Bonnie Kaye, M.Ed., is an internationally known author and counselor to straight women who are married to gay men. She also counsels closeted gay men on how honesty can help them and their female spouses. Here she answers my question.
Darkness filled the sky and night was upon me. Throughout my drive to the airport, I thought about the death of my grandmother. I was hurting.
The long-awaited Lesbian ID is now available to American citizens, undocumented residents, and loud if wealthy non-American visitors. To find out whether you are eligible to receive your Lesbian ID, consider the following questions.
As a young gay man in conservative southern Indiana, I had lots of reasons to argue that LGBTQ scholarships were indeed very necessary. I dreamed of going to college in NYC where I could express myself freely. However, with my mom's very low income the idea of affording college in NY seemed an impossible dream.
In the age of digital dating your online persona can make or break you. With as much as 70 percent of gay couples now meeting online, it's difficult to argue the importance of your online persona. Mountains of revealing personal information is available to any potential love interest with a just few simple keystrokes.
For my graduate research I interviewed "Bernie" and other lesbians about their lives in the 1940s, '50s, and '60s. Their stories have haunted me since. These stories, and the experiences of gay men, bisexuals, and transgender people told to me by friends and friends of friends, are woven throughout my first novel, Blackmail, My Love.
I held my boyfriend's hand the other day. I caught it and held it until we reached the main gates of University College Cork, as I usually do on campus, only this time I didn't let go after we'd passed through. We moved along the Western Road, toward Washington Street, and as we reached the innards of Cork City, something strange lingered over me.
I'm not the type of person who likes to keep secrets. I grew up in a house where secrets floated in the air at all times, and I never liked to keep track of who knew what. But when I realized at the age of sixteen that I was a lesbian, I suddenly had my own secret to keep track of.
There are many treatment options today for gay and lesbian family building, and sharing your plans with loved ones during the holidays can help muster their support and engage them in the process. Whatever your situation, here are some suggestions for those first conversations.
The increasing popularity of comic-book adaptations and the success of the Batman franchise have garnered the latest installment of Batman-oriented entertainment: the new show Gotham.
If my purpose is to create change, to help bring about the end of legalized discrimination against LGBT people, my actions should be such that they are effective at bringing about that change.
The Illinois General Assembly legalized same-sex marriage throughout the state in June, but individual cities have jurisdiction over other laws and policies that can be more or less inclusive of their lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender residents.
I know J. M. Barrie never intended Peter to be a girl, much less a lesbian. It was hardly a perfect fit then, but my childhood encounter with it remains a bright spot in my memory. Playing Peter was in many ways the beginning of my coming out process
What happens to a certain kind of codependent friendship when one member finds a significant other? Life Partners, the first film by Susanna Fogel, would like to answer that question. Instead it settles for sitcom setups and punchlines.
When you travel, sometimes it's not so much about the place you travel to but the people you meet. And sometimes the people you meet can be a little... out there.
I don't spend a lot of time with my family in general. I think the main reason is that I'm the crazy-progressive-political relative, but part of it is that I'm a lesbian -- one who doesn't blend and pass quietly as an unmarried lady with a lady roommate who happens to come along to family events. Few people are overtly rude, but the expectation that I not make waves is very strong.