child.

Are You Just Fighting or Engaging in 'Conscious Combat'?

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 08.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

It's not just the exposure of our partner's imperfections that we need all that patience to accept and live with, it's the exposure of our own imperfect aspects that get illuminated in reaction to them that leave us shame-faced and embarrassed.

20 Important Lessons I've Learned About Marriage

Kate Schermerhorn | Posted 04.11.2013 | Weddings
Kate Schermerhorn

Yes, a cynical reader might ask what I could possibly know about marriage, having been divorced twice, and this question would be a valid one. But you often learn the most from your own mistakes.

Attract Smarter Support Sooner

Kare Anderson | Posted 03.05.2013 | Business
Kare Anderson

Create situations in which everyone gets to use best talents, working on projects that reflect a strong sweet spot of shared interest. In so doing you may play a different character role in the story that unfolds and make the storyline more adventuresome and satisfying.

WATCH: What Are The Four Predictors Of Divorce?

Posted 04.18.2012 | Divorce

Is it possible to predict divorce? Dr. John Gottman, co-founder of the Relationship Research Institute -- a research center that aims to strengthen...

Ann Brenoff

What's Your Time-Out Signal? How to Give It a Rest During a Fight | Ann Brenoff | Posted 02.22.2012 | Weddings

Denver Broncos quarterback Tim Tebow isn't the only one who finds the occasional time-out hand signal helpful. Researchers say that having a pre-arran...

Cain and Accusers Should All Take Lie Tests

Lonna Saunders | Posted 01.08.2012 | Politics
Lonna Saunders

Why doesn't everyone involved -- Republican presidential hopeful Herman Cain and his half-dozen or so accusers -- all take polygraph examinations, and...

Why Marriage Counseling Doesn't Work

Erica Manfred | Posted 07.15.2011 | Divorce
Erica Manfred

Most couples go for marriage counseling when it's way too late to save their marriages, and most marriage counselors are the kiss of death for marria...

Baby, it's the Best Time to Divorce

Vicki Larson | Posted 05.25.2011 | Divorce
Vicki Larson

Two former coworkers who are suddenly facing divorce called me recently, wanting to get together for a drink, a shoulder to cry on and advice. "What...

Children Of Divorce: Doomed To Split?

Robert Hughes, Jr. | Posted 05.25.2011 | Divorce
Robert Hughes, Jr.

One of the most troubling research findings is that children of divorce are more likely to divorce themselves. This seems unfair. However, it is imp...

Can Conflict PREVENT Divorce?

Robert Hughes, Jr. | Posted 05.25.2011 | Divorce
Robert Hughes, Jr.

There is a lot of scientific evidence that has documented the harmful effects of destructive conflict on marital relationships. John Gottman, in his ...

How Much Are You (Really) Worth?

Tony Schwartz | Posted 05.25.2011 | Business
Tony Schwartz

I'm talking about "worth" as in self-worth and "value," as in the degree to which we feel valued by others, and valuable in the world. Nothing more powerfully influences our behavior and our effectiveness at work.

Protect the Blindside of Your Marriage from Small Hits

Steve Cooper | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Steve Cooper

There's a growing body of evidence that the small hits over time to your relationship can have a degenerative effect. Research is showing that tiny gestures can also help a marriage reap great rewards.