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The Lucky Ones: Personal Reflections for LGBTQ History Month

Morgan Meneses-Sheets | Posted 10.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Morgan Meneses-Sheets

It is LGBTQ History Month, which got me thinking about my own history. When I came out to my mother her struggle was largely based on worrying what the neighbors would think.

My Happiest Life Moment: Finding Out My (Gay) Wife Was Pregnant

Posted 09.28.2014 | Gay Voices

By Pleasure Mechanics for YourTango.com My happiest moment happened in an unlikely place: a bathroom. On a cold winter morning, I waited with my wi...

The Same-Sex Marriage 'Debate' Is Based Upon Ignorance and Inaccurate Information

Mark Baer | Posted 09.11.2014 | Politics
Mark Baer

It seems as though Judge Feldman allowed his own prejudices get in the way of his duties as a judicial officer. He showed his ignorance by making such comparisons and referring to homosexuality as a 'lifestyle choice.'

How My Second-Grader Explains His Two-Mom Family, A Play in One Act

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 09.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

Setting: Interior, my Subaru Outback, en route to a school field trip. Characters: Kid One, whom I have just met. Kid Two, who has been my son's clas...

'Do You Want to Be the Mother or the Father This Year?'

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 10.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

When a local health foundation's bi-monthly marketing newsletter arrives in my mailbox, I throw it in the recycle bin without a second glance, every time. But the issue that arrived yesterday stopped me in my tracks.

A Lesbian Mother on the Discriminatory 'Inclusion Act' Endorsed by Catholic Bishops

Marianne T. Duddy-Burke | Posted 10.06.2014 | Religion
Marianne T. Duddy-Burke

The so-called Inclusion Act does nothing to protect children. To the contrary, it could continue depriving children of potentially loving, stable homes. And it does nothing to protect religious liberty.

Growing Up Straight in the Gay World

Lara Lillibridge | Posted 07.13.2014 | Gay Voices
Lara Lillibridge

I grew up a straight girl in a gay world, the opposite of what most gay people experience, but with the same problems of lack of place. I didn't feel that I made sense in the heterosexual world either.

Journey With Two Moms

Lester Alemán | Posted 07.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Lester Alemán

I don't take my liberties for granted because I know how dehumanizing my mothers' communities were to them. I take my liberties to fight for equality. I take my liberties to honor my mothers. Because I love them both to death -- equally.

My Invisible Honeymoon

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 06.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

She wouldn't hold hands with me, my newlywed wife, unless we hid our interlaced fingers under an airline blanket.

Study Says Kids Of Lesbian Parents Are Doing Great, Thank You Very Much

The Huffington Post | Cavan Sieczkowski | Posted 02.28.2014 | Gay Voices

Same-sex parents might still have an uphill battle to forge, but a new study seems to provide a helpful push in the right direction. In a study bi...

This Baby Is The First In British Columbia To Have 3 Parents Listed On Her Birth Certificate

The Huffington Post | Tyler McCarthy | Posted 02.11.2014 | Parents

A Vancouver newborn has become the first child in British Columbia, Canada, to have three parents listed on an official birth certificate. Della Wo...

It's Never Too Late to Reconnect a Blended Family

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 04.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

"Other Mothers," keep your hearts open. Your job is a tough one and filled with pain. But continuing to open your heart to your children -- no matter how you define "your" -- is well worth the risk.

The Problem With "Having It All"

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 05.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

"Having it all" is a myth. "Having" is far too passive, far too effortless a verb for what it takes to combine career and family life. "All" suggests a sense of wholeness that in reality most parents who earn paychecks rarely experience. Instead, we live an ever-shifting, moment-by-moment dynamic.

Holiday Not Holidate: Free Yourself From the Calendar to Celebrate With Your Blended or Same-Sex Family

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 02.22.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

You may feel married to the calendar long after you're no longer married to your ex. As adults, we remember feelings and experiences more than calendar dates. With creativity and commitment, you can celebrate your own new traditions that don't depend on a number on the wall.

5 Tips for Managing the Logistics of Same-Sex Parenting of Blended Families

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 02.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Here are some ideas and examples from my dissolved and reconstituted same-sex-parents-headed family that can help parents in different households avoid feeling like one is "primary" and the other is, well, "other."

5 Things This Lesbian, Divorced, Remarried "Other Mother" Is Thankful for

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.26.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

In keeping with the holiday, I've thought about some things that I am thankful for - in my personal parenting circumstance and also in our community. What are your experiences this holiday season?

Why Are Gays and Lesbians Still Forced to Adopt Our Own Children?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

The time is now to extend presumptive parenthood to both members of a lesbian relationship when it can be shown that the child was planned, conceived and welcomed into an intact (even if struggling) relationship.

Mom, Is 'Gay' a Bad Word?

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 12.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

B-Man leans forward and whispers in my ear, "When we were writing '-ay' words on our spelling boards today, someone wrote 'gay' and circled it as their favorite word. But someone else said 'gay' was a bad word. But it isn't, right?"

5 Signs You're the 'Other' Mother

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother?

The Perils of Heterosexual Rights

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Since fighting to be included in the heteronormative model of marriage and then being steamrolled by the heteronormative model of divorce, I've been fighting these systems from the perspective of the "other" mother.

In Adoption and Same-Sex Parenting, Who Is the 'Primary' Mother?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Answering this for myself required taking an honest look at my own experience of two mothers, one adoptive, one biological. What makes a mother "primary"? What makes a mother real?

'Won't Somebody Please Think of the Children?!' NOM Continues to Peddle Hysteria

Sunny Bjerk | Posted 11.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Sunny Bjerk

Organizations such as the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) continue to claim that children with gay parents suffer severe emotional and mental abuse, even going so far as to argue that they are more likely to become child molesters than children raised by heterosexual parents.

'What Do You Call Your Moms?'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 10.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

This question is difficult, because it is both personal and political. This feels to me like the sophisticated version of the needling question "but which one is your real mom?" except of course this question, about who gets to be called "Mommy," is more legitimate.

Witnessing History, With Children

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 08.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

Even while I'm reassuring my son this is a win, doubt whispers, "Really? This is it? What's the catch?" My marriage rights have been toyed with so many times over the past nine years, it's hard to believe someone won't pop up yelling, "Ha! Just kidding!" and send us back to the ballot box to start the fight again.

On SCOTUS Watch, With Children

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 08.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

I consider following up with the words Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. famously used, "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice." But I suspect K-Bird's too young to understand that. Then again, maybe he isn't.