It turns out that feeling understood on the level of the soul is far more sexy than sex itself. Restoring such excitement to the marriage is the best recourse for those who want to go on enjoying the privilege of having a partner throughout life.
I began collecting and sharing secrets in 2004. I printed 3,000 self-addressed postcards with simple instructions about sharing an artful secret. I passed them out to strangers on the streets of Washington, D.C., not knowing what to expect.
Louis and I had a long history of sharing true stories and he'd given this one to me as a rare gift -- that was my impression. Without saying the words, we both understood that I would never write about it while my friend was alive, and I didn't.