I've been learning how to be a lesbian lately, because my boyfriend and I opened our relationship last year. Ten productive months into being a sometimes-lesbian, I still have a lot of questions. So I reached out to Natashia Mower, this lesbian I know personally, to set me, well, gay, I guess.
I was a late-life gay. When I came out, I understood almost immediately that it wasn't OK to be overtly enthusiastic about your queerness. Consequently, I felt cheated. So now, as a 31-year-old queer, I am finally allowing myself to advertise my pride.