Maybe puberty only happens once physiologically, and maybe no matter how hard I try I can't make lyrics from Dashboard Confessional or The Spill Canvas resonate the way they did in 2006, but I do know that I am starting to see what it means to be a person of faith who takes ownership of what they believe.
It seems as though Judge Feldman allowed his own prejudices get in the way of his duties as a judicial officer. He showed his ignorance by making such comparisons and referring to homosexuality as a 'lifestyle choice.'
I'm writing today on behalf of my 6-year-old son. He has two moms. He doesn't know that his parents are somehow less than in the eyes of many including, apparently, some of you.
When any group of people is targeted for oppression, it is ultimately everyone's concern. We all, therefore, have a self interest in actively working to dismantle all the many forms of oppression, including heterosexism.
How do we know what we are vs. what we are becoming, what can change vs. what can't? The words from today's Eucharist do not offer hard and fast answers. They do, however, draw from the treasure trove of Christian tradition to speak to our universal condition:
After 28 years together Kim and Renate celebrated their legal marriage in the fall of 2013 and remain passionately thoughtful and engaged in questions of coming out, falling in love and helping couples move from the first blush, butterflies and excitement of a new relationship to the mutual respect, understanding and intimacy that grows after years of togetherness.
They weren't fired for lewd sex acts, for using their position as a pulpit to advocate, or for pursuing their students with nefarious purpose; rather, these two women's relationship reportedly came to light after the school received a copy of a mortgage application signed by the couple.
Brandiilyne had just updated her Facebook page to vent about a 20-page paper she had just been assigned in school. In fact, she was completely overwhelmed with back to school and her many other ventures. She was so busy in fact, that she almost missed the most important Facebook post of her life.
She is simply as God requires being honest, not bearing false witness. Coming out isn't about suddenly "becoming gay" -- it's about a change in others' awareness that you always have been gay. It doesn't change the fruits she has born and will continue to bear in ministry, which are gifts of the Spirit.
When lesbians and gay men and young unmarried people support same-sex marriage, what exactly are they supporting? An image of marriage? An illusion about marriage? A belief that it has something important to offer them in a distant future?
It's hard enough carving out a space for ourselves in a world that constantly marginalizes us and our very existence. And having strange men assume that we want to hear what they think of us when there are very few things we want less in the world just adds to the burden.
What does marriage mean to me and my wife? How is it different from what we imagined? How is it the same as what society presents about marriage? Can we live queerly in marriage? How? Why? Is marriage good for our sexuality? For our sex lives? Is marriage good for our sense of happiness? Or does it bring new layers of misery?
Diversity is a word I embrace and May in the Summer displays all its nuances in an engrossing and even affectionate manner.
We're not looking to have an elaborate wedding. Likely we'll show up, just the two of us, at a courthouse some 300 miles away. Imagine, my dear heterosexual friends, if this were you. I'm just going to guess you'd be a bit irritated.
The hoops that LGBT parents and families jump through to protect and assert our rights are consistent reminders that we remain on unequal footing with our straight peers.