I was highly honored to have the opportunity to participate in the Midwest Regional Suicide Prevention Conference last week in Kansas City. There were many intimate discussions about what can be done to lessen the likelihood that people will choose to attempt to bring an end to their own lives.
When I first heard that professional eyebrows Cara Delevingne was on the cover of Vogue talking openly about her relationship with St. Vincent's Annie Clark, I thought, "Awesome! We need more queer cover girls!" Then I read it. And sighed a deep, painful sigh.
Standing in the shadows next to happy couples celebrating their love and marriage benefits is something no one wants to talk about: in establishing a legal foundation for marriages that last, the marriage equality movement also has laid a safe, clear, and legal path for those people like Tracie and me, who have decided to divorce.
I thank you Bea, for flying across the country into the cold, to help us protect our youths. I thank you for your compassionate heart and your noble spirit. I thank you for recognizing that LGBT youths are deserving of love, and speaking out for them.
When I read the hashtag #BlackLivesMatter, I do think of Mike Brown, Eric Garner and Tamir Rice. I also think of Penny Proud, London Chanel and Candra Keels. But I also think of Andre and the two other young queer people of color who been murdered in Pittsburgh in the past two years.
So, if inherent in the ruling is the underlying acceptance that everyone is equal under the law and that our relationships are legit, therefore there is no reason to hide our relationships or enable others to hide: This is the "new" gay-positive/post-bigoted America: The court has basically said so.
It isn't "treatment" to withhold food and water from a youth. It isn't treatment to beat a teenager. And nothing should ever be considered treatment that involves denial of medical care, solitary confinement, electric shocks or public humiliation. That's not therapeutic. That's child abuse.
Today is the official release date of Sinister Wisdom 97: Out Latina Lesbians. There are many things that are unique about this issue of Sinister Wisdom.
Friday night. I was waiting for my wife to come home with the pizza dinner and half watching the new season of True Detective. I casually cruised over to Facebook, certain everyone in the world was having a more exciting life than I. When I saw the message from the famed Loraine Hutchins, I knew immediately. I screwed up.
I support federal legislation to protect LGBT people at work and in public, of course. At the same time, I want time to take a deep breath and savor marriage equality before moving to the next national issue
We pat ourselves on the back for accepting "Real Women" and we say we "love" it, and yet, somehow, we continue to perpetuate the idea that seeing diverse women on TV is unique and not the norm -- not how it should be.
It was my blackness that I thought made it difficult to date in high school. So, when my first girlfriend kissed me at a party, I was blown away. I swear I heard angels singing and saw a light shining, because a burden I didn't even know I was carrying had suddenly been lifted.
Our ceremony looked like a wedding. It sounded like a wedding. It felt like a wedding. And it was... and wasn't. Despite having to check "single" on our tax returns and lie when one of us was in the hospital ("she's my sister"), we knew who we were: a married couple deserving legal rights.
As a Christian I wholeheartedly believe that God does not make mistakes and he would not have accidentally made millions of people (and animals) gay by chance. We are all who we are for a reason and no one should ever make you feel bad for that.
On Tuesday, a Tennessee retailer made headlines when he took the whole we-won't-bake-cakes-for-gay-weddings thing to the next level. In response to last week's Supreme Court marriage ruling, Jeff Amyx, owner of Amyx Hardware, taped a "No Gays Allowed" sign to his storefront window.
If you live in one of the 14 states that have to suddenly grant marriage licenses to same sex couples, you may be tightening your tie and singing Old Fashioned Wedding on your way to City Hall. I'd like to help you navigate a few of the issues you may face when you go to get your marriage license.