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Leaving New York

Moving Day: From New York City to Vermont

Nina Griffin | Posted 09.15.2016 | Parents
Nina Griffin

Being a New York City mom wasn't for me. I had always envied the parents who could manage it with grace and style. But my personality and my kids' temperaments weren't conducive to urban child rearing.

You're Gonna Miss This

Susan Rosenzweig | Posted 08.04.2016 | Women
Susan Rosenzweig

How often does this happen? That rare opportunity when, after years of struggle and uncertainty, the storm clouds part and all your hard choices pay off. When the big picture is finally revealed -- and suddenly, it all makes sense.

Growing Old Before Growing Up is All in the Mind

Orlagh McCarron | Posted 07.10.2016 | Women
Orlagh McCarron

Getting through this bucket-list I've constructed for myself is tough going and not for the weak of heart or mind. But to wake up each morning without that pressing weight of anxiety and questioning of what I am doing with my life is all I can ever hope to attain.

Queer and Selfie Loathing in NYC (Part 3): On Committing Social Media Suicide

Lester Brathwaite | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Lester Brathwaite

My generation has been force-fed the notion that to be loved, to be special, to be something or somebody, one has to be a star. And I bought into it with certainty. From the moment I understood my reflection was I and I he, a star was born.

Queer and Selfie Loathing in NYC (Part 1): On Quitting Writing

Lester Brathwaite | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Lester Brathwaite

This year has made me question a number of things, my love of New York among them. There was a time I thought that love would be forever unwavering. That, along with my love of writing. Love is funny that way, though. It burns and it burns, white-hot, blindingly hot, until it burns itself out. And I'm all burnt out on New York, on writing, on it all.

10 Lessons I Learned From My Breakup with New York City

Stefanie Williams | Posted 12.13.2014 | Women
Stefanie Williams

It's great to love New York, but it's OK to leave it, too. It's OK to admit that despite offering you everything you think you could want only a block away 24/7, other places might have what you really want. Get out and experience those other places.

Zadie Smith On Ambition And Unhappiness In Manhattan

The Huffington Post | Carolyn Gregoire | Posted 10.10.2014 | Books

The essay about saying goodbye to New York City is practically a literary subgenre unto itself. It revolves around some common tropes: Early intoxicat...

Why I Am Heartbroken To Leave New York At 23

Sara Roncero-Menendez | Posted 09.29.2014 | Travel
Sara Roncero-Menendez

That's the magic of this city. There's always something to do, something to see, something to hold or taste or smell or read and every reason to be unapologetically enthusiastic about every single moment of it.

Just Another New York Goodbye

Meghan Feeks | Posted 09.09.2014 | New York
Meghan Feeks

For New Yorkers, the most mundane landmarks can hold all the history of Ellis Island. I walked into strange apartment buildings, responding to roommate ads on Craigslist, and walked out with some of my best friends. And on a Penn Station platform and in Tompkins Square Park, I still sometimes step on shards of broken heart.

Autism Without Fear: Goodbye, New York. Hello... Green Bay, Wisconsin?

Michael John Carley | Posted 08.27.2014 | New York
Michael John Carley

My problem is that when not at work, I'm not so diplomatic. How's the act of a loud, blunt, albeit happy, Asperger New York City personality going to play in Green Bay, Wisconsin?

Love Like You're Leaving

Susan Rosenzweig | Posted 08.24.2014 | New York
Susan Rosenzweig

In honor of this legendary town that has been my other half for most of my adult life, I've been collecting a list of all the things I will miss when I'm gone. Even I'm surprised how long it is. I thought I'd share 10 of my favorites.

40 Reasons You Shouldn't Move To NYC

Ryan Holiday | Posted 08.10.2014 | New York
Ryan Holiday

New York as it stands today is antithetical to many of the ideals that drive people to move there.

Why I Left New York City

Alecia Lynn Eberhardt | Posted 03.01.2014 | Women
Alecia Lynn Eberhardt

Here is what many people don't discuss when they are talking about young creatives. It may sound trite, but the personal identity of many young people who come to the city to flourish creatively is slowly crushed by the reality of affording the lifestyle.

Dear NYC, I Love You, But I'm Leaving You

Amanda Slavin | Posted 01.23.2014 | New York
Amanda Slavin

You were good to me. Really good. You were my first love. Even though I dated NJ growing up briefly, that ended shortly and I was close enough to you to maintain a long distance relationship in my early age.

Why Cooking Up A New Life In Costa Rica Is Harder Than Expected

Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner | Posted 02.07.2013 | Fifty
Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner

Between the biking, snorkeling, surfing, lazing in the hammock and cocktail mixing in Costa Rica, we kinda like to eat. Back in New York, I put at least one hot meal on the table every day for 30 years and had a robust repertoire of family-pleasing recipes -- few of which, for various reasons, can be reproduced here.

Can You Change How You Feel About Change?

Jeanine Celeste Pang | Posted 01.02.2013 | Women
Jeanine Celeste Pang

Like fish, a big change is harder to tackle, so I start small. The bigger things are the ones that really gnaw, like some endless loop of regrets and hypothetical do-overs.

What We Wish We Had Learned Before We Retired In Costa Rica

Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner | Posted 12.15.2012 | Fifty
Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner

When you're standing in the store with a line of people behind you and the cashier mumbles something like quatromilledoscientoscinquenta and it sounds like quatromillcan'tyouevencountyoustupidstupidgringo, it's a bit nerve-wracking.

4 Things You'll Miss If You Retire In Costa Rica

Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner | Posted 11.27.2012 | Fifty
Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner

Of course, we didn't move to Costa Rica to watch TV, but sometimes in the midst of a three-day downpour, it'd be nice to see something other than each other.

Costa Rica Retirement: Why We Got A Guard Dog

Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner | Posted 10.23.2012 | Fifty
Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner

One big reason to have a dog in Puerto Viejo is security. Pretty much anything that isn't nailed down is fair game around here, petty burglaries aren't uncommon -- and we determined we wanted... a beast.

More Reasons to Leave New York: Hate, Mirror-time and Fair Play

Howard Jordan Jr. | Posted 09.19.2012 | New York
Howard Jordan Jr.

New York City has the unique ability to turn the grateful into the hateful. This hate is the legally acceptable, socially questionable, lighter side of hate commonly referred to as, hatin', and living here, you've become an unrelenting, unapologetic hater.

House-Hunting In Costa Rica: No Boas, Bats Or Screaming Rats

Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner | Posted 09.06.2012 | Fifty
Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner

There was the House of Fleas, the place right next door to the House of Pit Bulls, a one-of-a-kind home on a beautiful property featuring the perfect howler monkey habitat but little to no indoor space.

Our New Backyard: How We Gave Away Everything And Moved To Costa Rica

Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner | Posted 08.08.2012 | Fifty
Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner

Three days of dumping our possessions on the street made us extremely popular in the East Village. ("Do you have any MORE books, man?" "Wow! A dulcimer!") The king bed walked uptown.

Why's Our New Puppy Almost Dead?

Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner | Posted 07.18.2012 | Impact
Jeff Jones and Gay Haubner

A married couple, 50-somesuch, kids grown and flown... so what comes next? We moved from Manhattan to Costa Rica: a move that took just under 10 months from the night we said, "Let's do it" till we boarded the plane with one-way tickets.

(More) Reasons to Leave New York

Howard Jordan Jr. | Posted 06.27.2012 | New York
Howard Jordan Jr.

To thrive in New York is to embrace uncertainty, enjoy ridiculousness, revel in treachery and find exhilaration every second of every day.