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After six months of travel in Asia, I've gotten used to people trying to kick me out of the women's restroom thinking that I am a man. After I explain that there is no need to be alarmed, they usually respond apologetically. But there are also times when I'm met with genuine hostility.
"Heterosexism" is pervasive throughout society and each of us, irrespective of sexual or gender identity and expression, is at risk of its harmful effects on many levels.
My journey became our journey. After two surrogates, three egg donors, several reproductive endocrinologists, and a depleted life savings, our stunning, beloved Elizabeth was born.
Reading through the comments on Megan Evans' piece, "Femme Invisibility," I was struck by some that seemed downright angry that we should want or dare think we deserve to be recognized as lesbians.
While private companies like Chick-Fil-A have the right to support organizations and causes of their choice, should public tax-supported institutions such as universities maintain connections with those companies that expressly violate campus non-discrimination policies?
Deeply closeted, we did our best to disguise our relationship. That tension only contributed to what became an abusive situation. In my codependent state, I rationalized her private rage even as she threw things at me: it was my fault; I shouldn't have answered her that way.
Once upon a time, I tried not to date anyone shorter then me, not because I think any less of shorter women, but as a femme, I had it stuck in my head that my partner should and would be taller and bigger than me.
Bottom line, when it comes to symbolizing your love and commitment with a ring -- regardless of your reason -- pick a finger and don't be afraid to get some bling for that ring!
If asked to think of a lesbian, most people's thoughts drift to the stereotypical image of a butch lesbian. It may come as a surprise to some that this is not the only type of lesbian that exists, oh no -- there are some who are "femmes."
As the Republicans debate what island to ship the gays to, my girlfriend and I are debating what tablecloths to use at our wedding. But I've got some good news: planning a gay wedding in these semi-controversial times has some huge advantages.
Have you ever noticed that, any time a state legalizes same-sex marriage, numerous articles are published, featuring testimonials that there will be a huge gold rush and money falling from the skies?
My parents, once so concerned about Sophie's welfare, long ago realized that she is one blessed little girl. She has more family in her life, more people to love her and love on her, and more people to turn to than most girls her age.
If the right wing does use Cynthia Nixon's words as a way to attack our community, I don't think it will be any more vile than what they already do. They try to "cure" us and deny our civil rights no matter what the basis of our true selves.
Art, including television comedy, is meant to hold a mirror to society. While holding that mirror, Hollywood should give lesbians the fair and equal consideration they give gay men.
It's a question we still can't answer, because too many researchers just don't think to ask study participants about sexual orientation, and because there hasn't been much money put into research that specifically focuses on the LGBT community's health.
Books like The Freedom Maze remind us that it's a radical act to remember -- or imagine -- the past, which is all history is, and why it's so essential.
