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LGBT Women Talk Motherhood In Adorable Video That Celebrates All Moms

The Huffington Post | JamesMichael Nichols | Posted 05.11.2015 | Gay Voices

Mother's Day may be over for 2015, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't still #CelebrateAllMothers on a daily basis. Lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans...

'One Big Happy' Star Kelly Brook On The Changing Definition Of Family

The Huffington Post | Kira Brekke | Posted 04.18.2015 | Gay Voices

NBC's new series "One Big Happy," the story of a lesbian who's having a baby with her dude best friend, may have been considered outlandish 20 years a...

Heather Barwick, Don't Let Your Pain Hurt Other Kids

Ariel Chesler | Posted 05.24.2015 | Gay Voices
Ariel Chesler

I'm sorry that your pain has brought you to a place that has you advocating a position that is guaranteed to cause more pain to other children. You must know that children will continue to be raised by same-sex couples. Gay marriage doesn't deny children anything. It grants them equality.

Pediatrician Refuses To Care For Baby With Lesbian Moms

The Huffington Post | Ed Mazza | Posted 02.19.2015 | Gay Voices

A lesbian couple in Michigan says a pediatrician has refused to care for their infant because of their sexual orientation. Krista and Jami Contrer...

Barilla and Gay Families: 18 Months Later, Does the Pasta Company Really Care? (VIDEO)

Jordan Bayne | Posted 04.02.2015 | Gay Voices
Jordan Bayne

In summer 2014 Barilla launched a contest calling for content creators to submit work under 60 seconds that reflected their new diversity campaign. I felt strongly compelled to create a commercial testing their commitment to a more inclusive ad campaign. In fact, my submission was the only one that confronted them face-to-face with a gay family.

What I Really Want for Christmas: How to Tell Your Family You're Having Kids!

Dr. Guy Ringler | Posted 02.03.2015 | Gay Voices
Dr. Guy Ringler

There are many treatment options today for gay and lesbian family building, and sharing your plans with loved ones during the holidays can help muster their support and engage them in the process. Whatever your situation, here are some suggestions for those first conversations.

My Lesbian Mom Died Terrified of Going to Hell

Vanessa Mártir | Posted 01.09.2015 | Gay Voices
Vanessa Mártir

I was orphaned when my mother Millie died nine years ago. My biological mother went back to being a Jehovah's Witness and now says she regrets being with Millie for 20-some-odd years. "Les di un mal ejemplo," she says. That's B.S. See, Millie is the one who loved me -- tender, unconditional, I-believe-in-you love.

The Lucky Ones: Personal Reflections for LGBTQ History Month

Morgan Meneses-Sheets | Posted 12.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Morgan Meneses-Sheets

It is LGBTQ History Month, which got me thinking about my own history. When I came out to my mother her struggle was largely based on worrying what the neighbors would think.

My Happiest Life Moment: Finding Out My (Gay) Wife Was Pregnant

Posted 09.28.2014 | Gay Voices

By Pleasure Mechanics for My happiest moment happened in an unlikely place: a bathroom. On a cold winter morning, I waited with my wi...

The Same-Sex Marriage 'Debate' Is Based Upon Ignorance and Inaccurate Information

Mark Baer | Posted 11.11.2014 | Politics
Mark Baer

It seems as though Judge Feldman allowed his own prejudices get in the way of his duties as a judicial officer. He showed his ignorance by making such comparisons and referring to homosexuality as a 'lifestyle choice.'

Writer Michelle Theall Talks Memoir Teaching the Cat to Sit and LGBT Issues (AUDIO)

Charlotte Robinson | Posted 10.28.2014 | Gay Voices
Charlotte Robinson

This week I talked with writer Michelle Theall about her memoir Teaching the Cat to Sit, which recounts her experience growing up gay and Catholic in ...

Celebrating Pride and Family on 'Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day'

Dana Rudolph | Posted 07.31.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Rudolph

I'd like to invite all bloggers, LGBTQ and allies, to participate in the ninth annual Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day on Monday, June 2. Just post at your own blog in support of LGBTQ families (however you define them) and submit the link to, where I'll compile and showcase the master list for all to see.

Remembering Watching With My Two Moms as Ellen Came Out (VIDEO)

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 07.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine


Waffles and Roller Coasters: Mother's Day Reflections by a Lesbian Mom

Dana Rudolph | Posted 07.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Rudolph

Being a parent can sometimes seem like trying to juggle on a roller coaster. Being an LGBT parent can sometimes seem like trying to do so without the safety belt everyone else is wearing. But the experience is really not so different for any of us. It takes balance, flexibility, and nerves of steel.

5 Tips for Managing the Logistics of Same-Sex Parenting of Blended Families

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 02.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Here are some ideas and examples from my dissolved and reconstituted same-sex-parents-headed family that can help parents in different households avoid feeling like one is "primary" and the other is, well, "other."

'I Wish You Were Dead So I Could Have a Daddy'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

When I was 6 years old, I told my mother that I wished that she would die so that I could have a daddy. We were in a yellow NYC taxicab on the way to my sixth birthday party. I had found my non-biological mother's Achilles' heel and swung a golf club into it. And it felt like shit for both of us.

In the Sandbox

Dana Rudolph | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Rudolph

The boy tried a different question: "What's your dad's name?" I kept silent, wanting to see how my son handled it. He paused for just a second to think. "Well, that's Mommy," he explained, gesturing to me. "And the other one's Momma, but she's at work now."

Pride Marchers vs. the 'Christians'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

When I was 8, my moms and I attended a pride march. We were marching with our rainbows and chanting, "We're here, we're queer, get used to it!" From across a waist-high barricade, the "Christians" responded, "You're here, you're queer, you won't be here next year!" So ominous.

The Great Mystery of Straight People

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

Of course, straight people were everywhere, but when they were on TV, they weren't real to me, and when they were my friends' parents, they weren't sexy to me. Young English teachers and comedy actors in movies, however, seemed both real and sexy to me.

Mom, Is 'Gay' a Bad Word?

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 12.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

B-Man leans forward and whispers in my ear, "When we were writing '-ay' words on our spelling boards today, someone wrote 'gay' and circled it as their favorite word. But someone else said 'gay' was a bad word. But it isn't, right?"

What Makes a Mother 'Primary'?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

I've been writing here about the experience of being the "other mother" for just about a month now. What is the "other mother"? How does the role develop, and where does it lead?

Our Families Are Making History

Steve Majors | Posted 10.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Steve Majors

It's taken more than three decades for families like mine to be recognized. Thirty years ago, I was at an age where I was pretty certain that I was gay, but at the time, I never could have predicted that I would one day be among 3 million parents in our country who are LGBT.

5 Signs You're the 'Other' Mother

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother?

The Perils of Heterosexual Rights

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Since fighting to be included in the heteronormative model of marriage and then being steamrolled by the heteronormative model of divorce, I've been fighting these systems from the perspective of the "other" mother.

How Biology Matters When Same-Sex Couples With Kids Split Up

Abbie E. Goldberg | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Abbie E. Goldberg

What sometimes gets understandably lost in the marriage equality celebration is that not all these relationships last forever, and breakups can leave parents and children, particularly those who do not share a biological connection, in vulnerable situations.